Why doesn't anyone say forever anymore?  There is a lack of committment in relationships today.  I know we have all experienced heartache and disappointment at one time or another in our lives. However, this is not a valid reason for sheltering ourselves from experiencing love all over again.  We can only be truly happy when we love, as though we have never been hurt.

If you are reading this, you have experienced or on the edge of divorce or separation.  I encourage you to pick up the pieces and move forward.  Now your thinking, how do I do that?  Accept the situation and believe GOD for the rest.  You may be repeating the ordeal over and over in you mind, thinking about how you will get through this difficult time.  You may even be blaming yourself.  I want you to know that if you are to blame, come to terms with the facts and ask for forgiveness.  Please keep in mind that asking for forgiveness from your loved one is not a license to be treated as a door mat or have them drag you through the mud.  Inform them that you are sincerely apologetic, but remove yourself from any animosity or violent situation.  You may have to repeat this espisode several times, before the situation becomes tolerable.  The exact time could be a few months or several years.

Sadly, children are always involved and the impact weighs heavy on them.  Whatever the cost of suffering self humiliation and not being able to lash out, you must remain calm at all times.  Please make a decision that you are only responsible for your behavior.  You can only control the decisions you make.

It is not wise to talk about the absent parent in front of your children.  You will waste an enormous amount of time trying to inform your child/ children who the best parent is.  However, you will never accomplish your goal.  You will succeed in causing hate to arise in their hearts among insecurities, resentment and bitterness.

When debating wether or not to seperate, always consider your thoughts and be honest with yourself.  Ponder on the idea of why you married in the first place.  Make a list of the top ten reasons why you got married.  Then make a list of why you are deciding to separate. 

Please try to imagine on how your new life will play out, the stresses of children outside of the marriage.  How well do the children interact.  Will your future partner accept and love your children as though they were their own?  The reality of this question is probably one you don't want an honest answer.  

To overcome the bitterness of an unfailing marriage is to pull yourself together and forge ahead and meditate on your hapiness and well being of your children.  A happy and well rounded parent produces happy children.