Women Choose Who, Guys Attract: How To Attract

Women pick the guys, guy's don't pick women. Women don't want you to know that, but that is the way it is and has been for the ages. There are a wide range of guys that are acceptable to her. The only thing that matters is if you can make her feel a powerful sense of attraction. When you do your "stuff" you'll need to see if you are one of the acceptable. It's really that simple.

If you're acceptable she'll just lay back and see if "Cupid" does his magic stuff and see how things go.

After your foundation of attraction is established then focus shifts to trust, respect and then a more intimate relationship. Most women want to know if you are success driven, have goals and ambitions, not hot-headed, expressive, are a fair balanced personality, etc . They don't care if you're driving a 10-year old car and only a few hundred dollars in you bank account. As long as they know that you are deserving and have what it takes to reach your goals, you're acceptable.

The Order Of Your Quest

Attraction first. Rapport second. Bonding third. If you're in the bonding phase and she goes back into a ball-busting phase, don't ball bust back. Just withdraw attention and show you're not interested in going backward.

Smooth Is Cool

Don't fidget or display tight shoulder. You should display a relaxed state where you display that you can react to anything that happens. Don't look too business-like. Don't hop from one foot to the other, sway back and forth and move around too much. Stand still. You'll appear more confident.

Walk slowly and smoothly, never in a rush. Jerky movements display anxiety.

Talk Slowly

Slow talking commands and don't appear eager to talk. Talking too fast is the result that you're worried that people will stop listening to you. You feel you need to get something out that will interest them before they leave. Insecure behavior is the felt from fast talkers. Don't talk too soft or too loud and don't be afraid to project your voice when necessary.

Don't run out of things to talk about and get stuck in a conversation over the same thing. You need to have a repertoire of material, think a little fast on your feet and calibrate the temperature. Your speech doesn't have to appear too well thought out, logical or "proper." You shouldn't be long winded talking; the shorter the sentences you use in conveying your ideas, the more intelligent and profound you'll appear.

You need to be interesting and not just talk about situational stuff to be challenging. A little entertaining material, a little serious, a little material that gets her to misinterpret. Using pullbacks and misinterprets to gain high status challenge status gets her wanting you and chasing you.

Don't say "you know" or "right" after statements or display validations seeking behavior. Don't laugh at your own jokes as a cover up that others didn't laugh.

Don't answer question too quickly or easily or too early. Don't express too much interest in the conversation early on.

When a prior conversation was broken off, don't get too eager to pick up the thread. Wait for her to say "what was that you were saying." Unless they bring it up, don't go back to it, even if it were a good topic.

Don't say "what?" if she mumbles or you can not understand her. Don't appear to eager for interaction (the disinterest early on will make you appear more of a challenge). Move on to a different opener in your stack. If you say "what?" you'll lose her unless you're already past attraction and into the rapport phase.

Overly Remembering and Ploys

If you meet a really hot girl and you remember everything she says, don't let her know it means too much to you. Act like a normal person. Even kind of fake forgeting her name and ask for it again. Treat her like a random person. Even if you know her, act kind of like you don't so you don't come off trying too hard.

Trying to get rapport too early is qualifying yourself. Like saying, "what's your name" or "nice dress." You have not earned it yet. First smile and she needs to smile back, socially proof read you by your being dressed appropriately, your looks, etc. before you even start the game.

If she goes to the washroom don't just wait there eagerly for her return. Get involved in a conversation with others by the time she gets back.

Talking About Yourself

Don't offer up too much of yourself early in the conversation. Don't appear too eager for them to like you. When you do, make it appear covertly so it looks like part of a good story that just happens to have details about yourself in it. The less detail and more sketchy it is the less eager you'll appear to impress her.

In the process, don't overcompensate your insecurities like if you're a carpenter you shouldn't say "I would never get caught up in the corporate world" flagging your insecurity. If you're a short guy say "could you love a short man."

Likewise don't overcompensate failures like saying, "I must be really tired" since it comes off as qualifying to the other person as fear of being judged, even if you are tired. Just don't bring it up.

Talking without feedback is also wrong. If they don't give you feedback when they are talking to you and you are still talking, you are overcompensating. You talk too much, throw out too much information early, and disqualify yourself. Avoid this by not talking too much unless they give you some feedback. You do this by pausing and forcing them to fill in the awkward stretches.

Body Posture

Do not be leaning in, get her to lean in. Keep your attention on a group when talking and don't be moving you hands around unless it is appropriate. Stand with you legs slightly apart (your shoulder width) and don't worry about taking up an others personal space.

Keep your fingers from fidgeting. If need be, squeeze your thumb and forefinger together to calm yourself down and let your hands fall naturally to your side.

Keep your head up, don't be looking down. Look into their eyes and give them a smile.

Only face you body and feet toward her when she earns it. Don't appear eager to gain rapport.

Move your body language away from her when she distances herself and toward her as a reward. Don't chase her with dog-like attention. When addressed, turn your head slowly and not eagerly snapping it if you are facing another direction. Know when to pull away by being aware of BUYING TEMPERATURE spikes and downturns.

Drinking Etiquette

If you are drinking hold you glass by your side and don't' drink too much. You don't want to smell like booze and get you head twisted. Don't hold you drink across your chest which look defensive posture-wise and very noticeable. Holding the drink by your side you'll look more approachable and more natural.

Discernment

Give a woman options to choose from. We can go _______ or __________. Give someone a choice and listen to their ideas. Don't be one dimensional or appeal not to have plans for certain activities.

For more ideas see: Men's Dating Guide