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One of the most frequent questions we get(suprisingly, from both men AND women) is "what kind of body language do women respond to?"

Perhaps you might have questions similar to these?

- How should you position your body in order tomake women more comfortable, and interested?

- How do you know that a woman is interested?

(Here's ONE quick answer - if she twirls her hair while talking to you, she's probably flirting with you - and if she crosses her legs she's probably saying, "Leave me alone!" ... but we'll go MUCH more in depth later on).

- What signs can you give a woman to stimulate her subconcious mind to like you?

- In what way is it possible to ask a women to have a dance with you, or just about any thing with in a given context, without you really asking her?

- What type of facial expression, standing style, eyes or eye brows, hands, etc. should be observed?

- Does rubbing your nose repell women? (And what else do men unknowingly do to turn women off?)

- How important is eye contact? How do you maintain it without appearing psychotic?

- How can you use body language to be accepted by women?

- How do you show a woman that you are interested romantically without embarrassing yourself?

The first, and perhaps most important thing you can do to understand what body language actually attracts women is to learn how to READ a woman's attraction,(and to read when they are NOT attracted), and to what extent or degree.

This is CRITICAL knowledge because, while many of the body language principles are quite simple and straightforward, their actual implementation can requires a lot of trial and error.

The nature of trial and error learning is that you have to be able to tell what worked and what didn't so you can learn. So ... by first establishing your ability to actually detect a woman's interest, you'll be establishing a trial and error feedback loop which is bound to help you succeed!

With that in mind, here are some of the main signs reported in the research literature of a woman's interest ...

  • Returning the gaze (especially if prolonged).

  • Closing distance between you (standing or moving closer).

  • Preening (twirling or playing with hair, checking makeup, re-arranging clothing).

  • Swaying of her body, hips and shoulders as she walks.

  • Slightly separating her legs when seated.

  • Holding her hands near her bosoms or her thigh as she talks.

  • Touching your thigh with her own thigh or brushing it with her hand.

  • Forward thrusting of her bosoms and pouting of her lips.

Of course, all of the above can occur with varying frequencyand varying intensity ... the more frequent and more intense,the greater is the diagnosed level of attraction.

On the other hand, when a woman is NOT open to advances,

she will:

  • display a rigid posture

  • cross her legs when seated

  • cross her arms over her bosoms

Sometimes though, these signals are just signs of insecurity or fear. One needs to take ALL of a woman's body language cues into consideration, and when dealing with shy women, interpret the smaller clues with more significance. (And vice versa with very bold, assertive,and confident women).

Give yourself the assignment of simply trying to judge several women's level of attraction. Start by observing third parties (see if you can tell when a woman is attracted to another man), then observe women in direct interaction with you.Don't do anything to try to change a woman's attraction... just raise your level of awareness.


Sometimes though, these signals are just signs of insecurity or fear. One needs to take ALL of a woman's body language cues into consideration, and when dealing with shy women, interpret the smaller clues with more significance. (And vice versa with very bold, assertive,and confident women).

Give yourself the assignment of simply trying to judge several women's level of attraction. Start by observing third parties (see if you can tell when a woman is attracted to another man), then observe women in direct interaction with you.Don't do anything to try to change a woman's attraction... just raise your level of awareness.

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compu-smart  says:
2 years ago

Excellent tips which are always soaked up put into practice and hope to find very useful in the very near furure!!

top stuff as usual!!

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topstuff profile image

topstuff  says:
2 years ago

Thanks.Im glad to know the tips are practical,not just trash.

JohnKhoo profile image

JohnKhoo  says:
18 months ago

Great woman's body language knowledge. Very useful tips for every single guys out there...

topstuff profile image

topstuff  says:
18 months ago

I want to help every single guy there.Thanks khoo

Love Calculator  says:
15 months ago

Good tips! i ma gonna use them :D

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linjingjing  says:
11 months ago

interested women and men

Funny article

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