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By Sue Adams


The story A Violent Marriage is about a deep relationship tainted with domestic violence. Perhaps it can serve as a warning to those who might be heading in a similar direction. This is the second and last part of the story. The first episode can be found here: A Violent Marriage - part 1



the nurse said in a brushing off tone of voice. Yes, thought Anna, these people live with life and death on a daily basis, to them, one more patient is nothing unusual, nothing out of their ordinary daily routine. She tried to understand the nurse’s lack of interest. Anna was beginning to get so impatient that she now walked and peeped in every cubicle to see if she could find Ben but to no avail. Another nurse saw her pulling the curtain open of one of the cubicles and briskly said,

At the hospital

Ben was immediately wheeled in for emergency treatment. Anna sat down in the waiting room until her patience failed her and she began to pace up and down in the corridors. A nurse was walking past. She grabbed her arm and asked,
‘How is my husband? Is he going to be all right?’ But the nurse was busy making notes or filling in a form and did not know what Anna was talking about. ‘Please return to the waiting room and the doctor will be with you shortly,’


Waiting

‘Can I help you?’
‘Oh, please, can you tell me what is going on with my husband, his name is Ben Walraven and he was brought in about an hour ago with a slashed wrist artery, can you please tell me what is happening?’
‘Madam, you are not supposed to walk around the corridors looking into cubicles, please go back to the waiting room and as soon as we are ready, a doctor will come and see you,’ the nurse said, pointing towards the front part of the hospital where the waiting room was.
‘All right, thank you.’  Anna replied and walked in the direction the nurse had indicated.


Too Much Alcohol

There were only a few people in the waiting room.  An old man was slouching on a chair with his flies open and one shoe off.  A couple were holding a baby who wouldn’t stop crying and several young lads sat around their injured friend who was obviously the victim of a fight with a huge black eye and his shirt torn and grazes all down his arm.  They were talking loudly, agitated and nervous.  One of them was eating a piece of dry bread and sharing it with his friends.  The wounded boy did not want any bread; he was holding his forehead, looking at the ground.  Anna got sick of watching all this misery, most of it self-inflicted through drinking too much alcohol.

Hope for theFuture

She picked up a magazine dated six months back and looked at the irony of the beautiful models on the advertisements promising beauty, health, and happiness. One article caught her attention, it featured paintings and talked about a successful Hungarian artist called Vazarelli and when she looked at his photograph Anna remembered knowing him years ago at art school in Budapest. So it was possible to become rich and recognised as a foreign painter in Paris. Maybe they could go and look him up this Vazarelli guy and maybe he could help Ben find his feet on the Paris art scene. She moved the magazine under her bag and tore out the two relevant pages to show Ben later. She looked at the clock: half past three.


why don’t you just call me “drunk” from now on.

‘Come on Ben,' she had said, don’t speak like that, you are a very talented artist. During the war you were one of the bravest men in your unit. Don’t be so negative, things will get better again, I promise.’ Anna had tried to comfort him, ‘It’s just that we are in a strange country now and we don’t have many friends yet but really, things can only get better from now on, they can’t possibly get worse, can they?’ and she had even managed a sarcastic little smile.

The Drunk

She recalled how Ben, not long ago, when he woke up after one of his long weekend binges with a heavy hangover, in one of his apologetic sober moments, he had pointed out exactly what was wrong with him.
‘I used to be Ben, the talented artist, courageous leader and war hero but now I have not painted in months, I can’t keep a job and I have become just a drunk, like any other drunk anywhere in any country or planet or solar system or galaxy - a drunk is a drunk and nothing more and nothing less than a drunk.’ I no longer deserve my name, Anna,

Despair

Anna had had to go out to work that morning after taking Tommy to school and she  had left him there in his despair.  Maybe if she had been able to give him more time it would not have come to this and now, she could only walk up and down the hospital corridor and wait until they fixed him up.  Hopefully she wouldn’t have to wait too long.  It was very late now, Tommy was alone at home, and she had some early appointments the next day to deliver photos, which she still had to glaze and touch up before morning.

Ben Was Dead

More than an hour and a half had passed since the incident.  Again, she got up and started pacing around the room.  When no nurse was around she walked out into the corridor again, trying to find some signal, some news of Ben’s whereabouts.  A senior doctor walked up to her. 
‘Mrs. Walraven?’
‘Yes, how is my husband, is he coming out soon, can I see him?’  Speechless, the doctor slowly and compassionately put a hand on her arm and took her into a private room.  From these actions, or rather lack of action and from the solemn expression on the doctor’s face Anna could already guess: Ben was dead.
‘I am very sorry; we could not save your husband.  We tried a transfusion but he had lost too much blood before he got here.


No Scene

part of what her husband had become, almost welcomed it as that had not been the man she knew and loved. When the nurse came to fetch her Anna followed her silently into a private room. Ben was all cleaned up. Wearing nothing but a white gown he was lying with his eyes closed and looking peaceful, almost serene, relaxed at last. Well, he couldn’t be much more relaxed than this Anna thought in a macabre way.
‘Oh, Ben’, she cried, kneeling down by the bed, she put her face on his crossed hands. ‘What am I going to tell Tommy?’ Anna didn’t want to make a scene. She got up, dried her tears.
‘The head nurse will phone you tomorrow to sort out the formalities,’ said the doctor, ‘can I get you a taxi?’
‘No thank you, I’ll walk,’ Anna replied, ‘I need some air.’

He Died Long Ago

Yes, she had been worried sick but Anna had firmly repressed the thought of Ben not making it during her long waiting time. The possibility of her returning home alone had not occurred for one moment. Even now, she reacted as if Ben was still alive, waiting for her to take him home.
‘Can I see him?’
‘Yes, in a moment. I shall send a nurse to fetch you in a few minutes. I am very sorry.’ The doctor walked out of the room. During the next few minutes reality began to sink in. Ben is dead. My Ben died months ago; he died when he lost his pride, when drink turned him into a miserable insane violent irrational monster. He died when he believed that alcohol could drown our poverty and problems away. And in a funny sort of way she accepted his physical death or at least the

Thank you all

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Sue

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Money Glitch profile image

Money Glitch  says:
3 weeks ago

Stories like these always get next to me because unfortunately if someone does not put some space between the abuser and the abused someone dies way too often. Thanks for sharing!

Sue Adams profile image

Sue Adams  says:
3 weeks ago

That is sadly so. Thank you for passing by.

madeleine  says:
3 weeks ago

Your story is very touching. I hope it will inspire others to come forward.

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mega1  says:
3 weeks ago

Thanks for writing this and hopefully it will reach some of the people who are living this way - before death comes along. It is so sad that alcohol defeats so many people.

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Sue Adams  says:
3 weeks ago

Yes Mega1, I was glad that Princessa posed the question on domestic violence. Those who suffer need as much help as they can get. I didn't even know it existed until it happened to me. And then, if you are isolated you think it's your own fault. You don't blame alcohol or your spouse's history, you just blame yourself.

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rmcrayne  says:
3 weeks ago

Good story telling Sue on an important topic.

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Sue Adams  says:
3 weeks ago

Thank you rmcrayne it's good to get things like that off one's chest.

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RedElf  says:
3 weeks ago

This is quite a story. I am glad you finally told it!

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Sue Adams  says:
3 weeks ago

Thank you RedElf.

Please everybody vote for my story A Violent Marriage at:

http://hubpages.com/hub/roundup-at-the-hubnugget-c

you have to scroll down to the bottom of the voting capsule where you'll find my nominated Hub: "A Violent Marriage" and then just click to vote.

Thank you to all of you who have already voted but the more the merry-er.

Sue

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create a page  says:
2 weeks ago

Thank you for sharing an important message through this well written hub.

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Sue Adams  says:
2 weeks ago

You're welcome create a page. I hope you voted for my story.

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create a page  says:
2 weeks ago

Yes I did.

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Sue Adams  says:
2 weeks ago

Thank you

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magnoliazz  says:
2 weeks ago

I hope she had some life insurance on her husband. Drunks die sooner than ordinary folks. Better him than her, you die the way you live. I just hope this woman did not get involved with another drinker.

I wish alcohol and drugs were wiped off the face of the earth, they are satan's biggest weapons. I believe that people who do drugs and alcohol are controlled by demons.

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Sue Adams  says:
2 weeks ago

You are so right magnolia. Unlike cigarettes, alcohol is still advertised on billboards and all over the place.

Have you voted for my story?

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donotfear  says:
2 weeks ago

I relate to this. Been in a bad one like it. It's so self-defeating. I thank God every day I had a good support system in place to help me through it.

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diogenes  says:
2 weeks ago

Blasted alcohol, how I detest it and drunks. I am in the drink-sodden UK, and it's totally disgusting. Sad story; one of far too many...Bob

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Sue Adams  says:
2 weeks ago

As long as alcohol is THE main means of socialising at dinner parties its use will never be culturally incorrect like cigarette smoking has become.

Gracielinda  says:
2 weeks ago

Though I have never been in a physically abusive relationship, just reading the story touched me. Great writing that kept my attention. Keep it up!

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Sue Adams  says:
2 weeks ago

Thank you Gracielinda let us hope you never will get into such a situation.

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