Women stay in abusive relationships for because the feel trapped with the  children and think that there is no where else to go for financial security. Women stay in abusive relationships because of low self esteem issues. Women also stay in abusive relationships because of religious or cultural upbringing depicting  divorce as an offense against their church. Whatever the reason for staying in abusive relationships,  these women must realize that love is not abusive.  A television talk show host once said of the the Rihanna abuse case; if abuse happens once it will happen again and again and again.

Women will stay in an abusive relationship because the majority of them think that it is only an affront to their wellbeing and have no other alternative from  relationship because of the children. These women have not done the research to find out that single women are raising children to be productive members of society. They continue to "take" the abuse because the least of the infraction to their personalities is to not have a financial foundation for their family. Women stay in abusive relationships also because because  of the intermittent nature of the abuse.

An abusive episode may occur and then in a few weeks the calm before another stormy abusive episode  comes around again. During this calm period, everything about the relationship is just fine and abused women may think that they have weathered another storm for the sake of the financial security of their children. It is during this calm period that these abusive women silently prepares for the next episode of an out of control temper or behavior of rage towards her being. During these calm periods, women of abuse needs to realize that another episode is coming and they should  seek anger management solutions for their spouse. Any step towards solving the problem that results in over apologizing for the offense and promises that it will not happen again is a step in the right direction.  Couples in abusive relationship should seek the counsel and advice of a professional   marriage counselor.

Women stay in abusive relationships because of low self esteem issues. After a  years of an abusive relationship or only a few days being an abused married victim, these women may surmise that they can not do any better. They may think that the partner they have is the best they can do and that they (at least)  have a family as a result of the relationship.

Women with low self esteem issues  continue to compensate for the out of control behavior of their spouses because they think that the man that they are with is the best  they can do. They think that it is better to suffer the abuse and then to be a part of an entity because of the calmer times afterwards. Women stay in relationships of abuse because they do not think that they deserve better.

The attitude of thinking that they do not deserve better because of low self esteem is apparent to the man in the relationship. He keeps up with the physical and emotional abuse because he knows that he will be forgiven with the level of self esteem  he is dealing with. Forgiveness in a situation like this needs to be considered  after getting the professional the advice of a marriage counselor. Women who takes the abuse because of low self esteem needs to obviously put themselves on a higher level of self favoritism.

The continual abuse is only reinforcing the low self esteem issues. A professional marriage counselor should be consulted immediately because of the dangers involved in such a relationship. Who is there to tell the abuser to stop the offensive actions if the person involved thinks that she is deserving of such actions? The scenario is comparable to a child being chastised by a parent. The child is being chastised because the parent is the authoritative figure. An adult relationship should not be on that level and the terms of the relationship needs to be equalized. Again, a professional marriage counselor can even the playing field for the woman of low self esteem who thinks that she has to stay in an abusive relationship.

Women stay in abusive relationships because of their religion. Most religions do not support divorces and most of these women think that they will be going against their church if they seek the remedy of divorce. In these situations, it is the strength of the woman's conviction to the church as to what she does about the relationship. However, if there is danger involved; every human being have the right to live in a safe home environment regardless of the religious connotations.

 Women who uses religion as their reason for staying in abusive relationships need to talk to their clergymen for advice. There has to be a stopping point to the abuse or the actions or negative behaviors of out of control tempers will continue to dangerous levels of repetition. Action has to be taken on the part of the  abused woman in the relationship for her protection and for the protection and safety of her children.

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