In these days of complex child adoption deceptions, you and your partner would be wise to see the help of a reputable adoption lawyer right from the start. Going alone is never a good idea as there are many people out there who prey on vulnerable couples by raising their hopes and often leaving them many thousands of dollars out of pocket with nothing to show for it. In light of this, you should always have your adoption lawyer with you at any meeting with the baby or child donor (or representative) so if they are less likely to ask for money up front.

It is your adoption lawyer's responsibility to point out at the first meeting just what is to be expected during the adoption period and the law regarding the process and to re-iterate that no money will change hands at this point. This is because often, the birth mother or child donor will place pressure on the adoptive parents to hand large sums of money over to help pay for the legal costs involved but this will not happen if the adoption lawyer is along. In this case have your adoption lawyer simply ask for the name and contact information of the donor mother's lawyer and with this data in hand, make contact with the attorney and ascertain if the request is on the up and up.

In this particular incidence it is not he responsibility of the adoptive parents arrange any form of legal representation for the birth mother. The donor mother will be requested to provide, by the adoption lawyer, an actual address where she can be contacted at any time to avoid the possibility of a deception being carried out. Often, requests are made to send money for travel tickets but these should not be sent as it is easy for them to be refunded for cash and it would be difficult to trace.

Proof of pregnancy will be required by the adoptive couple to ensure that the whole process is legitimate. Any documents supplied by the donor or agent should be checked for authenticity by contacting the person that issued them. If information that has been requested fails to turn up and the reasons do not sound right then sit down with your attorney and discuss your next move.

Adoption scammers often contact a number of couples simultaneously usually on behalf of a third party who is looking to have her child adopted but the purpose is to take money from the couples so another purpose of proper legal representation is to ensure this type of thing doesn't happen. To avoid this type of deception, have your adoption lawyer inquire about contact with the actual birth mother and if this request is denied from the onset, avoid it at all costs.

If contact is indeed granted, it is important to ensure that the birth mother and the friend are not the same person. Your adoption lawyer will be able to help expose this type of deception, be aware of similarities such as the same phone number, address, IP address if on the Internet and any other things that may seem certifying the potentiality of a scam.

The most likely time that a couple will be the victims of an adoption deception is quite early on when the enthusiasm is running high and their defenses are down so employing the services of a professional adoption attorney is well wroth the additional cost. As the adoptive couple is emotionally involved, decisions made by them are not always the best but it is important to maintain your composure and dignity if you wish a happy outcome.