"Get my girlfriend back", said one of my friends when I asked him about his plans a couple of days after his relationship with his girlfriend ended. I asked him why the heck he wanted his girlfriend back when he was having problems with her. But, my friend was too obsessive, "I don't know . . . I just want her back." I don't know if he is going to get his girlfriend back, but I wondered if I were in his place what would have I done to get my girlfriend back.

Now that you and your girlfriend have just broken up, you may think you need to take the plunge without delay and try to recoup the relationship. That kind of reaction is quite explicable, but you needn't be that impetuous. To get back your ex girlfriend is not hard, but you do have to plan and organize yourself for that. You have to play a mind game and if you win you can get your girlfriend back. Here are a few tips if you are planning to take some actions. It's about what you should or should not do following the break up with your girlfriend.

Don't get proactive. Better take some time out and figure out what exactly your plan of action would be.

I know that you are thinking you need to show some sort of urgency and have to rush right in and try and fix the relationship right away. You may think that this is going to impress your girlfriend and help you get her back. You can't be more wrong. Actually you are asking for trouble. You got to first find out what the underlying cause of the breakup was. Take some time to find out what went wrong and how to get back together again.

Be considerate and polite in your approach

There are a lot of guys who tend to get somewhat hostile towards their ex girlfriend following a breakup thus jeopardizing any chance that there could have exist to get her girlfriend back. Should you have any intention by any means to get your girlfriend back then get rid of any such ideas because that's not only going to kill all the possibilities but also generate hatred in your girlfriends mind and that's the last thing you would have wanted.

Being perceptibly frantic is an absolute no-no

Keep you calm. When you are calm and contented you can think better. And when you think better you can conceive awesome ideas. It's quite natural to get restless in this situation but you can't expect to get back with your girlfriend if you don't take be in command of of yourself and the circumstances. Whoever says that you need to act fast in order to get girlfriend back is not right. It is wrong when you think that if you wait for a few days you are going to lose her forever. That thought may encourage you to do desperate things like trying to call her, sending her messages, calling up her best friend or niece or whoever close to her etc. etc. Please understand that makes you so very much predictable. But that doesn't mean that you have to wait forever. Do something different. Bring back normality to life. Meet old buddies and spend some time with them if possible. When your girlfriend discovers that you didn't call her up for five consecutive days it's her turn to get restless and it's almost time to say a short "Hi" to her. The bottom line is you need to take the time to get to the bottom of what exactly went wrong. When you do that you are also allowing some time for your girlfriend to calm down and actually paving the way to welcome her back to your life.

If you sincerely wiling to get your girlfriend back, it's not as difficult as you may believe if you are ready to take the time to do it and make the necessary effort. And, honestly, if I were you, that's what I would do to get my girlfriend back.