i was born with one breast
80my struggle =[
I'm different!
Hello my name is Alexandria, and every since i was little i felt ashamed for something that i can't help. I was borne with one breast. I have searched th internet looking for someone going threw the same thing i have been going threw but so far, no such luck. My age is 15 and this is my story..but I would like to point something out before i begin, I don't really have experience writing so if you would be patient that would make me greatly happy.
Every since day one I have felt different, like i was meant to be some where els, like i was an alien or something like that. just imagine getting ready to go to a school dance and having to take 2 hours just so you can make your self look normal, my whole life i have been teased about the way i was borne. see my mom was no s irresponsible adult, she took drugs and drank, and on top of that she was allergic to milk/deary products which meant her bones were not strong enough to support me and from what she tells me while she was pregnant with me i just dropped injuring the whole development of the right side of my chest so if you took a close enough look you would see i didn't develop any muscles to protect my lung or whatever, how ever my left side of my chest developed normal, so now at the age of 15 one side of my chest dose not even measure up to be a size "A" but the other side of my chest is a size "38DD" which makes it even more difficult to hide.
How I try to be normal =)
Every morning i wake up i go to the bathroom, and put makeup on, and after that i try to make my breast look as even as possible.put on a smile and leave my house to face a world of pressures.
What bothers me the most.
like all girls I'm pressured look a curtain way in curtain things like (dresses, bathing suits , tank tops ect.) but every time i try something on i can't help but feel like something is missing, Don't get me wrong i know that there could be worse things wrong with me other than this, and trust me I've been in and out of foster homes, my mom was locked up for 9 years of my life for murder and my dad skipped out of the state so he wouldn't have to pay child's support. and i rarely here from either one of them. they dropped me in my grand mothers lap, who dropped me in my aunts lap whom doesn't want anything to do with me. And yet I know there could be worser things.
I'm greatful 4.
The friends/family that has never judged me over what i have been threw, sometimes they can make me smile when no one els can, their the ones who make me feel normal, the only ones who have made me feel accepted in this harsh world.
My purpose for this!
I could make contact with not only someone who knows what I'm going threw but also someone who can help me out a little, just leave a comment below and ill get back to you. i promise = )
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Hey, I read your blog, and I know what your going through. I was born with the Poland's Syndrome as well. BUt the good news is (though somedays it seems like there is none) that plastic surgery is really skilled in this area because of breast cancer. So it is not un-common for them to do this procedure.
Alexandria, I just ran across your blog. I was also born with one breast. I am normal in every way except that my left breast is completely missing. Just like you, I have no breast muscle at all and am a 40DD on my right side. I am 45 years old, married with two gorgeous children. I had many trials growing up, but was extremely head strong and wasn't going to let anything get in my way. I never had reconstruction surgery because it was a very risky procedure when I was young. Plus, my family didn't have much money so it was never really an option. My husband loves me very much and is happy with me the way that I am.
The worst thing growing up was never being able to wear normal swimming suits and low cut shirts. I always had to be careful about covering myself up so others couldn't look down my shirt if I bended over. The good thing was that I wasn't ashamed. I played a lot of sports and was in a lot of activities in high school. I just had to support my breast with a good bra and wear a proper fitting breast form. I had many friends, but never discussed my birth anomaly with anyone except my very closest friends. Because I exhibited a lot of self-assurance, no one ever made fun of me.
I read a story on the internet about a 20ish year old girl who wrote some news stations in Houston where she lived and one of them found a plastic surgeon who offered to perform breast reconstruction surgery on her for free. They had to remove some muscle from her back and move it to the front and then insert a breast implant. You are very young and this could be a great option for you. You may need to wait a couple of years, but maybe you could find someone who would do the same for you.
Keep your head up and be proud of who you are.
Hi there, Read your story with interest, and can fully empathise with what you're experiencing. I too have the same situation, my right breast never developed but was a DD on my left side.
I'm now 33 and had breast surgery over 13 years ago. Do as much research as possible to see surgery that's available, it has reduced greatly in price but make sure you get a reputable surgeon. Thankfully my parents supported me and paid for my operation.
I wish you well. Whenever self pity arrives, I tell myself how fortunate I am and what a slight impairment this is. Unfortunately our society pays too much focus on how people look rather than who they are.
I too know the smae thing you are going through. I am only 19 right now and am in the peak of my life as far as living it up and partying it down. I really hate the situation i am in and just hate the way that I am. but at the same time i jsut try to make the best of it. today i found some sites that offer things to hide it much easier then the way i have for the past 5 years. so i think my life will get easier. but yea someday i hope to have surgery and live a normal life. i wish you the best of luck. and if you ever wanna talk hit me up. bobcatjvsoccer28@aim.com
I am the same, only one breast. It is very difficult to find bras, prosthesis, and clothes that accomodate our situation. But, the good news is that you dont need to "fix" anything. Once you are are comfortable with who you are and you find a realistic way to deal with the social implications, you can opt to have surgery later if you feel you really want it but it isnt the answer. You must love and accept yourself. I have a husband of 9 years and our sex life is as lively as any one's. You dont need two to be whole. Get creative, use foam inserts to fill our bathing suits (go for halter cuts b/c they have better coverage) and choose cuts in clothes that show off what you have (great arms, nice neck, maybe?) You CAN live with one breast, and you will feel whole with time!
Hey your not the only one i also have one breast and its measures like a a cup and i wear an H size bra...on my right zie i cant wear anything i feel like sometimes i dont fit in because while my friend all go to parties an wear sexy outfits i cant wear the same because i have 2 cover up and ,make sure that one of my cleavage which is the only cleavage that i have doesnt show... it really lowers my esteem... im lookin forward 2 get a surgey on it now.. hopefully it will go welll but your not alone but the procedure thati have 2 do it a total of 10,000.00 that I dont have so... it also messed uop my posture like my tit is so heavy that i feel as if it pullin me down.. im now 22 and i have been goin thru this since i was 13 because thats when i started growing my breast but if you need support you can speak 2 me my name is Lisa and My email is Lala@tmail.com because untl i read this i thought i was the only person that was goin through this.
I know exactly what you've gone through.
I'm seventeen years old and was born with one breast as well.
I dont have Poland's syndrome, it was just a birth deformity. VERYY unfortunate thing to happen; i know.
Over the past three years, i have been dragged along by an insurance company called California Children's Services. They had be go up to UCLA twice and made a ton of empty promises just to be told they won't cover me. Now I'm going through my mom's insurance. They told me to go ahead and set up a consultation.
I had a consultation with Dr. Gordon Mitts, a plastic surgeon in Bakersfield, Ca, a few days ago and I will be getting reconstructive surgery this summer; luckily, my insurance will cover the procedure because it is reconstructive; rather than cosmetic.
I will be given a expandable implant and it will be slowly filled every two weeks through a port near my armpit, painful, right?
I'm soo scared but also very excited.
Another thing i hadnt noticed was that apparently, the nipple on my developed breast is lower than it should be, therefore, i will endure yet another surgery to correct that as well as soon as I heal from the first.
My boyfriend of five months knows everything about this and has been very supportive. I'm glad to have found someone to share this all with :D
I am veryyy scared about the whole thing.
I'm willing to talk to anyone about my experiences via email
cantyouallsee@hotmail.com
I totally understand how u feel...coz when my breasts started growing...i was totally freaked out to see tht only one was developing....i was scared to tell this to anyone, even my mom. i grew up wondering if i was some sort of a freak of nature ...Now i am married and have a 2 yr old child. My husband was completely supportive of my prob. But i still always have the incomplete feeling. I am always conscious abt the clothes that i wear. I started stooping a bit inorder for ppl not to notice the mismatch..I am completely flat on my left side. Its a very sad thing when u grow up wishing to wear the outfits others wear and be as confident as them. Some day i hope i can get a surgery done...
i have a five year old daughter that was born with only one breast i was searchin the internet tryin to find information on what can be done if anybody can help email me at kyren_jessiah_alex@yahoo.com thank you
hi..im seventeen years old...i was born with one breast..my right side is developing normal...but my left side is deformed...i have a litlle niple..and i have no breast tissue..so my leftside is completly flat. you can see and touch my bones.
I have the same issue. I am 18 and I have no left breast. I can't even remember how many times I have cried over this and nobody except my family knows about this problem. I look at all the "normal" girls around me and I just wish I could be like them; they just take the fact that they have two breasts for granted and I guess I just feel jealous. Even though I felt really bad about my condition, I had to take control and make sure nobody else could see I was deformed. I started forming my bra to make it look like I had a left breast. I stitched a shoulder pads to a sports bra and then I wore a second bra over that to make sure that the shoulder pad odd angles didn't stand out in any tight shirts. Now I do the same thing with a thin bra, that isn't a sports bra, then I put a padded bra over it to make the whole appearance look real. You might want to try this. I do wear low-cut stuff but I make sure that I usually have a cammi or a tank top under it. I can wear halters if I wear a bra that has clear straps. I also pin up low-cut clothing just slightly so people don't notice any difference and I feel confident enough that I look like I have two breasts.
I don't wear bikinis ever, and I rarely wear bathing suits, mostly because I feel self conscious, which sucks because I also was on a swim team for about 4 years, then I stopped when I was 12 because my breast started growing more and I thought I looked weird. I want surgery but I don't that's possible right now because I can't afford it but I think there are breast prostheses out there that I could try. I tried looking for people like us for a couple of years but couldn't find anybody. I am really happy I found this site and get this off my chest. thank you. email is pnkalz@yahoo.com
You are not so different, I too only had one breast grow. When I was 18 my parents helped me to have implants put in but unfortunately they are still a size apart, just less noticeable since they are larger. My question is this though, my husband and I are considering our first child but I am a little scared because I foresee only one growing during pregnancy and dealing with the same situation only worse. Also, does only one side get milk? For anyone who has this problem and has had children I would love any feedback you could give.
hello. i am a 16 year old girl with polands. i am missing my breast on the right side. i too stuff my bra and then wear another padded bra over it to shape everything nice. ive learned how to deal over the year and am hoping to be getting reconstructive surgery next year. there is only one thing i have been struggling with. I will have been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 months and i dont know when i should tell him. or even how. its something thats is a big part of me. but i dont know how he is going to react to it. i dont know how long i should wait. it really makes me nervous when i think about it.
My name is Brittany and my sister is nine years old and also has Poland's Syndrome. She has already started developing in her right breast and is a 32 A. She is too young to have surgery, but kids have noticed her uneven chest. Can anyone give me advise on how to create a bra that makes her look even or have ideas as to where to buy one of these bras?
To make matters worse, our mother died when she was nine days old, so that is why I must help her myself.
Please help!
My e-mail is BrittLB07@aol.com.
Thanks!
thank yall for the support and if any of you need to get ahold of me just visit me at my myspacepage at www.myspace.com/miss_bowen_13
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Hi there. My baby daughter is now 8 months old and sadly she too was born with only one breast. Her right side has a normal nipple and breast tissue however her left side presents as normal skin only. Her pectoral muscles are intact. I have read the other Amastia sufferers stories with interest and would love to know if there is any other person with this condition in NEW ZEALAND? If so, I'd love to talk with you. Also, if a Geneticist reads these stories, I'm sure we'd all appreciate an idea of what could possibly have caused these congenital defects?? It's hard not having any answers as to cause.......
i am speechless! i am not alone
i am surprised to find out that am not alone!after 31years of my life i thought i was the only one with one breast.OMG! I cant believe this. I was born with my left breast completely missing. I love myself and because of that everyone has accepted it. I used to be called names when i was younger but i got over it.I have a beautiful daughter and she breast fed 4 9 months. after 31yrs i think am blessed!
hello AlEXANDRIE i have the same problem and the same age
And i will try to do a operation the next month.
If you want we can speek about our lives problemes.
I can sorta feel you there hun. My mom wasn't able to carry children but yet was determined to have a baby, shes had 2 mis carriages and me and my brother were both born with birth defects. I was born with my right side did not form as well as my left. I have one leg, my right hands thumb had no muscle and could not move so now I only have 4 fingers. I was born with only one breast too. It's hard to make yourself look normal so nobody will notice. Only my mom and my doctor and I know about it. I don't have two kidneys ither so I have to be more careful.. I'm 14 and just hang in there hun ^^
My sister has the same problem. she just does not have breast muscles or tissues. She is 18 and looking forward to surgery. Here it does not cost that much, but i do not know if they can make them similar or what kind consequences she will have later. Id you already had surgery I would love to have your feedbacks in my email address: albulenakadriu@gmail.com
Im only 11...and I feel like im about to go through the same thing...so ur not alone
Hi. Thank you to all who have opened up and shared their feelings about this. I am 41 years old and was born with only one breast. The right side is perfectly normal but the left is lacking in all breast structure as well as muscular structure. I was lucky to find a doctor as a teenager who felt my cause and performed 2 plastic surgeries to try to correct my appearance. I'm not perfect, I opted not to do nipple reconstruction but I am happy. I have a wonderful husband and 2 lovely children. They don't care. I will say the hardest part was worrying that someone would find out before I was ready to share. I undertand!
it is okay because i only have one hand....... so it will fit well.
hey your not the only one im 17 i only have one breast too only the right side i always thought i was the only on when i was around 11 my right side grew and the left one did not and its the same since 6 years i always see girls around me who had normal breasts. i always cry to my sisters but now i looked for a plastic surgeon and hopefully will get a reconstruction. i thought i was the only one with this problem im so happy to find others like me.
sarah says:
17 months ago
your not alone...xxx