Facebook, the latest fever aside from HubPages is on my monitor all day long. I can't remember for the love of my cyber pet, Gigli, in Pet Society how I became friends with this girl. All I know is I played with her cyber pet, Sebastian and get the money from the frequent visits to buy my Gigli the latest clothes and furnitures.

Yesterday she posted this question, "if you could only ask one factual and categorical question to know if someone loves you, what will that question be?" I started following the thread and answered the question. It sent me back to my loitering days in the field of "Love Experiment Playground." Although, I never got closed enough to ask a man if he loves me, I often wonder on the safest corner of my mind whether he feels the same way as I do. I'm glad those days are over. A time comes in a womans life when finally she understood men on their primal state. The journey was not easy at all. I made a couple of experiments that made feel like Thomas Edison when he invented the light bulb.

I can do anything believe me, my family says so. When you put me in the kitchen, so far I am the only person in the family who can serve a decent meal. Give me a problematic friend and I can be a Psychiatrist for an hour or two. Put my hands in the keyboard and I can stay in the computer for 24 hours. Make me sing and I can sing just like any other Filipino. Except...men.

I stopped dead on my tracks and just took some time to understand how this creatures think. I went back to Adam in Genesis. I studied the past relationships. I watched how romance dies on other couples and how women seems to want more from their partners and how men tries to flee from the wife's grasp.

I cannot say I understood them perfectly. When I stated that feeling of Thomas Edison-like when he invented the light bulb. I was referring to the journey not the destination. I might have understood the rules men and women play in a relationship. But really, when it comes to human nature and human behaviour there is no such thing as a manual.

So what is that factual and categorical question to know if someone loves you? My answer is...nothing. You don't ask such questions, silly. You never have to. When a man loves you, they will cross the pacific ocean to tell you. Matthew 12:34 Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks."

The moment you ask a man whether he loves you or not, you lose. When you are loved, you know it even without him telling you at the moment. The heart will find other ways to express what it feels. It is not your role to ask, it is your role to be ready when it happens and accept it with an open heart. You cannot look at love with a magnifying glass when it is not ready. You look at the splendor and the beauty of you, nurture it, enhance and cultivate it.