When Getting Back Together With Your Ex Boyfriend - Get A Comittment First

Janice had a real problem with her Ex Boyfriend.  In order to get back together with him she was going to have to make him understand that she needed a real committment from him this time.

Brad and Janice where caught in a cycle of an on again off again relationship.  Brad refused to committ to Janice, and had broken off their relationship 3 times now.  Janice was getting really frustrated with this and really resented calling Brad her boyfriend one day and then having to explain that they were no longer together the next day.

Janice took sometime to think about what she really wanted and what she needed from Brad in order to try to make things work one more time.  She decided that the best thing to do was to tackle the problem using a dual strategy.

First, Janice agreed to get back together with Brad one more time.  However, if he called it off again then she would wash her hands of the relationship and move on with her life.  She would end the cycle this time.

Second, Janice realized that she was a big part of the problem with the relationship.  Janice realized that she was probably moving the relationship along faster than Brad wanted.  She had stronger feelings than Brad and pushed for more in the relationship.  Brad would initially agree, but a few weeks later would pull away feeling pressured into something that he really wasn't comfortable with.

Janice decided to take a more passive role in the development of the relationship.  She would let Brad set the pace pace of the relationship and allow him to decide when he was ready for certain committments.  Her only rule was that he could not see other women while they were together.  

Janice invited Brad for coffee and she explained her solution to get back together with the understanding that Brad would take control of the pace of the relationship.  Brad was very interested in the conditions for getting back together.

Brad was the typical male.  He liked playing the part of the pursurer.  When Janice was setting the pace of the relationship he felt as if he was being dominated by his girlfriend, and perhaps feeling just a little suffocated too.

Janice immediately stopped doing some of the things that she would normally do in the past.  Janice stopped calling Brad.  She waited patiently for him to call her.  She allowed Brad to make the date suggestions first, and gave her input only if asked.

It took sometime for Janice to get used to the new way the relationship was shaping up. Initially they did not go on very many dates, and the dates were not as creative as she would have liked.

However, she did discover that the time they spent together was quality time and more meaningful for both of them. Brad felt more at ease with her and opened up more about his feelings for her. He had more appreciation for her and did not feel the need to take a break from the relationship.

Janice solved her problems with Brad by first deciding what she wanted. She wanted to be with Brad, and be his girlfriend. Next she took the time to figure out what Brad wanted out of the relationship too. By allowing Brad to have some of what he wanted out of the relationship she was able to get what she wanted... a serious comittment from Brad.

Because she was able to take account of both their needs in the relationship she was able to get back her ex boyfriend. Brad is now her boyfriend for good, because she was able to deliver a solution to the problem that worked for both of them.

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