When considering marriage, the most important thing is trust and not love. Love is a given if you are thinking about marriage. You have experienced all of the excitement of attraction and have a great sense of compatibility. You enjoy the company of your fiance and have decided that you do not mind facing them everyday for the rest of your life. You have traveled together and the chemisty is definitely there. You have "met the parents" and they have given you the stamp of approval. You have even thought about the nicety of having kids and raising a familly together.

Those good and nice feelings comprise love both physically, mentally, emotionally and socially. You have checked yes to the blocks to indicate that yeah, this is the "one." This is the girl or guy of my dreams and marriage is the next optimal and ultimate step in the relationship.

Consider this, however, can you trust the person to be there for you or are you always there for them. Life can be too cumbersome for you to be the go to person with all of the ideas and enough trust for the both of you.  A relationships without trust is a relationship that should not be headed to marriage no matter how well the two of you get along together.

A good indication, believe it or not, is a credit check. Some people think that credit checks are unfair and do not indicate a certain amount of trust level. Some people may say that they do not treat their mate as they would a merchant. Behaviors are not segmented according to who you are dealing with. If you have the propensity get credit and then to not pay your bills on time, means that you are not financially trustworthy. If you are not financially trustworthy with someone else's money why should you be trusted with the days and times of another's life.

Being a trustworthy person means that you are a responsible person. Responsible people get things done and they get things done on time as expected or promised. Responsibility is also important in a relationship and is neatly related to being trustworthy. It is a fact that most marriages break up over how the finances are handled. You need to go into a relationship aware of the other's credit worthiness and trustworthiness.

Also a trustworthy person would not break any promises to you such as being at a particular place at a particular time. He will know that he is responsible for being there as you requested and will not make any excuses. Only losers make excuses and who wants to be married to a loser regardless of how good the two of you relate to each other in the bedroom. Life goes on afterwards and you do not want to marry a person who is not trustworthy or who is not responsible.

Do not think that you can change a person or that after marriage by some miracle, all of a sudden the person will change the way that he have been living all of his life. If you marry the person who is untrustworthy, then you are buying into that life as well. When they say that marriage bring two people together to make one entity means that you have to adapt to his way of living. If he has not been paying bills on time while he was dating you, why would he start paying his bills on time now that another person is in his life for the long term?  He had a chance to make the miraculous change while the two of you were dating. Marriage only means that now the relationship is a legal entity and the two of you can not walk away from it without indebtedness to the other.

If is alright to be in love and to think that love changes things but in actuality, no one can change another person except himself. He must be aware of the problem and then accept the problem as changeable on his own. The only way that you can help a person change into trustworthy is to be the person you are and that should be enough for a change in trust issues. Do not let love lead you to a short term marriage when trust and love will get you there for the long term.