Falsely Accused of Child Abuse
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Have You Been Falsely Accused of Child Abuse?
It is illegal for anyone to file a false report of child abuse, but unfortunately, it happens everyday. Even though 60% percent of reported abuse cases are false, this offense has the highest conviction rate of all felony crimes. The law is written to protect the children first, so even though you may be completely innocent, you could face long, expensive legal battles or even worse, you may possibly lose your children forever.
Don’t Sink into Denial
If you get caught in this nightmare, even though you are completely innocent, the first thing you must do is acknowledge the seriousness of the charges. If you feel you do not need to worry because they could not possibly have a case against you, you are placing yourself in danger. It is amazing how quickly these situations can get out of control. The consequences for a conviction of this crime can be horrific, so protect yourself and your children immediately. You should obtain a lawyer experienced with these types of charges. Don't speak to any officials except your attorney about the case. Even if you have not been officially charged, you need to be prepared in case you are eventually arrested.
Do Not Confront your Accuser
At first, you may not even know who has made this terrifying accusation. The accuser does not have to be revealed unless there is a court order to do so. If you suspect or find out who it is, however, you should keep your distance. Do not go to see them, do not call them, do not have any contact with them what so ever.
Be You Own Advocate
Learn everything you can about being falsely accused. Read books, internet articles or anything you can find on the subject. Discuss your findings with your attorney. Get involved with other people who have been falsely accused of similar crimes and learn from their experience. You will be amazed by how many people have been in your position. Build a support group of trusted family and friends around you. Ask them if they will be character witnesses for you if you need them.
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Don’t Console Yourself with Alcohol or Drugs
Though this may well be the most stressful and depressing time of your life, do not give in to the temptation to blur the pain with alcohol or drugs. It could have the reverse effect and actually enhance the depression. It is also very important that you stay strictly within the confines of the law at this time. You could be asked to submit to a drug test or the court could call witnesses to testify that they had seen you impaired. It simply isn't worth the risk.
This is a very scary time in your life, but do not panic. You need to keep your mind focused on contributing to your defense and finding the best way to protect yourself and your family from more damage. Most importantly, do not go through this allow. Retain a good lawyer and let your attorney help you. Take his advice and be prepared to wage the fight of your life. Your future is at stake.
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Yeap, Kids are out of control....my girlfriends daughter said I choked her....I have never ever touched her..... what a joke the system is, Something needs to be done about these type of kids..
I was falsly accused of child abuse. with out a shread of evidence ; without proper investagation with no proff i was a danger to my son i was not given a drug test but ordered to complete a 6 month program my problem was i was homeless and living on my sons income from ssa waiting to be approved by social security disability i allowed my son to stay with a so called freind for 300.00 a month the next month this bitch wanted custody of my son and his whole check in the amount of 1.100.00 she called dcfs and made all these false allegations. dcfs never helped me with my real problem and that was homelness i was in a drug program 4 months and testing clean 2x a week and the social worker tells me thats great ypur in a program but your never going to get your kid back you dont have a income or a home i was broken hearted they never once tryed to help me with my real problems my ex daughter in law got guardianship of my son my case closed in july2008 my parental rights were not terminated i have a home now and a income now im trying to find out how i go about going back to court to terminate guardianship and regain custody of my son he is 14 years old now any advice will help thank you for letting me share my story
Last month I was falsely accused of child abuse, maltreatment, and neglect....I am soooo outraged at the fact that social services came to my home at around 9:30 in the evening when my fiancee and I were winding down from a long day at work and my 4 year old son was just about to fall asleep. They asked my son to remove his shirt lift his pants.....for what!!!!! Do they honestly think my son is oblivious to the fact that his mother and father had no idea who these two people were? My poor son must be traumatized by this! I felt violated! Who would create such a lie?
I've been in court for about a 1.5 years paying an attorney to keep my apartment. Could the people in my building stoop to this level? What upsets me the most is all the children who are really being abused. Social services waste their time coming to homes that have no abuse and never make it to the homes where children are in need of help.
Does anyone have a good attorney who works pro bono? I can barely pay my bills with one attorney on the payroll I definitely cannot afford another.
This was a really helpful article. Currently, my boyfriend and I are going through false accusations made by my ex-husband and my mother, which were conveniently made amidst a court battle for me to relocate one state over. They stated that my boyfriend was the perpetrator, and was physically abusing my son. He is currently seeking legal counsel, at least for advice on how to handle his situation. Children and Youth became involved, and this has cause such disruption and drama in our lives, and the caller (I already have a strong feeling as to who made one of the calls) has dragged my son into a situation that I have been trying to protect him from. What angers me, is there is actual abuse going on in my family, and while people are focusing on something that is not going on, they are failing to help out the family member who is actually being abused. It sickens me that people do this to be spiteful, and it almost makes them as bad as people who actually see abuse happening and fail to report. Does anyone know of any free resources that we can tap into to further prove his innocence? I know this will all be brought up during the relocation hearing.
Childrens services is coming to my home tomorrow to investigate false charges that I abuse my children. What should I expect of these people?
The person who called DCS was uspset because I wont let my daughter hang out around her daughter because I don't like the values they instill in their family. I am a Christian and I do have high standards.
Will they want to strip search my kids, I have 12 yr. old twins, will they want to go thru draws and things?
Hi Lynne,
Child services will not strip search your children. They will check the home to see that each child has a bed, and that only same sex children sleep in the same room. They may look to make sure there is food in the home. They may ask what the rules are for bedtimes, having friends, and homework routines.
Good luck and let us know how everything went.
Thank You very much, I will let you know how it goes.
On Saturday we had the un-welcomed visit from DYFS, Nj's DCS. We found out that the night before at 11:30 pm someone put a call that my wife and I were neglecting our 2 lil boys, by not feeding all the time, not bathing, not changing diapers in a timely matter and that the kids had east access to alcohol. After interviewing my wife, then having her strip them down to nothing and inspecting them, then interviewing me, then going on a tour of our home to see it is baby proofed from head to toe, they asked if we had any enemies, because faulse accusations usually are made.
They acted like there was nothing wrong with it. I asked what rights we had as parents who were falsely accused and basically told we have none. However, though they will be "throwing" this case out, my wife and I would now be on file for being accused.
We have an idea as to who may have done it, we have not spoken to this person in 1.5 months, but because they under investigation for robbing us, we feel they are going after us. We contacted our investigator to let them know of what has happened and who we feel may be behind it. As of now, it is just frustrating to feel like there is absolutely nothing we can do to prevent someone from falsely accusing us in the future.
I wish they would stop with these false accusations and save real children. I was abused for years and no one ever helped. Social services wasn't even called. For all of you that are being falsely accused, I am so sorry you have to deal with that.
My Son was falsely accused because he was babysit for his Godborther he would babysitting about three day out our week that last day that my son was babysitting the baby stopping breathing and my son had to give the baby C.P.R he didn't know how to give the baby C.P.R HE DID THE BEST HE COULD TO SAVE THE BABY LIFE.but the police Department didn't ask anyone else who was wish the baby.grantmother. mother. father,uncle.aunt,girlfriend,the roommate all these people was wish this baby at some point of time. but secent my son was the last preson with the baby that who that are accused for all the injuries to the baby. the new release was nothing but lie that why i don,t beliver in the in D.A.are these lie as law they are not out to help you they just want to get payed that all.i hate this damn country. wear is the right in this world at the bottom of hold. i hate D.C.S
My husband was falsely accused of sodomy on a child under 14. He has gone threw his trial and won. The child told them that her grandma made her lie about it. Can my husband sue them because all these things were false?
You know, some people are weird. Back in the day when I used to drive a school bus, I was accused of being a pedophile because I wouldn't put the music channel on that the kids wanted to listen to. The mom told other people but thankfully, the administrating people knew me and of my character and squashed that mom's accusations.
You have to be very very careful these days. People are sue happy and some are so weird. I stayed on the route and they weren't going to intimidate me with their false accusations.
I knew one school bus driver who told a kid to sit down or he won't be riding the bus. The parents forced the school district to have the driver removed from driving. He was one of the greatest drivers out there.
In this world, your dammed if you do and dammed if you don't. But I strongly believe that people will pay their price on judgment day.
My fiance and I have been fasley acccussed of abuse by my fourteen year old daughter and I have lost my ohter two childern, been thrown in jail and put through hell and yet has anyone even bothered to yet take a statement from us.Whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty.Wow I am amazed at how DCS of virginia has treated us where is the justice for parents.The real treat is my oldest daughter and her foster parent breaks into my house a week later steals pretty much whatever they wanted and I am not even allowed to file a report with the police department. I do know this system definitely needs to change and any advice anyone could share I would greatly appreciate.
My partner and I live in Australia. In July 2008 we were falsly accused of abusing/neglecting our four boys by the school principle. Not only were we falsely accused but we have now lost our children until they each attain the age of 18. We are permitted to see them once a month under supervision and the children are constantly asking when they can come home. Their foster parents are spoiling them by getting them whatever they want. If they want an xbox, they get it, a playstation, they get it. We can't afford (and never could) to buy them what they wanted when they wanted it but we kept them well fed, clothed and kept a roof over their head. In 2006 we were in a house fire, the corroner ruled it an electrical fault then in Nov 2007 a plumber changing the hot water system set fire to the roof. My kids have been through enough hell and now DoCS (as they are known in NSW) have taken away the only thing that ever meant anything to me. I was abused as a child and DoCS only stepped in after they had removed my sister. They left me there for 3 years with the rapist and did nothing in that time. In court they brought up the time I ran away from home at 14 and blamed it all on my mother, the rape, the running away, the fact she couldn't keep her kids together. Now I am being accused of hereditary neglect, basically meaning, because my grandmother neglected my mother, my mother neglected me, then I must have neglected my boys. Not only all that, the officers lied in court trying to introduce false evidence but when it came time for our proof we didn't neglect our children, even the judge didn't want to know. People who report other people because they are seeking revenge need to realise, they are pulling the officers away from the children who need the help, the ones who are being bashed and dying in their parents care. All I want now is my babies back and life to go back to normal but I know this will never happen. I have to live with knowing I am labelled a bad mother for the rest of my life and my kids will grow up also knowing my partner and I did nothing wrong but the dribble that DoCS are putting into their heads on a weekly basis. DoCs have a huge problem also with mothers who breastfeed their children for longer than 12 months. My youngest boy was breastfed for almost 5 years. I tried everything to ween him but was told by NMAA that he will ween when he is ready. Apparently thats wrong. I am supposed to stop feeding my child at 12 months and waste money on formula when breastmilk is supposed to be best.
I am sorry to hear all these stories and am saddened even still that I have now become one. Nothing will ever fix what has happened and nothing will ever be the same for any of us in this position. All we can do is our best and hope that gets us our kids back in the end. Good luck to you all.
It's sad that society generally condemns the wrongly-accused party. This adds to the hurt of the wrongly-accused.
Last friday the Denver cops showed up at my door and handed me a piece of paper stating that my fiance was being investigated for child abuse. They questioned my 7 year old and 5 year old at school. From what I am gathering from my kids the cops were the first ones to talk to them. and then the social worker showed up. We met with an investigator on Monday and he gave my fiance a ticket for harming a minor x's 2. The reason they got involved was because my oldest does have a scratch on his nose from ruff housing with my fiance and my youngest had a bruise on his cheek.. The bruise on the cheek happened at school and my son has told 4 people the same story. We are going through this on only one income and we have to get an attorney so that we dont lose custody of the boys or my fiance goes to jail or worst prison. Is there anyone out there that has some information for us...
Recently my boyfriend whom lives with me was acused by his sons mother of abusing his sons.. now i have a daughter by him and another daughter by another man but my boyfriend is all shes ever know and that she calls daddy.. his 2 boys also live with us.. now the mother is in and out of jail, on drugs, cant keep a job.. n called cps on us well it clear the case was dropped.. but now she filed a interjunction and they took the boys until our court date...he cant even go near the school his son goes to.. if he was abusing his kids in my home i wouldnt be with him and wouldnt he beat the others??? wouldnt i report it..?! shes just mad cuz she cant handle them like we can and that we have a family... she has taken them..well stole them from us number of times and she always gives them back cuz she cant do it... she wants the food stamps and the childsupport thats all.. what to do?? what do we do for court and what do we say?? HELP!
My husband has been accused of hitting our son in Colorado. It is so scare I don't want anything to happen to my family!
Mike Winters says:
5 months ago
This is solid advice. I am currently going through hell. I was falsely accused by my exwife and she involved DCS. For several months I have had no contact with my two children and my attorney doesn't seem to be able to do anything quickly. My oldest child even told DCS I had done nothing wrong and they ignored it. Children's Services is an absolute joke in the state of Tennessee.