Why Do Black Men Like White Women?
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You just read the title and figured you were going to come here and stumble upon the Holy Grail. Some people might think this is truly informative whereas some others might think it’s pure bishop (bishop aka not true fuss aka B.S.). Before I proceed, I must provide a public service announcement: don’t shoot the messenger. You might not like what I have to say, but the reality in which I (important that you understand that these opinions are based on my entourage’s experiences) live in has led me to these conclusions. So why do black men like Caucasian women?
Before I answer the question, I want to make sure that you fellow readers understand who I am and what my surroundings involved. I grew up in Haiti and then moved to Montreal, Canada at the age of 12. I lived in a suburban area that was about 25 minutes south of downtown Montreal. I went to a private school where blacks were a minority. Whenever I entertained a conversation with a black girl; for the most part the conversations all went the same way: they would make fun of me for my attire (let’s be real, I came from a third world country, I wasn’t exactly up to par fashion wise), talk loud for everyone to hear, be defensive, argumentative and extremely annoying. On the other hand, whenever I would talk to Caucasian girls, they were curious about my background, my accent, the things I had seen in Haiti and what not. Mind you, this all happened when I was 12, so the impacts on my life overall should have been minimal right?
Wrong. As I grew older and matured, I always had the image of the overly aggressive black woman in the back of my mind. Consequently, whenever I would entertain conversations with black women (remember, they are a minority the same way black men are a minority) and they would become loud and start to tease me just for fun, I would instantly shy away. However, if a Caucasian woman offered the same type of attitude, I was completely fine with it. And remember, there are far more Caucasian women in Montreal then there are black women. Therefore, I was evidently more exposed to blondes, brunettes and redheads them I was to a good old fashion black woman. Some of my friends went to all boys schools and had also heard that the black ladies had quite a bit of attitude; hence they shied away as well.
Invariably, if the black men kept their guard up whenever there were around black women, they completely dropped it whenever Caucasian women were around. And let’s be real, when men and women being to interact and that there is a mutual interest, well they start to see each other casually. People think that men perceive Caucasian women to be easy. Such is not the case; it’s more along the lines that we perceive them to in general be more easy going. Is the assessment fair? Of course not; especially when you realize that for most men, the perception comes from past adolescent experiences. But then again, if you’re a baseball player that’s passed the age of 30 and you’re having a career year, the assumption is that you’re on steroids. Certain labels you just cannot seem to shake, at times they stay with you forever.
My explanation might seem overly simplistic and some feel that I am using it as a cop out, but it’s actually as simple as that for a lot of men. That being said, it’s important that men out there understand that a woman’s race does not determine whether she will be forthcoming or not. Instead, take the time to see what she has to offer instead of profiling her. Hopefully those of you that read this might actually see yourselves in this and take the necessary steps to avoid falling into the perception/assumption game.
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I would like to hear your explanation on why a white guy(me) married a haitian women...either way good topic, found it to be intriguing.
Interrelations are intruiging subject but i think it is ok! I always thought that white men look for black women because they are hot and sizzling... Nice hub pal.
Thanks for the love Sham :o). I guess maybe to answer your question Rich, I might have to post write another hub for that one.
Very interesting...not what I expected, I have to say. I posted your link on my page and I've created my own hubpage. What have we started Shyne? :)
I guess we started a revolution of writing!
Nice information there Shyne, maybe it is really greener on the other side...
What about hispanics homie?
Funny you mentioned hispanics, because women generally love hispanics. They love the accent and smoothness. I might take a stab at them next time. Mind you, one of my boys told me to write about why white women like black men.
As a reply to Shyne post...
I, White woman, like black man cuz in general they tend to be more "relax" in life in general. Might be a cultural thing. And i also gotta admit they all got a hell of a ass following em all the time. :P
"However, if a Caucasian woman offered the same type of attitude, I was completely fine with it. " Why the double standerd Shyne? Im a black woman and have plenty of easy going, educated and delightful black woman as friends, including myself. On the other hand I've met defensive, negative and arrogant women from all nationalities and most of them (contrary to popular belief) were Caucasians in various enviornments. I would like to see you explain away my experience w/rude women in general especially white ones. Or will you just try to continue justify your preference? I personally love everyone in judge people/women by the content of their character and NOT the Color of their skin. Im not against interracial dating, you like who you like. Just dont go disrespecting a race of woman because of your preference based on a handful of experiences.
Which is exactly what I said in the last paragraph tru4life: "My explanation might seem overly simplistic and some feel that I am using it as a cop out, but it’s actually as simple as that for a lot of men. That being said, it’s important that men out there understand that a woman’s race does not determine whether she will be forthcoming or not. Instead, take the time to see what she has to offer instead of profiling her. Hopefully those of you that read this might actually see yourselves in this and take the necessary steps to avoid falling into the perception/assumption game".
Just because my lack of experience at the time once made me ignorant, does not mean that I still am.I do not judge based on race, color or creed; I have dated women with various backgrounds. The mere point I was trying to illustrate (which was lost on several people by the way) was the origin of the apprehension that some black men may have towards black women. My goal was not to justify, rather inform. If you disagree,that's fine and I respect your opinion.
I enjoyed reading your hub and truly I understand your point of view. I am black woman and not all black women are not hostile or profiling. It's the same with white women. There are some that don't always judge a book by it's cover. People are people and people should be with who ever they feel like being with regardless. I could go on with this but overall it was a very interesting hub.
Thanks for taking the time to read and comment dl53acy. I totally agree with oyu, not all black women are hostile, but sadly that was the impression I had when I was younger. I just thought that my experience might help some people understand the thought process of some black males.
Very interesting hub. Hailing from Houston, TX I know quite a lot about culture and would tend to agree with you, although that is not entirely the case down here in the South.
I feel what you're saying. Thanks for reading and leaving a comment mistywild.
Men are attracted to women who appeal to them; appealing in mind, body and spirit. That is the most basic force of attraction between the sexes - not the races.
I think you have hit on something real here. I enjoyed reading your article. Your information is solid and well written. Thanks!
Thanks for stopping by James
I think there is a tremendous amount of confusion and misinformation in the picture you have developed of Black Women. The character traits which you find unappealing are the traits that to me make them the most fascinating creatures on earth. Black women are built the way they are for reasons that can mostly be traced back to the black male.
As you stated in your post,
"However, if a Caucasian woman offered the same type of attitude, I was completely fine with it."
This would imply that the issues you have with black women have little to do with the action itself and more to do with your personal preference. This is fine and should be encouraged but to attempt to use stereotypical characteristics as the basis for your choices, I think is somewhat unfair.
I always thought skin colour wasn't really important that we as individuals would have to elaborate on why we date other people from other races.
I thought maybe we date people because of their personalities and common-interests. I guess I was wrong, I guess we're still being biased and making decisions on dating by someone's race and making a stereo-type of how they treat others and then stating the personality follows with a certain race.
Thanks for commenting SOBF. Keep in mind, I was merely giving my perspective as a teenager. My opinion has since changed; but that's how things seemed to me at the time. Oddly enough, several black men from the area where I live in share the same feelings. I won't pretend to have a universal answer for it all because that would be a lie, however certain experiences have a lasting impression; and the ones I had did just that.
Manda Rose - I have to agree with you 100%.
ShyneIV - I will agree with you on one point since agreement brings understanding. We are blessed with the ability to carry our life experiences with us throughout life. It tends paint our vision and direct our passions and that is completely understandable.
ShyneIV - Interesting hub. Thanks for sharing your point of view.
As a single, Caucasion woman I must tell you that I have received a good number of inquiries from black men on the dating websites in which my profile resides so your assessment of black men interested in Caucasion women seems to be fairly accurate.
Thanks again for sharing.
ShyneIV, I have had the same experiences with thug like men. I remember this thug asked me for my number, and when he heard me speak, he was like I talk like a white girl. Where I'm at, ghetto attitudes on a black woman is ideal for the men in my community; that attitude is what they are attracted to. I see black men dating white women who mimick the ghetto character of the black women. I think black me date white women because the media says that their skin color and hair texture is the definition of beauty. Black men constantly lie about why they date outside the race in order to not be seen as a sell out. you said a white woman with the same attitude would be ok for you. I know why, because she is white. I remeber when I was little, I dreamed of marrying a white man. When I watched my cartoons, white men where the gentlemen. When I watched the sitcomes and movies and t.v. commericals, the white men where always the hero's, the smart ones, the attractive one's, the successful one's. The media does a good job selling to us the messages they want us to believe
Thanks fpr your answer Tzaddik.
Real insightful; a lot of our thoughts and ideologies at times come from how things are portrayed in the media. I think of the movie Malcolm X, in which white is depicted as being good and almighty in the dictionnary but black is meant to be evil, disgraceful and dirty. Great point, Thanks!
Even though black women are hard with black men and white woen tend to like black men, eventually black men will have to stick with black women only in the future. Because every race love white women and they are becoming more rare because of low birth rate.Italians love blonde American, Saudis love them,Indians are mad crazy for white women, Chinese.So much competition.
But in the other hand Chinese/Asian women prefer white men or their own.Mexican and Latinos do the same. Not many Mexican women or men like to date Africans.
Talking about Tiger wood.I think he deserve his privacy and nobody will ever know the real reason of that suicidal/accident tentative.Many rich men realize that being billionaire doesn't guarantee happiness and a faithful wife.I hope this is not the reason why he tried to suicide himself.I know that many wealthy men would want to end their life,knowing their wife will not only live them for another men,but also take with her half of the billion with house and children.Same sad thing happen to Hulk hoggen,and others. 2009 is a very sad year for black role model.Lets just say,that the price of gold in wall street is pretty high and it pay to be a gold digger.
Carisolla says:
2 months ago
Lol, I never knew black men were frighten of their women...