When we date others and they decide we aren't 'the one,' we should try to understand that this person knows what he/she has decided their soul is looking for, and it is OK if it does not happen to be in us. That's a good thing to know ahead of time anyway! That does not mean that there is anything wrong with us or him. This person is simply trying to be honest with him/herself as well as with us.

We all have to understand that we do not gain our happiness from others. Happiness is only gained from knowing ourselves well, our own likes and our own dislikes. We should be less concerned about what others thinks of us. Our concern should always be about how WE really feel in any given situation. We need to trust our gut feelings.  We all need to do this more.  In relationships many of us tend to worry that it is WE who must fit into someone else's idea of the perfect person. When we hold these thoughts we are hiding our true identity behind the facade of who we 'think' they would like us to be. In reality, we would do ourselves and them a huge favor by simply being ourselves and looking to see if THEY are who WE really want to spend our time and energy on.

We need to love ourselves completely to show our true identity, who we are when we are not stressing about what others might think of us. If we pay attention to what gives us good and happy feelings, and then incorporate those things into our lives, that is how we will bring the love, joy, and true happiness into our lives.  What we desire will come to us if we can remain in our happy state of mind. Happiness is a sign of someone following their heart. There is nothing better than the energy that radiates from a person who knows what brings them joy and happiness, and who does the things that maintain those feelings. The best part is that noone knows us better than we do, so we just have to realize how things make us feel. The things that bring us joy...we just DO them, the things that bring us down...we avoid. We are all trying to find our way in life, and the best thing we can do is to find what makes us happy, what brings us joy, and what brings us peace, and really focus on those things. Each of us has to do that for ourselves. That's our work in this life. We are each following our own paths to our individual happiness, and noone else can do it for us.

Find what makes you happy first. Then, when you know how to be happy with yourself, you'll know how to find your perfect person.  You will not simply allow someone else to find you.  You're worth so much more than that, and both of you need to feel that happiness before you will have a succussful relationship.  Best Wishes = )