Many people ask this question. In all honesty, can you fix a marriage in trouble? The answer. Yes!

It's important to realize that you are not alone in your marriage problems. Many people, men and women alike, are dissatisfied with their marriages. Too many marriages suffer from neglect, power struggles, bad influence, and selfishness.

Take a good look at your own behavior. You can't control a single thing that your spouse does, but you can control your own behavior.

It seems like the hardest thing for people to do is to treat others the way they would want to be treated, but it's a good place to start. Don't shout at your partner. Don't fly into a rage or try to manipulate them with tears or pouting. If your child acted this way, it would only make you angry, and that's exactly how your partner feels when they have to deal with this behavior. It's like dealing with an oversized toddler, and it's not attractive.

Learning boundaries is good for both you and your partner, and an important step to fix a marriage with problems.

Treat your partner with the politeness you would a stranger. Give them their personal space and make sure you have yours.

Being clingy and needy will gain you no ground. Hanging on to their shirttail wailing “I'm nothing without you! Please don't leave me!” only shows your partner that you are an incomplete person. It says to them, “I'm weak. I have no mind of my own. I'm too stupid to see that there are many other men/women I could have. I have no life of my own. But please don't leave me.”

Don't force yourself to suffer this indignity.

Getting angry and shouting, “You want to go, then go! Get the hell outta my face! I don't love you either!” only reinforces their feelings of animosity toward you and the relationship.

If your partner insists on leaving, let them know calmly that you don't want them to go, but they need to do what's best for them, and you support their decision.

In this case, when they're away from you, they'll remember your understanding and sensitivity and will miss you for your good qualities.

Sometimes a few days apart is just what the doctor ordered, so don't panic. Take that time to reevaluate yourself, and don't spend it obsessing over your lost love. Use this time for yourself so that when you come together again, you are a strong person, not a bleary-eyed mess.

Can it be so simple? Can you fix a marriage by changing you own behavior? If you insist that there is nothing wrong with the way you act, then you need to remember, the definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results.