About Men Cheating on Their Women
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Men cheat on their women for a variety of reasons of which there is not enough computer space to list. Therefore, the obvious anwer to why men cheat on their women will be answered in the spaced text provided. A recent book by Dr. Phil revealed that when a man looks at a woman, one of the first things that he thinks about is what a sexual experience would be like with her. The name of the book was Love Smart and the way the paragraph was written it would make most women understand the saying that most men can actually undress you with their eyes. If that is their major focus on meeting a woman, what is going to stop him from following through on this immediate assessment?
Most men cheat because some women do not leave anything to their imagination, not that such a thing would be necessary. If a man has made the assesment and have made the decision to make it a go, the only thing holding him back is if he is truly in love. Most men will look at an attractive woman and may not follow through on their imaginative escapades. The only block to cheating is if he is truly in love. If he has no real feelings for the woman in his life and thinks that he can get away with it, then he will more often than not follow through on his fantasy.
Each case, however, has to be taken and looked at closely depending on the personality of the man who may have the opportunity to cheat. There are myriad of opportunities out there and if his character is not one of loyalty and truth to the relationship, then he may have an affair or cheat. There is no real bond in the relationship if he feels that he can follow through on his fantasy with no regrets or with no remorse. If the news get back to the woman in the relationship, he will be in denial because he may have been sure that there was no way that the affair could have leaked out.
Men cheat because of the opportunity presented to them of promiscuous women and the mindset that they will not get caught. Also men cheat because there is no true or real bond in the relationship. If a man is truly in love , he will not cheat because of his love and allegiance to the woman in his life. He should feel a tinge of betrayal if he results to cheating and if he does, that does not mean that he is in love. The tinge of betrayal may just mean that he got caught cheating or having an affair.
The bottom line is that if a man is truly in love with the woman in his life, he will not cheat but will remain loyal to the relationship regardless of the temptations from other women or the propensity to get caught.
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This will require some kind of discussion because it's a 'broad'subject. Like you said, there are just too many reasons why men cheat. I think basically men have egos that need feeding, and women who don't realize this run into problems. A man who feels loved, appreciated and respected will likely be happier and therefore be faithful. There are no real guarantees though. But, that goes for women as well.
Linda I would say that you are right in this hub. I am married for twelve years and have never cheated. It is because I am still madly in love with my wife and utterly and completely respect her. Cheating is an unacceptable thing to do in my book. I mean, hey if you want to play around then divorce your spouse, then go fool around.
Miracles27, thank you for your comment.
IslandVoice, thank you for your comment. I agree with you that sometimes men do cheat because of the need to enhance their egos. But sometimes all of the things are in place like love, appreciation and respect and they still seem to fall into temptation. As we are both in agreement, there are too many reasons to try to answer the question. I am sure that there will be more commenters with other takes on the subject of men cheating on their women.
wesleycox, thank you for your comment.
Congratulations on twelve years of marriage and I hope for you many more years of being in a good relationship. The keywords in this article concerning men and their propensity to cheat is love and respect. You are the second commenter to enter the word respect as a reason for men not to cheat on their mates. I appreciate you for adding to this discussion.
Men cheat simply because they have no control over their sexuality and believe it makes them a *man*. Men love to conquer.
Notice if a man cheats is less worse than if a woman does? But now..that God is out of most peoples lives..even the new US coin..the In God We Trust..has been eliminated!
We are in the prophesy of leaving God and sexual immorality has taken over. Now..it's anything goes.
Women as much as men cheat..Besides..it takes a woman for the man to cheat..right!
DancingRedFeather, thank you for your comment. Your comments are accurate except I think that a lot of cheating was going on before they tampered with the coin. I also agree with you that sometimes men think that cheating is whats makes them a man.
Honestly, as a man, I agree that being truely in love is one of the main factors. I can honestly say that I've never cheated on anyone that I've been with. I feel that if I need to cheat, the relationship is not working and I need to get out of it before moving on to something else.
bloodnlatex, thank you for your comment and from a man's point of view. So if a man cheats, you are saying that the relationship is not working. Would you say that some men cheat just for the fun of it or were you speaking on a personal point of view?
bloodnlatex, thank you for your comment and from a man's point of view. So if a man cheats, you are saying that the relationship is not working. Would you say that some men cheat just for the fun of it or were you speaking on a personal point of view?
A man summed it up for me once,
"Because we can."
magdalene, thank you for your comment. How sad for the woman on the other side of that statement: "Because we can."
So what you are saying is that if a man is truly in love with a woman he will not cheat on her? I believe that also, but i have read so much online that also says men cheat because they arent happy so on so forth, so what is the truth of the matter? Will a man cheat if he truly truly loves a woman??
motherof3200920, thank you for your comment. A man who is truly in love is happy and content with the mate or partner that he chose as his one and only. If a man cheats he is not happy or there would be no need for him to be disloyalty to a relationship that is so important to his happiness.
Oh my goodness, this article is almost entirely not true.
“when a man looks at a woman, one of the first things that he thinks about is what a sexual experience would be like with her.”
Not true. Not even close.
“Most men cheat because some women do not leave anything to their imagination.”
Nope. Men cheat with or without imagination fulfilled.
“The only block to cheating is if he is truly in love.”
So not true. MANY men cheat while very much in love.
The “if a man is truly in love with the woman in his life” statement is a huge myth. Women need to stop beating themselves up if a man cheats on them.
The biggest reason men cheat is because they are simply seeking an experience that is DIFFERENT. Porn is THE biggest industry on the internet. If men (and many women, but mostly men) were not seeking something different sexually, then they’d find that one porn star and never look at anyone else. But we know that’s not the case. They have the experience and then they want another, not the same, a different scenario, a different person, whatever.
It has little or nothing to do with love or the lack thereof, or promiscuous/slutty women, or men not being able to control themselves if they feel they won’t get caught. None of these scenarios would happen if there wasn’t that magic ingredient – something DIFFERENT.
So, ladies, you can never become a different person. But you CAN change things sexually and physically, and you can grow as a person and become more intriguing, more interesting, more in love with your life
LetUsPonder, thank you for your response. Oh my goodness, your notion about cheating is so way off. A woman's most valuable commodity to give to show her love is herself. She does not want to share the one she loves while he continues to sow his oats thinking that variety is the spice of life.
As for the porn industry, the revenue is higher on the internet just as the number of Playboy magazines have probably increased under mattresses. There is not a report as to my knowledge of whether teenagers are scoping these porn films or not to make the revenue so high. However, a high rate of returns only means that more people are looking at these films and these people are not necessarily in love.
Couples do use these films to entice their intimacy and the girlfriend may even accept her boyfriend watching the film if she is confident in her love for him. Scoping these films is not a form of cheating unless the girlfriend emphatically told her boyfriend that she was offended if he watched that type of film. The mention of porn films is way off topic and suggests that maybe this happens to be one of your interests.
The writer of this comment reads like someone who likes to have fun with other women and still claim to be in love. The two scenarios do not mix. Infidelity in a relationship means that one person fell out of love even for just a moment and it is up to the betrayed to forgive.
Lindagoffigan, thank you for your response. Your first comment said my notion was way off, and then proceeded to describe how a WOMAN thinks. This article should be about how a man thinks and so I responded because that didn't seem to be the case.
When I wrote the comment, I was not referring to myself. As the writer and the studies did, I made generalizations that do not pertain to 100% of all men. From my observations of and discussions with men, a majority of men CAN be in love AND explore something different.
The point of mentioning porn was not because it's one of my interests, nor was it to explain its revenue. I mentioned it only to provide but one example of the appeal of something different. You could easily substitute instead of porn, lead Hollywood actors and actresses, popular music stars, and the like. People are fickle. The entertainment industry has proven again and again, right or wrong, how people IN GENERAL don't want to see the same faces (and the same bodies) again and again.
That was what I was trying to say; the one common element among all possible reasons for cheating is the element of experiencing something new or different. Even if someone cheats because he truly has fallen out of love, he still ALSO has that desire for something different. Writing about how a man thinks from the perspective of a woman just doesn't work. Women love it because it resonates with them, but it's usually not the reality.
LetUsPonder, thank you for your comment.
My position here on Hubpages is essentially to empower women so that they are not lost in illusionment of the media or their perception of love.
You have the right to your opinion about men wanting to experience sex with different women and still be in love. My perception here and warning to women is that if a man is still wanting someone different and he has told you that he is in love, then he is lying to have his cake and to eat it too.
Women should not be sweet talked into a love affair under the penchant of love if they are aware that the man may not be ready to commit to the relationship. A relationship is not a triange or a square of women with one man claiming to love one of them.
A true and real relationship is a commitment to one man to one woman to stay in a place of knowing that there are other women out there, but is pleased to know that they both have found the one.
Your idea of the element of men wanting to experience something new or different is thought for some to be the variety of life. These men, however, should not be in a meaningful relationship and will surely have to attest to some serious trust issue from women.
You are not including four valuable words in your explanation aside from experiencing something different that is needed in a real love relationship.
Those four words that are not mentioned in your explanation and women therefore does not constitute love are commitment, loyalty, respect and trust. Without those elements, the man in the relationship claiming to be in love and "experiencing something new or different" is just playing the field. Women call these men players and they are ready to commit to a real love relationship. Women, let these men play and have their fun, but if you are about more than fun and games, let him play but stay out of his playground.
Ok, now I understand. I agree with pretty much everything you just wrote.
I guess your readers can consider all my blabbing to be yet another reason that wasn't included in your original hub. Not THE reason, but another possibility.
LetusPonder, thank you for your comment and for having an open mind. It has been a privilege reading your take on, "About Men Cheating on Their Women."
Miracles27 says:
3 months ago
i believe men cheat on their woman beacause it might be sumthing where doing but it he still does it after a grace period .....DUMB HIM LIKE A BAD HABBIT