When I was growing up this was my favorite and most overused phrase- "Life isn't fair". Truth is Life is absolutely fair, but when it doesn't seem to make sense people tend to think they got jacked out of their "fair" shake.

To really be able to judge life and what fairness truly is, you have to first learn to take responsibility for your life. Second you have to realize that life doesn't work for you, you work for it.

The people who say life isn't fair are often those people who try to get by doing the least possible, and expect the most to go their way. These people think that the world owes them one because they did a few good things but don't take any responsibility for those things they did that were, not so good.

They did a few things and thought they got away with them, but in reality they didn't, life keeps track, or the universe if you will. Karma is the universal score keeper, and believe me it is completely fair.

What isn't fair is your getting away with doing things that were unethical and unfair to other people and thinking that life wouldn't catch up to you. Thinking that "judgment day" was something that happens when you die is naive, truth is judgment day is every day, every second, every moment. It's not god judging you, it's your own actions set into motion.

All the things that happen to you in your life are NOT based on the real time moment your in. Getting into a car accident after 20 years of helping people, being the most amazing and compassionate person ever known, seems like god is picking on you, it's not fair, right?

The reality is that car accident may be the accumulated karma of events that happened early in life, and it could be caused by things you don't even, nor didn't at the time, realize how impactful your part was in it. If you got mad at Johnny in grade school and to get back at him you said he was stupid, and he took it to heart and it affected him for years to come causing all sorts of problems, you have to realize that everything that happens because of your calling him stupid get's billed to your karma calendar.

Thinking and acting positively has repercussions too, only they are positive ones and they can give you some amazing good karma, but you will not escape bad karma with good karma, you simply won't generate more bad karma, but in generating good karma you may be more equipped to handle the bad karma from before.

Karma has a way of transcending time and space, even lifetimes so something that happens to you in this lifetime could be the result of a past life unfulfilled karmic debt. It may seem unfair because you don't remember the events, but it doesn't matter, it was your soul that acquired the debt like it or not.

If you don't believe in reincarnation realize that reincarnation is not just life after death, coming back to a new life after you die. We reincarnate every second we're alive, every time we wake up in the morning... Every moment is an opportunity to change everything. The first step is taking responsibility for your life, for the fact that everything that happens to you now, in the past and in the future, is the accumulated result of a domino effect YOU set into motion some time ago, or in this very moment (for future events).  Regardless of how random or unrelated something seems, it is all tied together, and every thign your going through, is your fault. Most people don't seem to want to accept this fact and thus continue to chase their tail. Personally I don't pretend to understand what cause ended up creating my current effects, but one thing I know, realizing that I did it somehow somewhere... i can actually take back the wheel of my life and start controlling the outcomes more lucidly of what happens or how I handle what happens next.

it's simply a matter of not feeling like a victim. If something bad happens to me, my first thought is, how did this happen? what did I do to deserve this. now I don't think I don't deserve this, I think I know I did it, but I'd like to figure out what it was so I won't repeat it. I don't feel victimized by life, I got some karma coming to me from many past years, I'm sure... So I just grin and bear it and try to elminate new bad karma by living my life ethically, passionately, and helping others as much as I can. You can't run from yourself, many try and trip over their own ego...

Just some insights I learned from and practice... thought I'd share. (I wrote this hub a year ago and never published it... oops.)

Jerrico