Best Friend's Wife Is Cheating: Tell Him?
68Is He Happy?
If your friend is ignorantly happy in his relationship with his cheating wife, I say let him be ignorant.
It will make you feel good to tell him but it will hurt him worse, especially if he is madly in love with her.
Rumor Mill
Make sure you have your facts straight, don't rely on hearsay.
If You Want Him
If you want this man, and you think he will want you too (The flame has burnt out in his marriage) Tell him and be his shoulder to cry on. Only, make sure you are not pushy, just supprtive. The age-old "Call me anytime if you need ANYTHING" is a clear sign of friendship and interest.
Can't Keep A Secret
If you just can't keep a secret, don't use this fact to hurt your dear friend.
Some ladies thrive on drama. This can drive them to cheat sloppily or tell best friend's that their wife is cheating. Don't let this be the source. Be honest with yourself.
"Telling Him is the RIGHT thing to do"
It's only right if some good will come of it.
If you know the wife, you may recognize that she is just flighty and this is a phase. Otherwise, this marriage wasn't meant to be...he'll find out, she'll tell him or break off the marriage. It will hurt in the end, there is no reason for you to intervene in this case.
Appearances
Your good friend may already know about his wife's infidelity. The reason he is not breaking it off or talking about it? It's no one else's business. He may feel degraded, insecure or hope things will get better. It is up to him to make the decision about it. There is no way of telling whether or not he knows. You obviously can't ask him because you would be spilling the beans.
You think Jackie O didn't know her hubby was a womanizer? Let's look at Bill Clinton! People can stay in relationships even if their ego is busted by infidelity. Moreover, these people were high profile and needed to deal with the whole world judging.
If your friend has an important job or likes to keep up appearances, he may know and not be doing anything about it.
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Comments
Thanks for commenting Bevy, YES diseases. That would be a definate reason to say something. Good call I hadn't thought about that.
It's really no one's business but the husband, the wife, and whomever their cheating with. No outside party should have any reason to butt in.
i think he has to know, one way or another. i wll be hurt if he's my friend not because i want him for me but because he is a friend. maybe hints can be given. start with asking questions leading to the situation. make him think. emphasize your words. though indirectly, it could help.
you cant just tellem, he mite not beleive you and think you causing drama, drop hints from a little to more, i would confront her with hint droppin to, its a delicate situation, if you tellem, you become her enemy, if they reconcile, your friendship with him will be strained. if hes your partner, your mfer, your boy for like ten or twenty years id tell him straight out, you still mite lose him though
bevy400 says:
11 months ago
There are two ways to look at this really.On one hand if we keep secrets what will it do to our friendship when the truth will eventually come out,will they ever be able to trust us again?On the other hand they have a riht to know not just because of morals but also regarding sexual well being....,What about diseases? Good hub.