Men maybe cheat on us as women because we fear that's the worst thing they could do to us and it turns into reality.

My mother arranged my marriage to a boy in India when I was 17. I was there a total of 2 weeks with him before I flew back to my home in Uk. During the time I spent with him, I felt it was a time of getting to know him, and falling in love. Two weeks is not enough time to get to know anyone, however the little things he did to make me feel special and loved, I never would have believed he could ever cheat on me.

When I came back to the Uk, phone calls never stopped, everyday I would speak to him over 5-6 times a day. This all went on for about 7 months until a mutual friend from India phoned me to tell me he was with someone else and that they had just had a baby boy.

The calls stopped and I later learned that he had been with this other girl for over 4 years and he had gone along with this whole arrangement between our families to satisfy his own greed, their greed, to come into the Uk, divorce me after he recieved his permanent stay visa and then he would of proceeded to bring his girlfriend over. Desperate is what they were. She was just as guilty of engaging in his whole ridiculous game as he was to let her man go to the extent of marrying me. Life is not hunky dory here in the Uk, we have to work hard to be able to afford the luxury that we need.

Luckily the authorities took along time over the visa application and he was rumbled! I divorced him and 27 years later he is still stuck in the country he wanted to escape by not only cheating on me, but his family, my family and all the authorities. I hope they both live to be 150 and the heat from the rays of the sun pierces into their wrinkled skin.

After my ordeal my mother never asked me whether she should arrange another marriage. It was just never ever spoken of again, the subject was taboo, not that I ever blamed my mother. How would she have known what he was like? She had an arranged marriage and her marriage lasted along time and was as solid as a rock. I was left to deal with my own life.

Every relationship including my second love marriage since then, I have encountered that the men always cheat on me. Nothing wrong with me, am always loyal, dedicated and give 100% to my partner, however it just does not seem to be enough.

However once its a known fact, I have learnt that he is at it, I do not wait for confirmation from him or his petty excuses as to why he may of did it, its not worth the anger, the abuse and the trauma, so he is gone. I do not want my two girls exposed to negativity of adult mishaps or wrong doings. I do not understand why a woman who would know that the man is in a relationship would engage in any wrongdoings with him, however my conclusion is that she is just as bad as him and so they are very welcome to eachother. They obviously have no conscience and deserve eachother.

Being alone I have achieved far more than the men I dated have in life and that gives me the sense of PRIDE, that yes, he may of hurt me, he may of tried to break me and left me for someone who would chase his sorry butt for the rest of my life but he was wrong!

I now believe strongly that I have attracted the wrong people into my life since my first bad experience. I know I have to completely let go of that fear for it to never happen again. I have become a strong believer in the law of attraction and now know that i have the power to attract what i deserve and that will not be another cheating rat.