Why do men cheat on the ones who love them the most?
71I often wondered why is my husband cheating on me.
For so long I felt like these were just a couple of reasons why
- Was I not attractive enough?
- Did I not satisfy his every need?
TEN YEARS OF MARRIAGE- TEN YEARS OF CHEATING
One day I actually asked him why afterwe had been married for less than a month.
- He told me it's not you-I just can't control myself.
- He told me I was all he needed and he made a mistake.
- He told me he didn't know what he was thinking that he could not live without me.
- He told me she came on to him and it was her fault.
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Being only seventeen and wanting to be with the one I loved and adored I forgave him.
A year went by new baby in our life.
I guess this time with my best friend was
just a stress reliever as I was told later.
Three years go by new baby.I'm wondering is another stresser in his life.
So again I just let it go,he says he loves me and I am mistaken.
So what do you do then?
If I was smart , I should of ran,but not me there had to be a way to bring him back.
Yes there was he got tired of another great adventure he was on and wanted a safe place to land.
Another year gone by another child.
I am starting to hope that this stresser will not bring on yet another desire to stray- so far so good.
A total of nine years things are really looking good.
Only Best Friend # 2 is involved and confesses.
- Her comments were as follows:
- You never have time for him
- He loves what I do for him
- I have a friend and we share him so this just excites and intices him even more.
- He says hes lost the love for you he once had
Totally mistaken and blinded by almost reaching a ten year mark.
Babysitter we had for a year all along had been doing more than just taking care of the kids.
After all these years , why now?
- I have fallen in love with her she considers my needs.
- She is younger and I don't have to stare at stretch marks on her.
- She is willing to share me with another"his major fantasy"
- She does not have kids
- I just stopped loving you-I wonder did you ever.
So he found out the grass was not greener on the other side
Again I forgive
I have expectaions that
he maybe will live up to finally.
He dies six months later.
I mourn his passing only to be fooled again.
.
So why do men Cheat
- The excitement
- They are not capable of staying commited
- They have role models that trash their lives before they even have a chance to have them.
- They have possibly been sexually molested at a young age and feel like they are not good enough to have a stable relationship
- To much pressure they were never capable to handle.
- Their appitite is more than they expected
- Their weak
- They are so doped up they honestly did'nt mean for this to happen.
- Things are just to perfect for them in their current relationship.
- Your just not woman enough for them
- Your boobs are sagging and not what they want anymore."The once supple perky breast that fed his children with"
- You work to much and are never there so I was bored with you
- Your turning into your mother and it scares me.
- I want to stay young forever and being with you will not accomplish this.
- You have diffrent views for the future.
Just one persons view from the front row seat.
I am sure there are numerous more reasons and different ways to voice them.
Find the right one out there as I did the second time around and you will never have to worry again
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Because I loved him and I thought I could fix what was broken
It is person you love most hurts you most and the hardest part is you cannot stop loving him.
How true that is.
The hurt can be buried but not for long
You have a great tragedy in your life. Not all men are created equal and you should not judge a book by its cover. I know I have sold many books.
Sometimes life is a ball and other times it is hard ball.
Thank you for showing the hurt that has been given to you
Yes at one point I did have a tragedy and sometimes over the years I have had my moments and days of why me boo hoo...
I shake it off after I have vented and I am all better again.
Over the years I have kept sane through all of the not meant for television moments.
When my Grandmother was alive she was such a strong presence in my life.She taught me to be tough and throw away the baggage.
I have come a long way.Sometimes I let a door open only to have the bad feelings to escape.
It's when I see something that I am passionate about that I let the flood gates open and until I am able to close them I vent.
Not all men are like this just like all women are not.It was meant for the ones who do not careand the ones who abuse "sexually,mentally and physically.
Thank God your wife has a good loving and caring husband.-
Thank you for sharing such a personal time of your life with us. Sometimes just talking about it, especially in such a public way, can help someone else recognize tragedy, and avert it. Thank you again MoralsEthics1960.
Thank you for understanding.You are so kind
i'm very thouching what you write and happen in your life. i can't say more than that
Touching Hub! you are brave to share it here
I think u have to forget him and stop writing about it if that can bring u bad memories of the past
also not all men cheat on the ones they love I think ur title should be
The Wrong Guy
Your probably right aboout that .I;m getting better.Thanks for the advice
I know the feelings you wrote about and can understand what you went through. It is good that you were able to express it so openly...if only I can ever find the words. But some how it doesn't seem worth the time anymore.....
I am happy..am back to my true self again and have the hubs to console me.
I also had 3 children..and now have 7 grandchildren...and 1 great granddaughter..and a wonderful caring family and God is back in my life once again....
The man I lived with for the last 33 years had no religion and left me for a younger woman..so here I am....G-Ma :O) Great Hub
not all men cheat
its a honest point of view will sure make men think.but is the hypocrite of a society which forgives a squandering man and is less forgiving with a woman.
also the issue here is a baby sitter was exploited and women allow other girls to be exploited. that's sad
Just a heads up and I hope I did not take this wrong.
The Babysitter was almost 19 years on and I later found out pursued him as much as he pursued him.They both got into this equally.
Not all men are like this,I think it unfair that that he could never make a commitment like most true men can.There are a lot of men that God put on this earth .It's a shame that this can occur on either side.
When you marry it is unfair and tortuous to put someone you are suppose to hold so dear to your heat and love through this or more.God intended us to be together for life and not running around like a bunch of heathens being with who and whatever they can find.
I am really moved by your hub.You just ascertain whether he needs your love and care.Many men want to have fun with other women though they have love to their life partners.It is the change of body which makes them behave so.
http://vijayanths.blogspot.com/
This is an age old problem and I don't think it will ever change. I think the two main factors for why are this: 1) The instinct in males to "propagate the species" is still too strong to ignore, though many can. This leads us to want to mate with as many partners as possible. 2) Men do not feel the same way about sex that women do, and don't -in many cases- even think of it as cheating. To women, it's a deep, emotional, moving experience of "love making." To men, it's still just "having sex."
Interesting article. I'd love to see the flip side and have you write about "Why do women stay with cheating men?" Great stuff.
to: vijayanths
"many men want to have fun with other women though they have love to their life partners.It is the change of body which makes them behave so"
LIES - Change of body isn't to blame - it's the men. They want a "life partner" to take care of them and the house, and someone to go home to, but still want to slut around town.
GUYS LIKE YOU are the route of the problem between men and women. Women get cheated on my dirt-balls like you, then become mad, defensive, and YOU ruin it for everyone else.
GIRLS:
Be on the look out for these guys! If you want a relationship, be very careful who you have sex with. Don't just believe the words that come out of men's mouths. LOTS of them are married , like this loser vijayanths and just want to use you for body parts to have sex with.
Don't let them get away with it! ONly saying no can stop these pervs!
Not all men are like this some are a one woman man.You just found one that was not your soul mate
who cares about boys who needs them i dont
Never Generalize, the word some men, would be better.
highwaystar says:
2 years ago
Hey MoralEthics1960, a very personal issue here, but if you're open to change and comfortable with it, that's not necessarily a bad thing, perhaps you could use your anger to express and acknowledge your own needs...thanks for sharing.