Marriages are unstable in America and prone to divorces because of a three word phrase, the pursuit of happiness.  Every American thinks that happiness is promised just by being a citizen of the United States of America.  The United States constitution has the written code that all Americans are free to pursue happiness.  Happiness is a national right and Americans are going to pursue what they are entitled to.

Also, Americans are going through tough economic times and chaotic finances are one of the first things that breaks a couple up.  Couples who are not in sync on how to handle the finances in the family and see that the finances are headed for bankruptcy will seek to separate or divorce because of the arguements.  Disagreements are expected in marriages, but when it is a regular occurrence, then it is time for the couple to break up or divorce. It is suggested that counselling be used as an option to try to save the marriage.  Most divorce laws in America states that the couple must stay separated for a year just to make sure that they are certain that a divorce is inevitable.

The American society believes that everyone should be able to pursue happiness.  Happiness more often than not depends on the relationship with the spouse.  The marriage vow is sacred in America however the legal system gives the couples a way out if things are not as they deemed it  should be.

Constant fights and disagreements do not support a good marriage and the best thing to do is to dissolve the marriage.  If children  is involved then the process will be a slower because one of the spouses will more often than not stay just for the children.

However, the presence of children is no longer an incentive  of a husband and a wife to stay together.  Psychologist are saying that the constant fighting around the children are not a good setting for their development socially.

The American way is to have fun and if better gets to be worse, then it is best to move on.The unhappy husband or wife may  meet someone else who can provide the happiness that everyone in America thinks that they deserve.

Other countries are having problems with family planning while America is having the task of keeping families together.   India and China are flooding the planet with a population of people.  China has now set a limit on the number of children that a couple can have in an effort to ease the population.  If a limit of the same magnitude was put on America concerning divorces, maybe the divorce rate will decrease.

 There are several ways that the propensity to divorce can be hindered.  Clergy are offering premarital counseling and couples are taking it on themselves to live together to sort of test the marriage out.  These live in situations that result in marriage usually do not last long.  Reports have not been done on this development of marriages after a sharing of housing, but the fact remains that these preplanned living arrangements do not always work out.

So what is America to do about the divorce rate that does not seem to be leveling off even with the preventative measures?  Couples are going to have to be more selective of their choice of mate.  Couples must do their own research to get the divorce rate down by trying to stay away from the issues that causes divorce. Couples have to do the research by listening to family member and friends about their impression of the man or woman they are about to marry.  Couples are going to have to evaluate themselves to see if they are ready for the rigors of marriage.

Couples should communicate well before they marry about their likes and dislikes.  Communication and listening is the key to keeping marriages together.  The fallacy in America however is that men and women do not alway communicate the same way.  Men tend not to listen as often and women tend to talk more than men, thus turning their listening mechanism off.

America and the pursuit of happiness keeps the divorce rate where it is unless more of these couples talk their situation over before the actual marriage.  Even though the marriage vows are sometimes spoken from the own text of the brides and the grooms, some of these words are not sincere enough to keep the pair together.

Alternative ways of keeping marriages together have not emerged to stop the divorce rate from skyrocketing.  It will be up to American couples to get their likes and dislikes, their shared interests, and finances together ahead of time to prevent a divorce in the future.

Couples are now entering marriages with the liklihood that a divorce will occur.  Maybe if the word was not used  so loosely and treated like a four letter word,  then the bailout of the bond would not be so easy.  The Hollywood people are known to get divorced quick because of their  fast lives and seeking of fast pleasures.  One would think that the mainstream Americans would make sure that their marriages does not end abruptly. 

Hollywood makes movies to emulate the American public.  It seems that the increased divorce rate is mirroring the divorces in Hollywood.  Should Americans go into marriage with expectations that the marriage will  not last.  Of course people do not purposely go into marriage with the thought that the marriage may not end.  But it is shameful when  couples go into marriage thinking that the first set of disagreements could very well end up in Divorce Court.

A foreigner visiting America concerned about the divorce rate should look in on Divorce Court and check out those proceedings.  Those proceedings will reveal that more often than not, the ego of one of the people outweighed the other.  The foreign visitor may find that one of the couples have been cheating.  The onlooker may find out that one of the couples are controlling the finances and controlling in other ways.  The visitor may find disagreement on the handling of the household finances.  The foreign onlooker may find that one of the couples is away from the family more often then usual.  The foreigner visiting America may find that one of the couples are not being trustworthy in  other ways.

In each one of these scenarios, you find that one of the couples were not working in agreement with the other.  Marriage is the bonding of two people.  Marriage was not meant to be one person relationship.  The word relationship means that  two people are together for a common goal of happiness when the bonding is marriage..  When there is not an even balance, then the relationship is headed for the divorce court.

Americans know that divorce is not a pretty word but it is a solution to either a stubborn person who refuses to change or to get counseling to make the relationship work.  America as part ot the western world have solutions for the rest of the world on issues like the economy, energy and education.  However, when it come to social relationships where the freedom to pursue happiness is concerned, it is a country of individuals who will seek their own solutions as they are directly involved in the relationship.

Marriages are prone to divorce because Americans like to be happy and happiness is promised in the  United States constitution.  Counseling and individual dedication with work towards keeping the marriage together is the only solution to reducing the divorce rate and keeping American marriages together.