"If you really love someone..then set them free...if they return to you then they were destined to be with you"...well if you don't have the patience to sit around then you have to make the first move.

Are you feeling empty and lost.Unable to eat or sleep.Are you yearning for the good old days and hoping to rekindle your lost love? Do you believe you let a good thing slip away.Are you interested in giving your old relationship another chance? Follow these steps detailed below and you can learn how to get your ex boyfriend back. The old saying goes if you love someone let them go, if they were meant for you then they will return, as hopeful as that may sound, when it comes to advice how to get your ex back, waiting around doing nothing wont help you get him back.

GET HOW TO GET HIM BACK

#1 PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE...don't be a stalker

Do not rush anything, but rather start things off with a simple small hello whenever you pass your ex, or wave across the street. You should maintain eye contact so that he knows you are communicating with him and not with somebody else, but do not let it go much further than this.Nobody likes a hanger on, somebody who follows them everywhere and is in their face 24-7.If you have your interests, you will be so much more interesting and attractive to your partner, it is a sign of independence and character.Show them that you can hold your own and that you are not just a love sick puppy, this will go a long way to earning self respect.

#2 MAKE CONVERSATION about everything but your old relationship

Try slowly implementing conversation in again, making an attempt to talk to him when you can.Don't go calling him every night. but if you do run into him, then do say a few more words than hello. Remember that you should keep your conversation brief.Maintain a level of intrigue, because mystery is actually quite a bit appealing to most men.If you run into him at a party or a social gathering, say a quick hello then return to what you were doing as soon as you can.Don't pay too much obvious attention to him.This will let him know that you are okay with the breakup and are communicating but,you are not as obsessed over him. Don't be afraid to flirt a little too.

#3 LOOK THE PART...dress for success

Maintain a well groomed appearance.You should put some thought into your appearance because maintaining your good looks will boost confidence and self respect.

# 4 GET COMPLIMENTARY

Don't be afraid to throw a few honest compliments out there every so often. You are going to want to make sure that your ex feels good any time he is around you if you really want to get your ex back. Talk about the good times that you and he spent together, bringing up good memories from the past. Help him remember some of the best highlights from the days of your relationship and enjoy the reminiscing while simultaneously working to get him back.

#5 BECOME HIS BEST FREIND

Try to become your ex's friend first and foremost, because if he wants you back, he will eventually let you know. Be his friend, open up to him, show him a nice time, and if his feelings for you are rekindled, he will let you know. Take things slowly and don't act too needy. Instead, just play it cool and let him come to you. If things are meant to be, they will be, and you will learn how to get him back through the process.

These are just the beginning steps in winning your Ex back. They are the steps I followed when I once lost the love of my life, but these aren't my own ideas. I turned to TW Jackson when I was lost.His 'magic of making up' definitely helped cast a spell on my ex.

ONCE YOU HAVE HIM...HERE'S HOW TO KEEP HIM

1. RULE #1 GET IT OFF YOUR CHEST

• Never go to bed leaving things unsaid.Try to resolve any issues before the start of a new day.
• Pack your pride away and bring out humbleness.Even if you know you are wrong, be the bigger person to forgive and forget, but not without first communicating exactlly what you feel and think.

2. ADOPT AN OPEN DOOR POLICY

• Find ways to be honest, express your feelings, and share ideas.
• Try not to keep secrets from each other.

3. SHARE AND SHARE ALIKE

• Sharing the good the bad and the ugly is important in relationships, and serves to deepen and strengthen the bond between two people.
  
• Share your daily life experiences. Share those things in your life that are mildly interesting, funny,sad, or affect you in some way. Also listen and ask what your partner did during his/her day.
  
• Find a way to connect with your partner.Share interests, take up a sport or hobby together.Don't eat dinner in front of the television, ste aside at least 30 minutes to an hour for a sit down dinner and use this as talk time.
  

4. GIVE THEM A BOOST

• Refrain from insults, put-downs, and expressions or negative teasing, expressions of of disgust, and avoid generalizations which are not only stereotypes, but often hurt.

• Boost self-esteem, don't crush it. When it comes to relationship building, naming someones deficiencies or failures is destructive so refrain from doing it.
  

• Focus on each other's positive traits. Find something good to say, catch each other doing something right, and help build self confidence and self esteem.

5. BE CLEAR

• Dont beat around the bush, say what you mean and mean what you say.
  
• Don't be passive, let yourself be heard.
• Don't get angry.If you do don't stay angry.
• Speak up.Be verbal don't use body language to communicate, your partner is not a mind reader.
  

6. GO GET YOUR EX BACK