I guess allot of men are going to be pissed.

But as a changed man you've got to come clean.

I used to be a very "bad boy", and hung around with allot of "bad boys". So you know what they say.."birds of a feather..etc" When we used to hang out we never thought our actions had the potential to hurt anyone....but they did. Trust me, between being in college and the Navy, I've seen and have been involved in allot of motel/hotel activities. Me and my boys used to do some crazy stuff, but we were kids then. Some men don't grow out of that phase.

As for me? I cheated because I could, and could get away with it. I was young and had the "hunter" attitude- get as much as I could get. I never really got caught in the act. I only got suspected of it, but no evidence. Ladies if you think something is going on, it usually is. Always trust your gut. It's about access and availability. If a person is going to cheat they are going to find a way to do it, and its usually when their partner is at work. Men cheat for different reasons. It could be: temptation, boredom, lack of sex at home, not attracted to the woman, or just can't stand their wives.

Women often say "why don't he just leave then?" That's easy to answer, because he's go "in house p@$$%." He wants his cake and eat it to. He's afraid the grass isn't greener on the other side. So he'll always have you until you catch him. And honestly, sometimes its the woman that pushes a man away. You have to realize "you" women are emotional creatures, always complaining, crying, yelling- just too damn moody and complex. Men, on the other hand don't deal with female drama well. We just want to live at home in peace. We are logical thinkers and living with an emotional woman is far from logical, its an emotional soap opera.

I was just a dog and I didn't care who got hurt, but I got mine in the end. You just cant live recklessly and expect it not to come back and bit you in the ass. Remember for every action, there's a reaction. What you do in the dark will come to the light.

My cheating days came to an end a few years ago. Marcelina, whom I'm with now, showed me what forgiveness and unconditional love really meant. Basically I cheated on her with a psycho woman, and it cost me everything. I mean you wouldn't believe the hell I went through. I lost my home, car, job, belongings....everything. But I deserved it. It was God's way of teaching me a series of lessons.

Surprisingly Marcelina for gave me, and became my wife. She never yelled or threw the matter in my face. She let me go through it and learn from the mess I had made. I still look at her and think how blessed I am to have her still in my life, and we've been together for a while now.

Anyway I got my life in order and changed my doggish ways. Now a days if you think I'm cheating, you must be out of your damn mind! What I am saying is, a man has to learn, and grow up. As for me, I have been blessed to have learned from my mistakes and still come out of it alright. Play with fire too long and you will get burned.

Why do men cheat? Because their not men at all. They are just little boys being selfish.

Note to men:

Be grateful for the one you have at home. You might not be as lucky as me. You might loose that "one"

Ladies: things to look for.....

Constant moodiness

Avoiding sex

Coming home constantly late

Lying about where they've been

Making up crazy stories

Taking a shower after coming home

Always going to the club

Loss of money

Strange phone calls

Sudden change in appearance.

The best way to catch someone cheating is to let them think your somewhere else (example, like your work, its a routine) Go ahead take a day off!!

The poem "Nature of a strayed heart" is about my last cheat experience. Check it out!