Why We Should Not Be Always Available

All of us have experienced liking someone, though not all are lucky that they are receiving the same affection from the person they want. Most of us think, the way to make the person we desire love us more is for us to be always be there for them, well its wrong! The more we tried to be always available, the more that person we love will feel confident and they will never see your importance. That person will not feel they have to do something special for you to stay around and keep on doing what you keep on doing.

Yes its true we have to make that special someone feel special and secured, but there is always limitations, we have to make them feel also that they have to give us special attention, for them to get the attention they want from us.

I know someone from college, she has a lot of suitors, but she is not exclusive to any of those guys, she just want to make friends with all of them, for her its like collect and select. Since this is her case whenever she go to parties and needs a ride home she will just call any of her suitors and they will come immediately to drive her home, its like for those men ,whenever my friend call them its like its my friend who is giving them a favor, for those men it's an honor for them that my friend chose them to drive her home.

Years past and she finally met the man she love a lot, things has changed she is no longer as elusive as she was before, she is always there for her boyfriend, she treat him like her baby, so now the man feel so secured and doesn't feel the need to make my friend feel special. He even tell her that, he is thinking of seeing someone else.

We should always have limitation on how we show our love and affection to our love ones, We should always give importance on how we feel and if our special someone doesn't make us feel good anymore....tell it but never beg for his love and attention and if that person doesn't change or just ignore you, be firm.... stop seeing and calling him...by doing that you are telling that person that you can function without him/her, and you will not tolerate any disrespect and dishonesty...by doing this you will make your love one feel that you are confident and strong, these are the 2 factors that makes someone attractive... Do this and see how it work!!!

Remember you should not settle with a person who doesn't show you love and affection....if you do you will just hate yourself someday.