No one has to describe how you feel when love fails. Losing love at one time or many times has happened to the best of us and to just about all of us. A disappointment in a child seeing the family crumble into bits like the crumbs  at the bottom of the toaster is seeing love fail when divorce happns. The awakening of a vibrant partner from a relationship that has been stagnated to the point of one or both of the two involved running away from each other quoting: "I have had it and I am not going to take it anymore! End of quote.

Failing out of love dramatically as just described is mostly played out like that at the movie studios. In real life, one of the partners in the relationship just stops calling or fades away until you can not seem to remember the familiar cell phone number without checking the phone contact list. Then you realize that the relationship must be over because it has been ions since the two of you called each other. Without communicating and talking with each other does not give love even a smidgen or half of a chance of being rekindled. So what do you do when you feel that you are at the bottom of the toaster with the crumbs and you don't have the nerve to scream that the end of the relationship is not what you ordered.

Unless you were lock sack and barrelled into the relationship and feels enormous heartache from seeing that love is failing, you can easily just say, whatever, and move on. But if this was thought to be the love of your life and you are left by the wayside with your thumb signalling for a taxi that is not coming, then you may need to do some serious thinking about how to get back on track.

The first thing you need to do when love fails is to take a reality check. Did you see the end of the relationship coming and were you just a little too uncomfortable trying to make something work that was becoming a strain on the both of you? There is this thing called chemistry that sparks between two people and sometimes the sparks last and sometimes the sparks flicker, flicker again and then finally sputters out. If you saw that love was failing in the relationship then moving on will be much easier for you.

On the other hand if you were sideswiped with a newcomer to the relationship and  thinking that everything was going okay then you may want to utter that scream. How could he have used and abused your love when all the time his attention was headed in another direction? You may want to take your frustrations out at the gym and lose a few pounds over that one and with each mile, let  the treadmill be your fortress and let the sweat be your emotional outlet. The best thing to do when you see that love is failing in the relationship is to bail out and be thankful that your emotions, time and energy were not further wasted on something that you were trying to make work that just was not happening.

When love fails, do not give up on meeting that special person and moving on to another relationship. Depending on your commitment to the previous relationship,  give yourself time to get yourself together. Do the the things that you have been putting off until a rainy day, like reading that latest New York Times best seller. Seriously, we all can stand to lose at least ten pounds because now it is all about you once again because love failed once again. Take a deep breath and love the universe again because it will always be there and just relax; content to be you again. Love may have failed but like Whitney Houston said in one of her popular songs: The greatest love of all is to love yourself. Which by the way is a rprerequisite to love. Love may have failed but you endured and now must move on and take control.