Overview

In this article, you are going to learn to be confident through feeling and looking great. People would warm up towards you when you approach them with amiable confidence. One simple way to achieve that is to mitigate all your negative facial expressions. No one likes it when you frown or roll your eyes. And self-assurance is important for confidence. When you say something or when you animate your facial features, it’s a good thing to know that you do not sound or look ridiculous. Furthermore, simple etiquette and pleasing characteristics help enhance that.

It, too is important to have the most fitting body for a beautiful face. If you want to lose weight, get a tan, build muscles etc. I fully encourage you to execute the course of action required to effect a change.

After reading this, do try to follow the instructions and advice. Thereafter compare your old photographs with fresh ones and you will definitely see a difference.

Etiquette

Social Behavior

Remember the Golden Rule: do onto others what you want others to do onto you. This is a great ideology and a basis for great etiquette. However, as everyone’s perception is different, do bear in mind how you should also apply this rule from their point of view. This meaning you take yourself to be someone more sophisticated when dining in a upper-class restaurant. Some people also expect more from you than they would give simply because they are in a position to do so. Your boss is one fine example.

Reciprocate how others treat you except when they treat you badly. Instead, ignore them or make clear to them privately you do not want their company (don't show your contempt to the world)and harshly so if they do not listen. If they happen to be your superiors, either complain about it to higher authorities or rid yourself of him/her completely by changing your post.

Try your best to extend your help to those who are close to you even if at your own expense. These people were there for you when you needed them. If you ever feel that your newfound friend could replace your current close confidantes, dispel that feeling. Such disloyalty will worsen your human interactions with others as you would fall into a habit of replacing friends and confidantes.

Oral Communication

Listen to what others have to say. Absorb it all in and give your thoughts and opinions on that issue. This way you would never run out of things to talk about unlike one-way musings where both parties are self-centeredly vying for attention. Conversely, project interesting topics for discussion and add in your personal thoughts. Do not be too strongly opinionated or it’ll put people off.

Be tactful about sensitive issues: never ask someone to disclose sensitive information. If you are unaware of the information being personal or uncomfortable to speak about for the person, look out for these hints: blank faces, creased eyebrows, darting eyes, uncharacteristic silence.

Adopt a wit; however, if you have difficulty making others laugh, avoid showing any intention of doing so—instead, make dry comparisons and observations that may seem ironic or satirical. These comments when not laughed at would be perfectly natural to the flow of the conversation. If people do laugh, it’ll just be an added bonus. Do not be a half-wit by constructing your own hazy jokes with no distinct punch line concerning the discussed topics. Often these jokes are in the form of ‘what if’s and they often end up with sexual wordplays. Others would think you as crude.

Do not insult others. Many people like to insist that their criticisms are constructive. They may be, but not when the receiver of criticisms pays more attention to your belittling than your genuine and beneficial advice. If you really want to let them listen to your advice, praise the object (to a flattering degree) then you follow up with your advice—this would inspire the person to actually heed your advice since they would remember you as benign and perhaps even avuncular (pertaining to behaviour of an uncle). Besides, they would want to live up to your assessment. Face it, when you criticize someone, your first intention is some form of misjudged ill feelings—jealousy, contempt and the likes.

When made fun of, come back with a flippant riposte. When your correspondents try to follow up with that, the topic would be changed. This turns the conversation from a potential fight into a repartee. If the insult is heavily offensive or deeply personal, respond coldly but do not stoop to the level of the insulter. All the same, do not heat up the conversation, instead just ignore that person and try to leave his/her company ASAP.

Facial Features

These are what set us apart from others. As different as we may look, we all have the capability to look and feel beautiful with some conditioning

Hair

Before doing anything drastic with your hair, check your face shape with the suitable hairstyles appertaining to it. Also talk to your hair stylist. If the problem is diminished hair quality, get the right kind of shampoo and conditioner to fix the oiliness, dryness, dandruffs, split-ends etc. Below listed are some solutions if your hair is not defined enough for a shapely haircut.

Advice for men: use wax, gel, hairspray or any hair-styling product to work it into a desirable hairstyle. Many websites demonstrate how to acquire celebrities’ hairstyles and the proper way to use hair-styling products. Otherwise get your hair to be crew-cut or shaved to a buzz. Conversely, if hair is too long for styling, tie it back or trim it at the barber’s.

Advice for women: apply volumising shampoo and conditioner and/or hair curling to make hair less flat and straight. Aversely, get hair rebonded to get rid of puffiness and curliness. Alternatively, try getting a short pixie cut to bring out your sexuality. Tying, braiding, brushing of hair can accentuate the beauty and sheen of your hair.

Your hair adorns your face like darkness does with night. It is essential to feel good about your hair. When you are about to meet someone, you would think ‘well, at least my hair looks great.’ This is not being superficial and even if it is, being so is part of our disposition. This is self-assurance through visual satisfaction.

Eyes; Eyebrows; Eyelashes

Thin, damaged eyebrows and eyelashes can be fixed by applying castor oil overnight daily. Using eyebrow brushes to prim them gives them a neater and thicker look.

Your eyes can’t be changed naturally. What can be changed here is the way you express your emotions and thoughts with them. I’m not advising you to be excessively expressive with them. No, you should however work on a few facial expressions that look good on you. Let’s say you have small eyes; widening your eyes often to express curiosity or interest can help reduce the prominence of your small eyes. You should, however, not open it till the extent that it looks ridiculous.

On the other hand, squinting and glaring would not only repel people but also reduce your eyes to unaesthetic slits. Furrowing your eyebrows can give you a brooding look that also minimizes incongruence of eyes’ sizes. But do not overdo the furrowing or people may take you as hostile instead of thoughtful.

Raising eyebrows and fluttering eyelashes have infinite variations and it is best to use them with moderation as they can get annoying after a while.

Rolling your eyes or expressing derision with them can seriously upset the other person though they may not show it. As should you not show your derision; arch your eyebrows slightly instead and do it with a faint smile if possible.

Your anger and ill-feelings should be kept inside and well-controlled as they tend to show in the eyes easily. People generally judge others by how ‘warm’ their eyes make them feel. This warmth is an aura of acceptance and respect they have for each other. Others would like you better when they can feel the warmth in your eyes.

Nose and Skin

The arrangement of the above heading may seem unfitting. After all, what has the skin got to do with the nose aside from the obvious?

Well, one fact is that our noses have the most oil-secreting glands on the face. An unblemished nose regardless of structure is near perfect. You should take good care of your skin to maintain the proportion of your nose. I personally recommend ‘proactiv’ as its range of products has been serving me well for the five years I have used it.

Also, the importance of drinking sufficient water and avoiding unhealthy food and artificial additives must be emphasized. Adopt a vegetarian diet and start off your day with hearty breakfasts and increasingly lighter meals for the rest of the day. Doing this improves your metabolism to get a healthier body and also healthier skin. Your self-esteem naturally goes up when people no longer notice your face for the pimples and facial oil.

Incidentally, the facial muscles of the nose are mostly sub-consciously active (like breathing), meaning most nasal actions can’t be controlled. Flaring of nostrils and scrunching up the nose are the only two movements that the nose can actively do. Both of which are hard to come by as positive expressions. However some people inadvertently scrunch up their noses when smiling—that is acceptable as long as the scrunch is slight. Try to minimize doing both actions other than when mandatory.

Scrunched up noses indicate disgust or displeasure. Flaring nostrils denominates indignation. Harboring such negative feelings doesn’t mean you should show them.

 

Mouth; Lips; pose of Head and Neck

We use our mouth to speak. It curves into many different shapes when we enunciate different vowels and consonants. Our laughter and moans, smiles and frowns show up on our mouths.

The most powerful communication tool both verbally and otherwise. Reduce the frowns, grimaces, or any form of negative expression to repress unsociable vibes.

Nonetheless, the most important thing is to get a perfect smile. When you have that, you would flaunt it. Cheerio then, to all your nasty frowns!

Now, of course that kind of smile could be described as one in a million--mostly because people don't practice smiling. Be prepared for frustration when your smile may not work out. But it would all be worth it in the end, when your dazzling smile blows your friends away!

Firstly, you have to analyze your cheekbones, eyes, nose and their proportion to derive how high up the smile can stretch.

Secondly, you must gauge how wide the smile should be depending on how it affects your cheek muscles and how well it complements your face shape.

Lastly, you have to develop your unique trademark smile, where every physical detail of the mouth and lips has to be altered so as to bring out the sparkle in you.

Some of the details include the tilt and angle of your head, how the jaw protrudes or recedes, the amount of teeth shown, and the way your eyes express themselves.

In fact, every facial feature works together to bring out the prefect smile. The smile is the ultimate positive signal. It is a great tool that helps in socializing with other humans in the most primitive yet also the most effective way. It too happens to be difficult to accomplish if accomplishment is defined by how genuine others find your smile. In our cynical mindsets, someone out there is always trying to usurp us. No smile can re-assure us that, not when they always seem full of implications.

Now, let us first understand a fundamental concept.

According to a survey conducted by London Guildhall University involving 11 000 participants(visit link at bottom for the full article and results), people who believed they were attractive had a higher income than those who did not think they were. Now, from these we can see beauty,which affects your performance in your work, is in the eye of the beholder. You probably already knew that. But how can you convince yourself, the beholder, to think yourself as beautiful? The thing is an expressionless face is never truly beautiful. No matter how well-chiseled or how much it matches the Greek Golden Ratio rule, it will only ever resemble a statue—cold, hard, senseless beauty with no spark of life.

And to inject that spark into your face is to smile. The perfect smile for you is one that suits you best aesthetically and otherwise. People would be allured by it when they see beauty in you. And it would not only be exterior beauty they see. From that smile one can see your life within.

The beholders, be it yourself or your friends, kin, associates, and even strangers, can always see beauty in life.

Conclusion

Toning your beauty is a long-term practice. Spend time in front of the mirror everyday and just play out your expressions till they look attractive to you. If you think they do, others would too, as your confidence magnetises them.

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