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Signs to look for when you think your boyfriend is gay

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There are many signs to think of that your boyfriend is a gay, but dont get wild of what you are thinking because it is not that easy. There are many guys who are acting like girls, wear pink stuff or chat with macho men, but in reality they are not gay. To make sure lets find it in this article.

  • Some say that a guy is gay if Dressing more feminine
  • Looking at other men in a different way
  • Holding his hands different
  • Changes his clothes
  • Stealing your makeup
  • Paints the walls pink/purple
  • Or if when hes with men he hugs them or acts slightly different


Here is a cool signs to think about contributed by: Sarah Kivi

Tell tale signs of a gay boyfriend are easy to over look at first. I had a relationship with an attractive, intelligent, well dressed guy for about 3 months. I ended it because I was convinced that he was more interested in my brother than in me. A few weeks later, he came out of the closet. All the flashing neon signs were clear as crystal after I had the advantage of hind sight. It may sound cliche, but these were some things I noticed.

1) It takes him longer to do his 1" hair than it takes me to blow dry and flat iron my shoulder length hair.

2) He noticed a slightly different shade of lipstick and asked if I had just added a gloss or if it was a new shade.

3) He critiques clothes like your girlfriends. Meaning, he would never say "You look fat in those jeans", but may suggest "Those jeans are hugging all the wrong places tonight girl".

4) He's obsessed with his appearance. Daily trips to the gym, a medicine cabinet full of hair product, face cream, face masks, three kinds of cologne and a drawer full of dry cleaning receipts.

5) He compliments things that most men don't notice (i.e. a slightly different hair style, a pedicure or manicure from a new nail salon).

I asked him a few times if he was gay or ever thought he might be and he denied it every time. He never got upset or really defensive, but maybe that's why I didn't believe him. You know in your heart if something is a little off, but your man may not be ready to admit to himself or the public that he is gay yet. If you have a lot of feelings for him, it's best to end it immediately. A romantic relationship with a man who likes men is never going to last and you should try to minimize the damage.

Here is another wild signs for your to find out to our boyfriend contributed by: crunkish.com

Being in a relationship is not easy. It is also very unpredictable. One day, you are having the greatest moment of your life with your partner and the next day, you are crying your eyes out. One day, you desperately want to spend the rest of your life with your partner and the next day, you may find your things all packed up out on the sidewalk. Yes, being in a relationship is very difficult. It is much more difficult if you think that your partner is also having affections for the same sex. It may even be the hardest challenge that any couple could deal with.

Figuring out whether your loved one is gay or not is a very tricky business. There are as many types of gayness as there are many gay guys in the world. Some homosexuals want their sexual orientation be known to the whole world. Others are still hiding inside their dark closet, trying to avoid being caught. These men act like ordinary men that you can hardly imagine what their true sexuality is.

If you think your boyfriend is gay, watch out for signs. Most gay people share things that are unique or, at least, distinct to them. You have to remember, however, that these signs are a bit stereotypical. These are not absolute. If you see these signs on your boyfriend, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he is gay or bisexual. Not seeing these signs doesn’t mean that he is not, either. Again, playing detective is a tricky business. But hey, give it a shot. Here are the top 10 signs that your boyfriend belongs to the fabulous federation.

10. The Bathroom Rituals

Pay attention to his grooming habits. Notice how he meticulously does his hair. Try to find out how he chose the grooming products he owns. An average guy doesn’t care about what brand or what type of products he uses. Is he particularly interested in top designer shoes and other accessories? Another warning sign is the time he spends inside the bathroom. If he takes longer than you do, that may be a sign that he is playing for the other team.

9. The Diva Fanaticism

People always consider gay guys to be fans of many divas. If your boyfriend likes listening to divas such as Whitney Houston, Mariah Carey, Celine Dion, Barbra Streisand and (God forbid) Cher, then he might be one flaming gay man. Have you ever seen your boyfriend listening to any of these divas’ records? Or worse, have you ever heard him singing any of their songs? And if he indeed sings their songs, does he do it in falsetto? If your answer is yes, then that could be a sign.

8. The Beauty Pageant Obsession

For some reason, gay guys love watching beauty pageants as far as stereotypes are concerned. These events are a celebration of beauty and glamor that many gay people really value. Of course, your boyfriend won’t let his fascination to beauty pageant be known but if you really want to know, here’s a quick tip. While talking about another topic, ask this question out of the blue: Oh by the way, who was the 1999 Miss Universe? If he is able to give you an answer, be scared girl. Be very scared. Gay people also love awards shows such as the Oscars, the Golden Globe, Emmy, Grammy and many others.

7. The Shifty Eyes

Another excellent way to know if your boyfriend is gay is by simply observing his eyes. Yep, it’s all in the eyes. The next time you two are walking in a mall or around a local park with numerous people, notice how his eyes move. Some gay people let their eyes wander and jump from one guy to another. Notice how he shifts his vision when a hot man passes by. If his eyes are shifty when he is around men, he might be gay.

6. The Urinal Dilemma

A closeted gay man also feels uncomfortable and uneasy around straight guy friends as he tries hard not to make his concealed sexuality to show. In a public men’s room, a closeted gay man is also uncomfortable using any empty urinal when other straight men are using the ones near his. Often, instead of using the urinals, he would go inside the cubicle and just pee into the toilet bowl.

5. The Oprah Quotes

Gay men, whether out or closeted, are inspired by many gay people who have proven their worth in history. There is just pure pride and sense of accomplishment that many gay guys feel when someone gay is able to achieve something. This can be evident by his in-depth knowledge on these things. Can’t he go five minutes without quoting Oscar Wilde? Does he keep on stressing out that Alexander the Great was gay and that he was in love with his best friend? Does he always talk about how Oprah did something? OK, Oprah is not gay but many gay people love her.

4. The X-Men Factor

Do you play video games with your boyfriend? If so, you’ll be glad that there is also a way of knowing if he is guy just by looking at his character choices. Many gay men would pick a female character in a game on a versus mode. For example, in X-Men, Storm is a gay man’s favorite. It is not sure whether there is a psychological explanation for this but it is a trend. If your boyfriend chooses a male character, it doesn’t mean that you’re safe. Cyclops is also often a gay man’s pick because, well, he is extremely hot. And he abhors Jean Grey for that.

3. The Fashion Compliments

Your boyfriend might be gay if he gives you too much compliments in a very unmanly way. For example, instead of saying “You look beautiful,” he goes “I like the way your top matches the tan-ness of your skin and oh, your boots are so fetch.” If you hear that from your boyfriend, don’t feel glad. You might just have a gay partner.

2. The Downright Gay-bashing

Gay people hiding inside the closet are usually very vocal about their distaste and hatred for gay men. While it seems a little counterintuitive, there is a reason why they do it. Because they don’t want to be caught or be suspected that they are members of the third sex, they would cover their true identity by blatantly expressing their rage against gay men. They also tend to overdo this; thus, they become harsh gay-bashers. If your boyfriend is like that, then he might be gay. As one adage goes, the greatest homophobe is homosexual.

1. The Beautiful Strangers

Check out his Myspace page. One of the most definitive signs that your boyfriend is gay is that there are some male strangers in his Myspace list of friends or contacts. If you have never seen these men or you don’t know whether they are your boyfriend’s friends in person, they might just had their communication online. An average straight guy won’t view, much less add to his list of contacts, a man he doesn’t know personally. It’s not just Myspace, browse through his Facebook or Friendster page and see if you can find some. Or worse, research and try to find out if he has accounts in gay networking sites. You can also check your browser’s history to see if he has visited any gay adult site on the web.

The truth is, you don’t need all these signs to know whether your partner is gay or not. What you should do is sit down and talk to him about it. Make him feel that it is all right and that you understand. Finding out if your boyfriend is gay needs a little observation and a lot of honesty.

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MasonsMom profile image

MasonsMom  says:
14 months ago

Funny & informative, all wrapped into one!

xtnshun profile image

xtnshun  says:
14 months ago

I enjoyed it, but isn't it hard to find out which urinal your boyfriend uses?

Misha profile image

Misha  says:
13 months ago

Well, if I ever get a boyfriend, I guess I won't need to look for signs he is a gay - I would know this for sure :D

C.S.Alexis profile image

C.S.Alexis  says:
13 months ago

Be careful in the bedroom if you have suspicions, gay guys are most often lending their STD's to straight women because of their closet behavior. Thanks for sharing.

MoonLetters profile image

MoonLetters  says:
13 months ago

Thanks, this was helpful because I had my suspicions and it was great to have a laugh about it.

quensday profile image

quensday  says:
13 months ago

Haha I love this! I was waiting for Celine Dion to pop up somewhere :)

dutch84 profile image

dutch84  says:
13 months ago

this is hilarious

glassvisage profile image

glassvisage  says:
13 months ago

Aw man, I was hoping for more subtle things! Liking Barbra Streisand seems too easy :)

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ripplemaker  says:
13 months ago

My friend caught her bf online entering a gay chatroom and shifting his name and entering into a conversation with a guy. They broke up. Now she's happily married. :)

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13 months ago

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bonnieweelass  says:
11 months ago

Wow. what a comprehensive hub, All that you have written is absolutely right. I was so naive that I had no idea, until the time comes that he confessed. All these signs had been there but I never thought that it was a flashing sign that he is a member of the third sex. I don't know how to react or what to feel at first but we've decided to keep it a secret and to still keep our friendship.

michelle  says:
11 months ago

these fucking gay men needs to be burnt with some thing real fucking hot i just hate the fact that they leave the use of a woman to go play in something that as in a whole lot of shit fucking nasty if i found out that my man is fuckin a man he would not like to know how i would end that story so he better not show no signs not even to have his little finger hanging off when he is doing any thing he better not play that shit cause i am one fucking mad black woman dont fuck no man and i wont fuck u up i hate u you fucking batty men but god loves you

betherickson profile image

betherickson  says:
11 months ago

lol! What a wrap. This is so funny. But yes, absolutely this is possibly true. Great hub. :)

petexanh profile image

petexanh  says:
11 months ago

Better groomed, looking good, tidier, noticing when you have had that new hair cut. So long as he's still good in the bed room, who cares if he's gay. Isn't he what every woman wants as her dream man? LOL

pgrundy profile image

pgrundy  says:
10 months ago

I agree with petexanh. You can go shopping together, share hair products, where's the problem?

magnoliazz profile image

magnoliazz  says:
9 months ago

I like gay guys. For a friend of course. If they are involved in a sexual relationship with a woman, then what are they thinking? It certainly cannot be sexually exciting for them.

It's best to be honest in cases like this, and just because someone is different, it does not mean that person is bad. I think tolerance is a good thing, and people who are straight should just thank God that they are, because I am not so sure that gay guys can even help the way they are. They all talk and act funny, I can pick one out right away. Can they help that? I don't think so!

April D  says:
9 months ago

Funny, good article! Something else to watch for, maybe:


Before my step brother came out of the closet he had a girlfriend. I suspected for years before that he was gay for a number of reasons and at first I thought I had been wrong when he introduced his girlfriend. That is until he kissed her in front of all of us. He looked at the family first to see that we were watching then he kissed her, it looked as if he were performing for a stage audition. Trying to make it seem like a passionate kiss. Then he looked up at the rest of us again. It was subtle enough that when I commented on it to another family member after the happy couple left, the rest of the family had not noticed. I could tell though. So, does he make a point to be affectionate around friends or family? That might be another sign. Couldn't help but comment on this one.


My step brother is a very nice man though, so don't anyone go bashing him! He's a great guy and deserves to be happy. I am glad he finally came out so he can start being himself.

Diane  says:
9 months ago

Funny! And a lot of truth. My ex was a total woman basher. He HATED them. We could be watching TV and if a woman made a joke at a man's expense he would freak out. He'd get IRATE and yell "What a BITCH!" UMMMMMM, it's in the script. She's kind of SUPPOSED to say it, dude.I am a total fag hag and I love my gay friends. So, when one of my friends had just come out, (even though we all knew anyway) he was calling, a lot, for support. One day he called and I wasn't home, but my boyfriend initiated a conversation. The conversation involved my boyfriend asking "what sex was like with a man". Also, "if I were to try it, it would be with..." Straight men don't think about if they were to do it who their partner of choice would be for the event. I was suspicious but, this contirmed it for me!

threesweds  says:
8 months ago

I'm glad you didn't include guys wearing lingerie as a sign of being gay. I'm straight; wearing panties, bras, and nylons under my mens clothes and my girlfriend loves it. We even go shopping together for lingerie and have matching sets. There are guys out there who just want to express their softer "feminine" side and not be gay.

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TravelMonkey  says:
8 months ago

I'm not gay, but my boyfriend is lol

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Michee's Mix  says:
6 months ago

What an intresting hub, and I too am glad that you did not include males wearing lingerie as gay. My mate enjoys wearing woman's panties, and I must say I really it, too.

tosha  says:
5 months ago

Some of these are ridiculous. You can have a straight guy who likes to dress to impress. You can have a military guy who just doesnt like gay men at all but love women this is ridiculous

Guest  says:
5 months ago

Maybe I'm wrong but I am pretty sure my now ex-boyfriend is gay. You decide ...


1) He spends a lot of time at two gay coffee houses, a lot of time, ie several times a week, even after work and on weekends, especially on weekends


2) He recently admitted to watching a video featuring gay sex and and he likes films featuring gay themes (ie Brokeback Mountain and Milk)


3) He likes to wear gay and/or lesbian promotional t-shirts


4) He doesn't like to kiss ... in a year of dating, he never french kissed me ... and no sex ... we could lie naked next to eachother and nothing would happen because he "felt weird"


5) He is obsessed with decorating his condo, from wall hangings to placemats


6) He likes to change up his hair ... he shaved his head ie "bald by choice" and before that, he dyed his hair


7) He talks about lesbians a lot


8) When we were dating, he really liked to walk behind gay couples holding hands


9) He likes to go to gay pride parades ... not just once to see what it was all about but every year


10) He is in his late 40s and never married - supposedly there were "issues" with all the previous girlfriends and relationships didn't last long ... I heard from one of his friends that he went years without dating


11) His closest friends are a group of (unattractive) women that he does girl-like things with, ie day spas, movies, dinner ... he never goes out with the guys and rarely with mixed groups


12) He frequently mentions the time he dressed as a woman, makeup and all


13) He often goes to poetry readings


14) In spite of my getting plenty of male attention elsewhere, the only compliments I ever got from him were about my pants, my hair, my manicure, never about me looking great or being attractive to him


15) Without any probing on my part, he was always saying "I'm not gay ..." or "I'm not attracted to men."

mandybeau profile image

mandybeau  says:
4 months ago

hey I think I know about 40 gay men,(based on your Hub, all have some slightly effeminiate thing about them, none are gay, or are they, do you really think, you can pick um if they don't want you to.


I know of one gayman, that doesn't have any non macho tendencies, Why do you think people are gay I don't get it write a hub on Why

LondonGirl profile image

LondonGirl  says:
4 months ago

you could always just ask....

gilda  says:
4 months ago

but how to ask you bf if he is a gay?

mayhmong profile image

mayhmong  says:
4 months ago

Oh boy, I wouldn't be so mad if my bf cheats on me with a guy instead? But then again....


hmmm...That just gives me an idea

shezz3085 profile image

shezz3085  says:
3 months ago

A great hub to read, this could help me figure out if my bf is gay! hahahahaa... Thanks for this very informative tips keep going!

Gerg profile image

Gerg  says:
3 months ago

This one made me laugh out loud - especially the photo right under the headline! And I'm with LondonGirl - ASK. You're only responsible for your own truth, not his...

Tom Rubenoff profile image

Tom Rubenoff  says:
3 months ago

Interesting the spectrum of reaction here. You'd think that somebody rearranged someone's furniture without asking or something!

Watch Tower profile image

Watch Tower  says:
4 weeks ago

I found this article interesting and rather funny. According to your signs of gayness. I wouldn't be Picked as a gay man ever.

AlexK2009 profile image

AlexK2009  says:
3 weeks ago

So if your boyfried looks after his appearance he is gay?


Most women I know would assume that of their husband/long term boyfriend started looking after his appearance they were having a straight affair.


I guess you need to look at a lot of little signs all pointing the same way.


Watch out for cultural differences. Here in the UK a man showering too often may be suspect.


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