Writing your own wedding vows - why should you bother?

Having personalised wedding vows enables you to break away from the typical wording and bring some thing different to your wedding. Your wedding ceremony's main section, the bit all the guests look forward to is the exchanging of your wedding vows. It's also the most emotional part of the service as this is time where you look lovingly into your partners eyes and block out the world around you. By writing your own wedding vows it gives you an opportunity to emphasise your friendship, the meaningful moments that you've already experienced and your dreams for your future together.

Your guests also really pay attention when your wedding vows are being exchanged, for them it is that "ahhh" moment for them the sharing of the wedding vows is what the wedding ceremony is all about.

Civil Wedding Vows

If you choose to have a civil wedding ceremony you will probably be given a choice in your statutory vows, each with have the same meaning and are legal. Each will be slightly longer so you can choose whether you want to spend 30 seconds exchanging your wedding vows or 5 minutes.

Once you have fulfilled the legal obligation of your statutory wedding vows you will be able to add your personalised wedding vows.

Writing Wedding Vows - Top Tips

• When you're writing your own wedding vows keep your guests in mind, they're a public declaration of your love.While they should be meaningful to you and your partner, your guests should be able to understand and be able to relate to what you are talking about.

• If you're wedding vows are long your guests will switch off and you might actually forget parts of them.

• Marriage isn't always easy so your wedding vows should include a promise to deal with change together positively.

• Because there are restrictions on what can and can't be said in your own wedding vows take the time to discuss them with the person conducting the ceremony to make sure there won't be any problems on the day.

• If your wedding vows are long write them down on small cards, you make think you have memorised them perfectly but stood in front of lots of friends and family on the most emotional day of your life will do things to your memory.

• If you're nervous about speaking in public you may want to rush through your wedding vows to get them over with, take a breath and speak slowly and clearly.

I was inspired by the comment Hiliary left:

"My husband and I wrote our own wedding vows, I didn't have many problems writing mine but my husband really struggled. Maybe it's the fact that women can usually share their feeling more easily."

So I thought I'd pose it as a question, do you think Hilary is right? Are women able to share their feeling more easily and do this influence their ability to write their own wedding vows?

Feel free to leave your opinons below.

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