Why Do Women Use Manipulation To Win The Affections of a Man?
66When two people find true love with one another, it is indeed a wonderful thing. But what if the foundation of that love was built on deceit and manipulation? Is it really true love?
Most women want a man to fall in love with them because he is completely enthralled with them, because he believes the sun sets and rises on their beauty, because he can think of no other woman that he'd rather spend his time with. But there is a small percentage of women who want a man whether they want them or not. They will lie and scheme to make the man believe that he wants them.
Why would a woman go through all that trouble? Is it that she thinks highly of herself? Or is that she doesn't think enough of herself? I believe it's the latter. She doesn't think that a simple presentation of herself is enough to attract a man and hold his attention. Couple that with her desire to desperately gain the affections of a particular man and you have a dangerous combination.
The older I get, the more I realize just how manipulative women can be and it saddens me. What happened to the days where there was an unspoken rule that one friend didn't date the other friend's exboyfriend? Where are the days when women were content with allowing love to find them instead of going on an active hunt to find it themselves? And for Pete's sake, who said it was okay to try and manipulate a man into wanting to be with you?
Do these women think that men are so stupid that they will never see the truth? Do these women think that men don't have a heart that they will eventually follow? Do they really think that their relationship will stand the test of time if it doesn't have a solid foundation? Even if it takes men a decade to figure things out, they will eventually either follow their heart or figure out that they've been bamboozled.
True love begins with a solid, truthful foundation that started from an attraction and mutual respect of two people. The more they know about each other, the more the attraction and mutual respect grows until it blossoms into love; and true love, that soul mate kind of love, is the ultimate that everyone (somewhere deep inside) hopes to find.
So can someone please tell me why anyone would cheapen the journey to true love by manipulating, deceiving, and lying?
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Due to Desperation, a shady past, bad choices jus negativity in general......whew that was so wearing
Yeah, I'm wanting to marry a gal and buy her an engagement ring, yet she thinks that the way to hold my attention and love is by witholding sex. She's given me a taste of her goodies, that I see now was for another purpose I was backing out of. Now after I conceded, she now witholds all. Boy and some idiots say women do not manipulate men. Guys, if she's doing thins before you're married, just guess what you're in for later on. Yeah you got it right. I'm getting cold feet like I was standing on the tip of Antartica.
Rono - I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe she doesn't understand how much you love her and the commitment you're willing to make to her. I will hope for the best for the two of you.
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Morgan says:
6 months ago
google "master manipulators" you'll find a sight titled Born Liars, it has some really insightful views on manipulation. We all do it at some time or another...a little manipulating is ok, but to use manipulation soley; to achieve anything and everything in your life is detrimental not only to those being manipulated, but to the manipulator as well.
The only reason I can fathom as to why someone would delude themselves into believing a relationship based on lies manipulation would work is because sadly that's all that they know how to do.
They don't think that they are lying or manipulating. When you look into the head of a manipulator you find a lot of really disturbing thoughts. Like for example, they hate themselves so much they have to pretend to be something/one else just to go about thier day, to the point that all they can do is lie and try very hard to fit the mold of what they believe is a worthwhile person. Which makes it very hard to get through to them. They do not see people as equals, only as chalenges to hone thier skills of trickery, because the better they can trick you, the better they can trick themselves into believing that they are worthy. Their goals and aspirations are the only ones that exist.
On the bright side, they can't trick everyone all of the time. Eventually all the lies begin to unfold and their fragile web of manipulation starts to fall apart. In this instance, idealy, they realize the error of their ways and began the effort to be honest, and forthright. But sometimes it just leads to total isolation or beginning the game of manipulation over again with new victims.