Why do men cheat?
73Six Reasons Why Men Cheat
Why do men cheat? There are a number of reasons why.
One: Freedom. He has found another women, also called a mistress, to do what his wife won't do, or doesn't do well.
Two: Emotional support. He has found another women to make him feel attractive, sexy, smart. Often, a relationship becomes stale and boring, and the sense of excitment and anticipation that was originally there has waned. He has become bored with her, and wants to feel and be wanted by someone that wants him. The other woman is an expert in providing emotional support.
Three: Unmet Needs. The wife gives the 80%, but the other woman gives him the missing but strongly desired 20%. A man will likely cheat with someone that shares (or at least pretends) his views and his interests. Although the wife may have sacrificed, given him chidren, and given her best, that is the problem- she gave her best. Her best works for her, not me. Wives often will give their husbands what they want them to have, without ever considering if what you are giving me is what I want. Too often wives will kill their own marriages by failing to ask the husband what do YOU want?
Four: Ego. Men cheat to see if they still "got it". It is a thrill and a rush to know that a woman that is more attractive, sensual, conversant, and intellectually pleasing than the wife, is interested in them. To think that she wants to be my lover, is a huge ego boost.
Five: Revenge: Men will cheat when they feel that they have been wronged. It may be that the wife spends too much time at work, is too tired, or has a headache, or just "lays there". Men will cheat in order to exact revenge for either real or perceived violations to their emotional needs.
Six: Fear. Some men cheat becasue they fear the intimacy that a one on one relationship brings. Or, they cheat to keep from being hurt again. Having another woman around as a spare, just in case this relationship goes south, for some men, is standard operating procedure.
These are the top six reasons that men cheat. I am sure there are more, but I am also sure that the other reasons are a branch of one of these six.
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Are you insane?
by failing to ask the husband what do YOU want?
You actually think that the point of a wife is to give a man everything he wants???? Since when has a MAN given a wife 50% of what SHE wants?????
Marriage is supposed to be about YOU LOVE THE OTHER PERSON -
not that they are a SLAVE that has to do everything you want.
Men that cheat do so because they are unfaithful, untrustworthy, low-morals creeps.
I really hope that YOU are not married, you don't deserve a wife.
I don't understand why men cheat. We have been married for 25 years. Last year I found out he was cheating. I have been doing everything he wants. I dressed, acted talked, went hunting, fishing, camping. Everything he wanted. Now he is obviously in love. I mean HEAD OVER HEELS IN LOVE!!! He spends so much money on her it's crazy!!!!!! Takes her places, buys her things anything she wants!! Places and things HE says "we can't afford" but yet he does it for her. I don't understand. I don't get it? He tells me I'm beautiful, I'm very sexy, Blonde hair, blue eyes, I don't understand? I just don't undersatnd?
i dont understand why men always say that they will tell u if they are cheating but they never do that is a shame but a woman will why it that?
I just think they are sick men are pigs, no matter what you do for them or to them they still cheat! I have been married twice and both times I was cheated on. I give up I will never marry again thanks to them but I will still be happy no thanks to them.
People cheat because they are broken - end of story! They choose a partner and promise for better or worse. If you take a vow and you are a man/woman of your word and expect that from others than you need to respect yourself and abide by your own rules. It is BS that anyone believes it is something missing in the relationship (it is missing in you - the cheater) so you feel a need to break your promises, and you are righteous in lying and cheating and hurting other people? No! You Cheat because you - yourself alone are weak and broken! And if you are blaming other people you are just throwing a 2 year olds tantrum, grow up and take responsibility for your own life and the community and people around you. It is not all about you, and if you feel it is not working for you than you need to stand up and make it work or get out! Don't push your needs over the top of other human beings you are not the center of the universe, No One IS! Betraying and hurting others does not make you a better person, it hurts you, your wife/husband, your children (if you had children), your parents, your spouses parents, sisters, brothers too.
Why do men cheat or women? I haven't figured that out yest except that I agree with the last comment; a cheater is a very selfish and self centered person who only cares about themself. Question for everyone- Should you forgive the chearter and try to make it work or should you throw him out and start fresh? My boyfriend of 2 two years was cheating on me and wouldn't admit anything until the woman involved talked to me and him on the phone. I feel hurt and betrayed and ashamed that I would take him back. We haven't lived together and he wants to move in together now because of this. I really don't think I could do this; before he cheated I could.
Not all men who cheat are selfish. Some are just afraid to tell their partner that they already fallen out of love with them. Sometimes people make mistakes in getting married. For me, wahtever makes u happy go, if you are happier as single then be single if you really want to be married then face the facts, men cheat at one point or another but the bottomline is you stayed long enough to see him change and fall in love with you all over again.
I agree anybody who cheats on there partner has a problem within themself. They have no value or morals and dont care about anyone else's feelings.
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a man only knows his girl whenever they need something..whenever they feel something. women for men are just spare tire and they only know and remember us because they need something. he was never there..especially now..why do mean always hurt women who loves them..dont they feel lucky that we are loving them?
I certainly agree such men are good for nothing bastards who want to satisfy their own self esteem and ego regardless of what could the wife feel, think or would go through by such shitty cheap action.
Such men dont deserve dedicated wifes infact they r made for women who treat men as transits..........you know what i mean.
Why do men cheat? My dead husband started cheating almost nine years into our marriage. I knew something was wrong because he started blaming me for his bad luck. He was constantly on the internet,refusing to get off to answer my phone calls. Well to make a long story short he ended up getting dumped by her because all she really wanted was to make her ex jealous. But the saddest thing was I didn't leave him. No I beg him to stay and he did. Made my life a living hell. Wasted another 5 years with this pathetic asshole before life came to my rescue . He was killed in a car accident. I just wished that i had left him the previous decade.
I'm still quite naive with the whole dating system before anything becomes serious, but I recently was dating a guy and come to find out he is still in a relationship with his girlfriend when he distinctively made it clear they broke up long ago. He claimes he does not love her anymore and sees no future with her, he still wants to be "civil" with her since they've known each other for awhile and the fact that she still caters to him. I think the point here is it's just fun and games for him right and eventually he will go back to her. It just sucks that after finding out he is still with her, I realized I'm his mistress or who knows, one of mistresses and I absolutely feel guilty and ashamed about it.
I can understand why men cheats. Some women just stop caring. I mean men needs to feel like they have a purpose in the relationship. Provide, protect. When women stop letting the man be the man and when women stop fixing themselves up he will get bored and meet up with the other woman...and yes I 'am the other woman.
yes its true that a man will look to another woman if his current girlfriend or wife stops caring or fixing themselves up, but as the other woman u shouldnt be proud to be that because it lets him know what your true values are and what he did to her he will do to you
While it may sound childish and absolutely doesn't make any sense, men surely do cheat to see if they still "got it". I know within alot of groups of men, the pressure to live up to certain manly standars outshadows all common sense sometimes!
While it's totally silly, I woman would never know the pressures involved in being manly. I am way pass that but I remember the times and I'm glad those days are long gone.
I found out the day after my birthday that my boyfriend cheated on me a few months ago. Of course, I couldn't help but feel that the problem was with me. What did I do or not do? Was I not enough for him mentally, emotionally, physically, sexually? What did I..What did I...What did I? BS, it may have taken me sometime, but I now realize that the problem does not fall on us women. Don't get me wrong, there are times when the significant other can be at fault, but in the majority of the cases...it is the man....it is always the man. It took me a while, but I now see that yu have to be fulfilled and content with yourself before you can even decide to be in a serious relationship, and that is something that men do not do. They jump in relationships, promising us the world, and at times, yes, we are naive enough to think that this man will be able to do that for us. When a man cheats, that man is beyond broke..and it is not up to us to repair them.
i don't think any one should cheat either, i was cheated on by the mother of my kids, but i had did the same to her in which she got tired and got me good, i loss that relationship but not the kids which is great i' sorry i did it though and wish i could have just been faithful. but now i'm in another relationship for 3yrs now and i just started seeing someone else on the side and don't what it is that got me stuck now cause i'm older and no what needs to be done but it's still hard, i wish i could just tell my girl not loose her but just have fun at the same time but it's not possible because we live together now and, dam man but i'm not evil and i love my girl,, what do i do help
Let me be perfectly clear. I do not advocate, support, endorse or condone adultery in any form. If you make a mistake, be honest with your partner and let them know. Then take the steps to either reconcile, or let the relationship go. That is best for you and your partner. Some relationships can be strengthened afterwards, some can't. After the cheating, you literally have nothing to lose as the bond and trust has been broken. It is either time to build or break. I wish you well.
i can tell you why men cheat...men cheat because some women will want to do their own thing all the time, have things their way without compromise, wont be intimate unless they want to be intimate and also they expect the men to give give give and not get anything in return..i have not cheated on my girlfriend but i know i told her many times what makes me unhappy and she still insist about doin stuff her way..soo in turn i think thats the point men get to when they cheat...SOME, NOT ALL..look at it like that. women arent perfect they can be the cause too!
I have done everything my husband ever wanted. I am romantic, educated, attractive, fit, a wonderful mom and wife, and I have forgiven him for his infidelity. I cannot blame myself for his indescretions. He has to live with the guilt that he hurt me, he hurt our family, because when he cheated, he cheated on all of us, not just me. He made a promise to love and cherish and he failed. I have chosen to protect our children from knowing about his failure, they adore me and would be devistated if they knew he lied and cheated. I don't know where we will end up, but for now, it's about my children. He has no excuses for his behavior. He cheated. He has cheated more than once. He seems to be showing Godly sorrow and apologizes constantly. He gave me an STD. I have to live with the shame of his choices. He has to live with his guilt. He was selfish. He wanted more. I gave him more than most wives and it wasn't enough because he is selfish. He needs to learn to give back. He is a taker, a cheater, a liar, and he has to live with that. That's what a cheater is...a liar, a failure as a husband and a father, a weak self-serving psychopath with no care what so ever about who they hurt as long as they get thier sex. How weak, to be ruled by your penis. Guys need to step up and take commitment seriously, they need to read their bibles and realize that this sin can take them straight to hell. They need to appreciate what they have instead of thinking the grass is greener on the other side. They will never be happy if they are constantly searching for it and cheating and lying to get it. I didn't cause this, he is just selfish and self-serving. There are no "reasons" for men to cheat other than they have no self discipline, no self control, no respect for family, no respect for marriage, no respect for honesty or integrity and they only care about themselves. There's another word for it, psychopath. Look it up and read the symptoms. I love him, but I don't trust or respect him. I don't even know if this marriage will last.
I still dont see the reasoning behind a cheater. I am with a man right now that says he loves me dearly but behind my back had relations with hi baby moma. i decided to leave him but he begged for his forgiveness. i believe in my heart of all hearts he loves me i just dont see why he fuqed her. I satisfy him mentally physically and emotionally. i overheard him say to a friend he wanted to make sure he was doing the right thing by leaving her and being with me. so that gives him reason to test her out again?? like dont you know whut th pussy is like already??? im sick of cheating men.
Bc they're all selfish dogs. I prefer to be single forevr then ever take any man seriously
I think human beings are cheaters because sex is everywhere there are so many sexually deprived people who are willing to sleep with you its kind of sick in a way but I heard somewhere "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" in other word why be faithful in a marriage or relationship when there are so many willing parties its a sad sick world but its the truth
men cheat all the time there are no reasons just plane selfishness, i suppose, my husband cheated on me even before we were married and i didnt know about it till a week into our marraige, i threatned to leave but he begged me to stay saying it was over before the marraige took place well it never stoped, he kept seeeing her and even went on holiday with the other woman, i was such a fool and felt useless and dirty.
He has still not given up his wasys and still i know he cheats on me , the affairs he has our not one night stands but continuse realtionships with the woman of his choice, i am with him for my kids i feel a resposibility towards them i have tried to leave but i cant find the strenghth, but this has slowly eaten into me that i dont care anymore. I AM NOT SOME OLD BAG, i look good and i am young, he blames me for everything and when i tell him to move on he keeps telling me that i am to blame for what he dose!!
there are some good men out there. even know i was cheat on so meany times with my ex husband.. even the day we got married he left me in a hotel on the other side of town to go have sex with his ex wife. i just dont understand why men or even women cheat.. 3 sec of lust can get u std's and aids. i just dont understand~!
as a married woman with a few good male friends, what I see is that men cheat when their wives give them no emotional intimacy and use sex as a tool-if you cook, clean and grocery shop you can have sex otherwise go without. Men don't need to play games they need sexual women who love them. Women who have no sex drive need to exercise more and feel good about themselves so they can enjoy a full relationship. No sex=no marriage, just friendship that men can get anywhere with sex too. SMARTEN UP ladies and don't use your kids or housework as a way out of emotional commitment
as a married woman with a few good male friends, what I see is that men cheat when their wives give them no emotional intimacy and use sex as a tool-if you cook, clean and grocery shop you can have sex otherwise go without. Men don't need to play games they need sexual women who love them. Women who have no sex drive need to exercise more and feel good about themselves so they can enjoy a full relationship. No sex=no marriage, just friendship that men can get anywhere with sex too. SMARTEN UP ladies and don't use your kids or housework as a way out of emotional commitment
women need to know men love sex-if you won't do what they want they will find someone willing to do it. Women stop performng oral sex and making sex fun once the kids come so they go elsewhere. It isn't all that hard to understand. as a female I am always surprised when my female friends use sex as a weapon. women are supposed to enjoy it too. I don't understand frigid women who want sex to me missionary in the dark for three minutes-men want more
My Husband is a low life cheater he pretends that he doesn't but a woman does know these things you cheat on your wife you cheat on your family good buy to all you cheating bastards
my boyfriend and i going steady for 5 years and for 3 years we have a very wonderfull moments together one day i need to travel europe for job purposed and needs to leave him alone we both know the consequence that we will not see each other for 3 years were like to be married when i found out after 2 years that he is having another woman from the bar i feel so stupid because he is having a sweet message with the girl the he wrong send to me i was very upset and depress because i did my best to support him while im away and give my best to make him happy but he betrayed me in the end because i insulted him he feels im so high person that i can just dump him but the truth is he is the one who started everything to make our relationship ruin. i left our country again and start to work when he found out that im having an affair with the other men he told me not to get marry yet because he doesn't want me to cry again i dont know what is his purposed i need help?
a man who cheat is a sirus dog,dat is bein irresponsibl n selfishnes,4 hw lon wil he kip changing women if we are saying we cnt do anithn to dat,dnt they knw the world is nw sirusly fludded with aids n..men lern 2 hold ur hearts, u cnt finish us we are so many,tswharang dipelo latena
Debra says:
16 months ago
I think men cheat because they are SELFISH, because cheating is not something they do TO us, it is something they do FOR themselves. There is NO excuse for cheating. I think this article makes excuses/reasons for men to behave like pigs.