Child custody battle tips

Few tips from someone who knows about child custody:

First most importantly is always put your child first. It's not about you or your soon to be "ex-spouse" or "ex-Boyfriend/Girlfriend." Your Childs life is greatly effected by what you chose to do from the moment you split or begin to "FIGHT FOR" Child Custody. Talking about situations in front of your child or children makes them feel bad. Point blank, DO NOT EVER DO THIS! Inside you really want your child to Hate the other parent, but what you are really doing is putting hardship, emotional distress, and future problems in even your own relationship towards you and your child.

Every child DESERVES a happy, healthy, wonderful relationship with everyone they are related to! Period! Put yourself in your Childs situation. Think if your parents behaved in a hateful, yelling, or disgusting manner in front of you. How would you feel? You are in the middle. No child wants to make either one of their parents upset with them or even to see their parents fight in front of them or hear anything about how the other parent feels towards the other. YOU WILL MAKE YOUR CHILD SAD, UPSET, CONFUSED, WITHDRAWL, AND EVEN MORE.

Don't be fake with your child, don't buy your child, don't suffocate your child or make them feel that what you feel is more important than what they are feeling.

Years down the road you will look back at everything you have either tried to do or have been successful at through your child and wonder if you really did always make the right choice. Here is a great way to make sure you will not ever feel that way. Love your child everyday you see them. Look out for them, their health, well-being, spiritually, socially, make sure they have a sound, safe, loving environment with no hostility whatsoever. Your child will grow up and learn that the good they have received in their lifetime can be carried to their own children or other relationships they will have in the future. That they have a voice of their own and they will think on their own. People take advantage to often of children and end up hurting them more when they only think of themselves. I guarantee you that if you are the positive, caring parent that's where your child will want to be. I guarantee you if you are the parent that has turned your child into a possession over many years or even short term your child will NOT ever want to be with you no matter if they tell you that they want to be with you. They only tell you this because of their own fear weather or not you want to believe that they are fearful of you.

Having attorneys involved is practical sound advice. But be careful of what advice you follow at times and think clearly the following:

Is what your attorney is either having you do or say the best for your child? Is this turning into a he said she said battle? If this is true and you follow bad advice here's a little info for you. No matter if you are getting a divorce or never married to the Mother/Father you CAN lose your child. ALWAYS make a sound choice to your attorney concerning your child. Don't ever fall into bad advice for this is a TEST every attorney has to do. Determining on weather you think of yourself or your child first and if you really have their best interest at heart and not vengeance of the other parent.

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Lived it, LLMD

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