Why do men cheat?

Men cheat on their women, not all the time and not all men but it happens regularly. In fact, I'm being honest here, I cheated on every girl I dated until I met the girl that I eventually married. Each one of the others I cheated on in at least some capacity. Most of the time is was just for a physical rush at the time, call it a one night stand. Why is it that I cheated?

I think a good example of what I will talk briefly about is found in the movie Love Actually. There is a character in that movie who own's a design business. He is happily married, at least as far as his wife is concerned. In fact I would say that he actually feels that his marriage is a happy one. He is contended with his wife and his family. However his secretary finds him desireable. She starts to flirt with him and tell him that he can have her anyway that he wants.

She is a younger very attractive woman, but I don't think that sex is the reason that he cheats, emotionally, on his wife. Really he cheats on his wife because this secretary treats him like he is the champion of her life.

As I said above I feel that he cheats because of the hero worship offered him by this young sexually desirable girl. She makes him feel like he is the greatest thing since sliced bread.

I have found, even in my own marriage, that time breads complacency. I have been married for a number of years and over the time each of us forgets those special things that made our partner desirable. At the very least we come to take them for granted. I would venture a guess that many instances of cheating are due to this.

This does not excuse the act but it does give it some reasoning. I do not condone the act of cheating. It has the potential to destroy relationships unless both parties are truly committed to working through the problem. At the very least the above is a reason that some men may cheat on their partners.

That said I know of a few men who cheat just because they like varied sexual relationship. You have to ask yourself if that is the case. If you are not alright with a relationship with multiple partners then maybe that man is not for you. If however, the hero stuff struck a chord and, you want to rebuild your relationship that may be a place to start.

I think that all men want to be treated like hero's and all women want to be treated like a princess. This lack of feeling speical is what causes many of the problems we see in relationships. It takes selfless giving to accomplish this.