Women are not Obsessed with Penis Size!
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Why do men assume all women are obsessed with penis size? I simply don't understand it. Day in, day out, we are bombarded with emails trying to convince us that our men need Viagra or various penis enlargement creams, pills etc. Has nobody thought to ask women what they want and think?
Speaking from a womans' perspective, as long as the man can provide enough length/width that you know when it is in the 'appropriate location', I don't particularly need any more than that. In fact, it can be very uncomfortable if a man is too well 'equipped', and somewhat off-putting, even daunting!
The most important thing is that your man knows how to use what he has got to it's best advantage. Quality, not quantity will always be my motto.
Fair enough, I did once date a guy that I wasn't sure if it was 'there' or not, but he was an extreme example. Most of my male partners in life have been able to provide more than adequately with what God gave them, and I couldn't/wouldn't have asked for more.
A man who has too much to offer can become too much like 'hard work', and a nice cup of tea quickly becomes preferable to another bed breaking session in the boudoir.
The only people obsessed with penis size appear to be men, who seem to need their partner to tell them how big they are, and how they have never had anyone bigger. So what do us women tend to do? Well, we humour them and pat them on the head, telling them they are the biggest we have ever had and how fabulous it is, whilst all the time thinking that we don't really care so long as it does the job.
It is long overdue that men need to be told us women are more than happy with what is on offer providing it is large enough that we notice it, and not so small we can't find it in the dark.
In fact the only women I can imagine being obsessed with their man having to be extra well-endowed, are probably the ones who have had a particularly active sex life over the years, and maybe certain areas have 'stretched' more than is ideal. These women might need a bit more girth to ensure contact with the sides, but again, this is not normal, and the average guy will be able to satisfy most female partners without feeling the need to enlarge his organ beyond what is natural, be it with creams, pills or pumps.
Bigger is not necessarily better. If you love someone size is very unimportant and you are happy with a normal male member. Sexual relations are meant to be enjoyed with sensitivity and affection, not a tape measure!
Come on girls, step up to the plate and tell your men that you don't need or want a huge sexual organ, what you really want is one that fulfils your needs and is attached to a man who knows what to do with it!
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Misty,
This is a new direction for you! Your articles are usually on other subjects so I was surprised when I read this because sweet, little Misty has broken out!
I am so tired of hearing men talk about how important "it's" size is. I haven't had that much experience since I've been with only one man for the past 38 years, but a man's libido is certainly tied directly to his penis. Women generally would rather cuddle! But make no mistake; not this article or an act of God will change the way men feel about their manhood. It just simply is the way it is!
Of course it is not what length or width that is important, it is as you so apltly stated( can't use put it), it is in technique, the only trime you have t worry if it is too small or too big.
The reason we men are supposed to be "worried" or "Fascinated" about our siaze is the commercial aspect, there is money to be in that area. Just the same as womans mammaries, you woman were created and given certain statistics and attributes, be happy with them. Again commercial agencies play a big part.
Misty, Viagra does not affect the the length or change the width, it plays around with the length of time of an erection, and assists men with erictile dysfunctions in rising to the occasion. Has been linked to cardiac problems.
So all of us need to be satisfied with what you got, as long as your lumps fit my bumps and vice versa, then tha is what counts, so be ourrselves!
Well put Misty. (pardon the pun)!
Thanks Jewels, you think exactly the same as I do :)
Hi Madison, who told you I was sweet LOL :) I agree most women would rather cuddle, but men seem to think we want a 'big one' to be satisfied.
Hi Rodney. Just love the description of 'lumps fitting bumps', made me laugh out loud. Size has definitely become commercial, but moreso in the last 10 years or so. However, even before that Men seemed to need reassurance from their bed partner that they were 'well endowed', strange.....
Hi sixty, glad you liked it and I loved the pun :)
Apparently, women are not obsessed and men are obsessed with the fear that women are obsessed with this.
My opinion is this...
If you are a man who judges a woman by who she is and not her cup size, if you find yourself looking into her eyes before staring at her breasts, if you can say more than a mouthful is a waste and ACTUALLY mean it...then of course, penis size doesn't matter.
For the other 99.9% of you...I choke on small bones.
There is a saying "we see others as we see ourselves," that may apply here. I think that because men (some/most) have an obsession with breast size as a signifier of sexual desirability, and because size of a man in general (heigth and muscle size) is relevant in male vs. male competitiveness, the obsession with penis size is inevitable. Sort of a, "Since it matters to us, it must matter to you," sort of thing.
In addition, everyone knows women are (for the most part) kind and supportive. So, women will tolerate (not really that great a word, if you think about it) anything in the name of love. A thousand women can say that size doesn't matter, and guys will want to believe, and will believe... until one woman says otherwise. I've seen at least three movies that I can recall in which at the end of a break-up the angry woman makes some snide remark at the male character regarding his penis size (and can assume with reasonable certainty that the script writers did not invent this idea out of the ether), and I've seen many times myself women giggling gleefully at jokes or references to men being "hung like a horse or mule."
So, given the nature of competitiveness in a world where reality (in male biology and sensory modal neurology) are keyed to size oriented sexual cues, I suspect women have an uphill battle if they really want men (those who are worried anyway) to stop worrying about size. You can try, and should if your man is hung up on it (lol) but just remember, one remark from some other chick and all your work goes down the drain.
(LOL see Spryt'es comment as evidence. Misty, your article is undone. ROFL)
And Sprtye, I'm proud to say, I am one of those guys. I love what I call "aerodynamic" women, and fancy Keira Knightley above all other hawt chick celebrities atm, which annoys more than a few of my guy friends. lol
Damn! And I just bought a years supply of Extenze!
Ok, some of this is brought on by men by themselves, but women are not innocent in the misconception either. I actually think it's pretty funny to see the women here claiming innocence. It's true, that in real life, women are supportive and reassuring, but as Shades points out, they are quick to propagate the myth with jokes and innuendo. I personally have never worried about my size (I'm just average) but it was never an issue. And this is not just television, with the late night infomercials featuring attractive, large busted women talking about how much better sex is for them since their man "got bigger", with all their requisite giggling. Women really do enjoy this joke. Tell me it's not true.
I had a roomate who was very large, and he scared women. Plus, he could only get about half of it in, so I figured he was only getting half the pleasure. He had plenty of women who wanted to try it - to be sure - but he hurt many of them. Maybe that's why I was never worried - I saw how it was the other way. Sort of a "be careful what you wish for" sort of thing.
LOL Christoph, my team roping partner was like that. I was jealous just long enough to hear the stories, then I was very happy with how I'd been made.
Hi Misty,
Was your less well-endowed ex called Justin by any chance?
(Sorry, that was a very low pun, but I couldn't resist!)
These men, poor dears, are obsessed with length and girth, but I have to agree with you - it's not what you've got so much as what you do with it that counts.
Sorry for this, but you left the door open: So...he was ROPING with it?
CR, that really would give new meaning to rope tricks. LOL. Thanks, I needed that laugh.
Well, from what I heard, he probably could have. LOL
http://www.reuters.com/article/newsOne/idUSL229032
In some cases the perps were charged with just petty larceny and not grand larceny....
That must be what's going on here! (By the way, Spryte, do you have an RSS Penis News feed on your work computer or something?)
You know she does. How else would she know about that?
Have to say, that article describes the kind of crap that got people in trouble in Salem a few years back.
Talk about being obsessed with penis size!
Ok, had to share this.
There is a little boy and a little girl in the woods. The little girl asked the boy, "What is a penis?" The boy replied, "I don't know." At that time he hears his mum calling him for lunch. He goes home and eats his lunch. Then he sees his dad on the couch. He goes up to his dad and ask him, "What is a penis?" The dad whips his out and says to the boy, "This is a penis, as a matter of fact this is the perfect penis."The boy leaves to go find his friend and brings her to the woods. The girl again asks him what a penis is. He whips out his penis and says to her, "This is a penis, and if it was two inches smaller it would be the perfect penis!"Ouch! lol
Gwendy: Obviously, this is a true story that happened to you. I am sorry if I traumatized you but, you know, you asked.
Cute joke Gwen :)
Actually, being a businesswoman, I do keep RSS feeds on my computer. That one came up (so to speak) under the feed for "trends in downsizing."
Ok. THAT is hysterical!
CR, you promised not to tell anyone! Damn it, I should have known not to trust you with your show me yours and I'll show you mine game.
Sorry, Gwendy, it just sort of...popped out (rimshot!).
*grin*
It would be even more hysterical if it was true...
Hi Misty, thanks for sharing this, Size does not matter to women, thank goodness little jimmythec*** can breath easy now lol, this hub reminds me of the old saying "it's not the size of the package that matters it is the quality of the product" .......jimmy
I hate it when comments come up twice lol.....jimmy
Of course size does matters when it's the size of an elephants trunk...as some hubs are claiming men can have :) Then you run the other way...
I knew a guy once who was hung like a hamster. I felt very bad for him. And probably sort of bad for myself too.
He was a good looking guy, great personality...but...
No, I didn't have the heart to tell him the truth. Did it matter? Damn straight it mattered! We're talking EXTREMELY small. Never mind the whole "is it in"...we're talking "wtf is that?"
ROFLMAO! Excellent topic Cindy :D Is there really any adult with some kind of sexual life that still thinks size matters? I really doubt so. But the amount of spam on the matter I receive makes me doubting my doubt :D
I think size matters, if not why are we always asking our girlfriends "so... was it big or small?" or "have you tried a black one?, they suppose to be enormous!" Whether it makes a difference or not is debatable, but then it makes a great subject of conversation to go along with a glass of wine in a lazy afternoon ;-)
LOL everyone, thanks so much for all the great comments, far too many to answer individually. To generalise, yes, women will get together and giggle with their friends about blokes they have heard are 'hung like a donkey', but I bet none of them really, honestly want to experience utilising such a large member due to it being painful and scary.
Amanda, actually the less than well endowed ex of mine was called Alan, and in his case it was truly only a couple of inches long, so hardly worth bothering with. Needless to say I dumped him fairly quickly, especially when he turned up on my doorstep drunk one night and expected to move in with me there and then. I couldn't have faced 'that' for the rest of my life.
Christoph, so all that stuff Gwendy told me about you lassoing her with yours wasn't true then??? If it was true no wonder she was running away.
Hi Princessa, I think size only matters if it is drastically under or oversized. The reason girls have a giggle about it together is because it is more or less expected of them by their friends, and I too have had amusing conversations like this with my mates, which doesn't mean I want to try an extra large one out personally. It does make a good conversation over a glass of wine with female friends, but honestly, do you really want to experience a member that brings tears to your eyes, and where is the fun in that anyway??? :) :) :)
Misty - Painful I agree. Scary? I've never been frightened by a penis in my life. LOL!
LOL Spryte, does nothing scare you???? Even I might arm myself with a large Mr Bunny and say 'Well see how you like it first big boy and then I might consider it!!!'
LOL, I must join spryte's club... I have not yet been scared by one either :) But then, I have not yet found the drastically oversized.
*falls over laughing*
Now THAT sounds worthy of a picture Misty...and if I were a wine drinker, I would be sitting with the two of you (Misty & Princessa) now comparing notes I'm sure!
I have managed to avoid any too oversized so far Princessa, and I am a definite advocate of Mr Average as being the way to go :)
Who's going to volunteer to pose for the photo, guys, anyone......?
Spryte: do not forget to bring the cheese, I get hungry when I drink wine...
Misty: It is really a matter of perspective, choosing the right position Mr. Average can became Mr. Big and vice versa. LOL
I would but you'd need a wide angle lens the likes of which only movie studios and fancy high-end college astronomy labs can afford, so, you'll need someone else.
My preferred perspective for an extra large one is from about about 30 metres away, no matter what the position :)
Princessa - I'll cover the cheese, fruit and crusty loaf of bread :)
I think Shades should be there anyway. He likes Kiera Knightly...so he's acceptable.
Yes, Shades should be there too as he is one of the girls to all intents and purposes, (that is a compliment BTW Shades). :)
I need help on the Little Timmy hub...please?
spryte: Great! Ready to compare notes... I have a friend who makes films so I might be able to provide the wide angle lens for shades. Maybe we convince Misty to be a bit more adventurous ;-)
I have been reading it with interest but haven't been sure what I could say to help, let me see if I can find anything on the Internet that will be useful. Be there soon.
I'm happy to be considered "one of the girls." Does this by any chance give me access to the locker room and showers?
Nice try Shades :)
Thanks guys :)
No worries, I just hope he actually reads the articles linked on your hub, as they do prove your argument beyond any doubt :) Let's hope everyone will soon all be friends again at least. :)
Now I've found the happy place!
I'm with Shades, I like Kera Nightly as well!
AG, You only say that because you want to be there when the photo's get taken, are you going to volunteer to pose for them though??
Misty, if I was to pose for any photos the photographer and everyone would be RATFLTT'SO. and I mean laughing :-[)
They might be if Mr Bunny was also in the photo with you Ag :)
Just thought you guys might enjoy this, he is my favorite comedian.
LOL Gwendy, I have heard it before, but not for a long while, and it was well worth hearing again :)
Misty I thought Mr Bunny had gone to God, has he had a miraculous reincarnation.
if so count me in?
Gwendy, very funny, I particularly like the stage assistants,very upright individuals??
Hey Ag, go back 24 comments and see what your involvement with Mr Bunny will be in the photos before you agree to it.
Mr Bunny was carefully glued back together lovingly by Spryte. He is a bit more rough around the edges than he was before, but still fully functioning :)
misty on second thoughts I will reconsider, I was thinking more of a group photo.
Thought you might :) LOL
misty sorry I have to go I'm doing an adult education class today.
Behave yourself while I'm gone Mr Bunny sees all!
See you later AG, you behave too :)
That's just great. Shades says he likes Kiera Knightly like he is some great small-breasted woman crusader, and ya'll invite him to an orgy! You've been had. ALL guys like Kiera Knightly! Gee-sus Christ.
Gwendy: That song is great. What makes it so good is he can really sing!
Misty: Of course, you realise how the comments in here have completely disproven your theory. Y'all went into the penis-size giggling girlie mode at the drop of a hat, and yet you contend that men are unprovoked in being "hung up" on their penis size. Tsk, tsk.
Men beat on their chests, we giggle. That's how nature intended it. Doesn't mean penis size matters so much as we are following the natural order and not throwing the Universe off balance.
Misty, I think you spoke well for us all. Excess of anything is usually bad, that includes penises. Peni? I'm referring to size, not quantity.
I have8 inches long penis....lol doesnt matter...?
Well most of the grl frnds do as hard n rough inststead of size...! I think
I also giggle when they try to dance like strippers...
Tsk - Now look at what this hub has dragged in Misty. Men who need reassurance and some help with their spelling.
I also giggle when they try to be a stripper, but what is even fi=unnier is the hands on hips helicopter move, that's just funny stuff!
U r realy crazy.....
Your a sick man Shades, a sick sick man, good thing for you I am into sick men. ;)
R u agreed with the penis size....gwendymom ?
Gwendy always agrees with penis size. She learned a long time ago there was no point in arguing with a dimension, much less an inert piece of flesh prone to moments of turgidity, so she moved on to arguing and agreeing with more interactive stuff like hamsters, gold fish and the occasional person. Thanks for asking though joula_vegh.
roflmao, Your the best Shades.
I used to be a Naive young man raised well by my mother not to worry about my size and all of that, right up until I heard some females discussing the size of one of their newborns winkie's. Suddenly it hit me, Why in the world would that come up, if it wasn't important.
While a woman may not give to dimes about their husband/boyfriend. They care the world about their children.
I realized then and there Be very wary of anything women tell you especially about size. LOL.
TMG - This is true. Tomorrow I could suddenly decide to say it doesn't matter! Maddening, isn't it? :)
A couple of definitions with apologies to various authors (Shakespeare, Orwell)
6" As you like it
8" a midsummer night's dream
5" & 10" Man and Superman
4" Much ado about nothing
BTW I love all woman irrespective of their bra size. They just need great eyes and a wonderful personality.
Great definitions Sixty!
Sorry Misty, I think we got at cross purpose earlier. I meant Justin as in 'just in' !!
LOL, great comments as usual. Don't worry Amanda, I knew what you meant.
Gwendy, that helicopter move is really funny to watch, all groin grinding stuff that is meant to impress us. I am afraid if a man did that in the bedroom I would fall out of bed laughing.
Shades, you should do a hub on my men aren't obsessed with boob size based on your comments. That would be amusing.
TMG, I am guessing the reason your female friends were commenting on the size of their babies winkies was because they knew that in later life the adult man would feel more secure about having a big one, rather than the women he then dated being bothered one way or the other :)
Christoph, yes we do giggle about it at the drop of a hat, but not because we want to experience a massive schlong, but because it is a topic that is naughty and funny and we know how much men are obsessed with it. After all, would you like to be the object of being giggled at because you had a huge one?? Most men hate to be laughed at and would rather the women said 'oooohhhhh, Darling, you are perfect'. I like to think of it as the Goldilocks and the three bears story, the one bed was 'too hard', the second bed was 'too soft' and the third bed was 'just right'. LOL :)
Spryte, LOL re-the spelling comment. You know what they say makes you go blind? Well perhaps they can't see properly to type because of it.
sixty, I guess that is how we feel about men, only without the concern over a bra size :)
Doh! :(
im not either
im not either
Pleased to hear it jamie :)
Misty the last comment was for you and all the wonderful gals on hubpages!
Awwww, shucks, (blushes) thanks sixty, makes me feel guilty about including you in my Worst Santa Hub now, (blatant hint to go and take a look for yourself) :)
good read. It isn't the size of the ship, it is the motion in the oceon lol
Love that expression GoodRead, thanks for posting it :)
It really doesn't matter what size it is as long as he can get it up, keep it up, poke it in and last long enough for both to cum. Oh yeah...being in love with them also helps.
one last thing..... there is nothing worse then a selfish lover!!!!!
Thanks Misty Snow. all good points well made :)
Sure we are obsessed with penis size! Are we looking for men with a penis you can only find with a magnifying glass? If that's the case he must be F* good with other body parts ;) Fun hub Misty:)
Hi Lazur, Yes, but we want one that is not drastically under or over sized. Just right or normal, is good. Thanks for popping in. :)
LOL LOL LOL, this was a belly-buster. I like your reference to the bed-breaking scenario, for reasons I cannot and will not disclose here LOL,,,,
@Gwendy, loved the joke!
Thanks again Misty, great fun!
Thanks Trish, I am now seriously wondering about your experiences of the 'bed breaking scenario'. If you are able to enlighten us please do :)
LOL, let's just say it was a 'vigorous' encounter and leave it at that :)
LOL again, I have this problem with my Hubby and our new bed. The pine supports keep giving way, so we wake up in the morning with half the mattress on the floor and have to virtually reassemble the bed each day :)
Great job and a good perspective. Good for you.
Thanks Candace, glad you agree LOL :) :)
Nice try Misty! LOL, and just why do the pine supports give way, huh? :)
Believe me, it doesn't take much in our case Trish, but it can be quite amusing all the same :)
Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!!!
LOL imadork, thanks for commenting :)
you had a point and a great sense of humour but there is something more and something less it cannot be discussed though
if some one is contented let them be if some one is happy goodnews if someone enjoys then they neednt tell everyone
dejected is the majority (they whisper) and they envy the minority (they grumble)
the haves and the have nots
Thanks Tinyteddy, great comment and glad you enjoyed this hub :) :)
I asked my girlfried - do you want to enlarge my penis? And she said - no, it is big enought. A few months later (I was abroad) she was impresed with my new size :)
How to perform penis enlargement?
IT is what IT is.....most of the time....average.
Thsi hub popped up being a relavant hub - and it is in fact perfect,a womens perspective on the evry issue I just finished writing about, so i set you as a permalink.
heres my version of a pingback
"One writer here on Hubpages addressed this very issue from a womens perspective in her article " Women are not obsessed with Penis Size(thats usually the link)""
- Great writing! You will give many a male a boost of confidence!
Hey, thanks Sunforged, I do hope this does boost every males confidence as it is so true :)
I had a nightmareish experience regarding size that happened when I was married to my first wife. The wink-wink, embarrass your newly-married little sister time came and my wife's brother said, "If you advice on positions or how to make love to a well-endowed man all you have to do is ask." Of course that got a lot of chuckles and guffaws -the room was filled with all these new in-laws that I didn't know. My then wife waited until the room was quite and with no humor in her eyes said "I'll never have to worry about that. My husband is the smallest I've ever seen. I was young and I was extremely hurt. For years after I worried about whether I would or could satisfy her. I constantly tried to vary our experience, make our romance alive and treat her like a princess but to no avail. That marriage lasted 20 years and it wasn't until I met my current wife that I could feel good about myself. You guys really make me feel good when I hear that I was stupid to feel inadaquate in the first place. Being grown up is so nice. Loveyo all.
Hi 'Her Guy', I am so sorry your first Wife made you feel ike this, esepcially as there really is no need for it to be a big deal and women for the most part, really don't care one way or the other. It is what you 'DO' with it that matters, not how big it is. Sounds like you have the right woman now :)
Misty, you never cease to amaze me! Bold and Beautiful!
I get a kick out of the women that stare and smile when they see by big hands and big feet. They ask me if it is true what people say about big hands and big feet and I tell them there is only one way to find out! :)
Thanks Logic, pleased to approve :)
Well,women tell me all they have in the way of sensitivity is one square centimeter up front up top. All the rest,as one woman put it,is window dressing.Sure some women and girls like it big,and some men like to talk about it(some women,too),but its' not something we readily see and its' nothing to worry about.
When I was a kid,I thought "maybe I'll get a girl with a small fit" I did. But importantly that first wife said she didn't want anything bigger.
I no longer have any anxiety over it. Its' given me thousands of hours of pleasure and a child.
The women I've been with don't notice anything.(did you know you don't even have to put it in to elicit pleasure).One girlfriend seemed baffled when I told her some self depreciating humor about my size. She didn't get it. (the joke,that is)
I did date one woman who did talk about size.But she had been married young to two "big" men and had some crazy ideas anyway,but she said I was enough and used it well.
Go on line and look up the statistics for penis size,you'll be surprised.I'm even bigger than most guys.
Great detailed comment and explanation guitorman. The "one square centimeter up front up top." quote is very accurate and I totally agree. Also, if it makes a child it has done as nature intended. Women really don't mind unless they are a little "programmed" by what they read whilst still inexperienced.
Couldn't agree more! Was this "myth" started by a man or woman I wonder...
LOL, my guess it was started by a "well endowed man" in order for his manhood to make him more successful with women Aqua :)
My wife wished me to have bigger penis. And I understood her because my penile size was only 5.3". After I had enlarged my penis on one inch by extagen she said that this new size was ideal for her.
Jewels says:
14 months ago
Isn't it part of the mating ritual that a man be better endowed than his rival? Maybe men can enlighten us on that one. Experientially it's a matter of quality than quantity for me. Best a man know how to please his woman, than assuming a lengthy appendage is going to fix everything!