Love Relationships Require Self Esteem

Some people appear to define themselves in terms of their love relationships and social roles as wife, husband, mother, father, son or daughter, etc. Not that there's anything wrong with that -- but what about the unique qualities inside that may be lying dormant as unrealized potential? Love is good and God = love but it can be a passing, transient, illusory experience that needs some rock solid support behind it. Do you get my meaning?

Self confidence and the improving of self esteem in one partner can dissolve away feelings of insecurity, jealousy and yes, even loneliness within the love relationship. You see because of our closeness to the jungles of Nature there is a risk that one partner might get dominated and exploited by the other. Things that happen within the family home, such as emotional blackmail and standover tactics usually get 'swept under the carpet' and never shown to the outside community. We can be utter masters of duplicity sometimes with a tendency to present a glowing hollywood image to our neighbors and especially in the idealized context of religious gatherings. Things are not as they are often presented.

Therefore we need a department of defense. Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung and the psychoanalytic psychologists shone a clear light on human defensiveness and our tendency to project things we feel back out onto whoever is out there to receive it. Exactly what do we waste our energy on defending? It's our self concept. It's the picture we hold about who we are socially, and how useful we are to society. The point to make is that positive thinking and reassertion, re-inventing and building self esteem solidly, completely solves this problem! There becomes no need at all for defensiveness. Tons of energy gets 'unbound' and released for happier, creative pursuits like love and play, art, music, self expression.

The lotus bud unfolds and intuition awakens to each vital moment of life. DNA releases its full message and the individual feels light, energetic, breezy. These effects of increasing self esteem are almost magical in their scope and when added to the mix of a loving relationship, then there are no limits to what humanity can achieve. Human potential is truly amazing.

Self help books for personal growth can take you a long way, acting as a catalyst to spark your growth and personal development. Some people may need a face to face coach, mentor or facilitator while others will blossom in a group therapy or master mind group brain storming session. We all have our psychological triggers and buttons to push -- as married couples are so aware of... but let's now turn the coin to positivity and loving when we trigger people into action and reaction. Let's do it for their betterment and growth without feeling personal threat, jealousy or fear. Hint - there's really only one remedy and that's to love oneself first with more elevated self esteem -- like climbing a ladder into the mystical clouds then reaching a helping hand down to help someone else up to the mysterious heavens, one person at a time, one step by one step, until we have lifted our relationship levels into integrity and wholeness.

I possibly raved too much for some people who'll cynically view me as a dreamer. That's one hundred per cent fine as I always expect skepticism. It is even healthy. My answer is ready: "Do your own dreaming. Then take massive action yourself."  It sounds cliche but it works on The Internet. I will drink a cup of ambrosia to your revitalization of core self esteem, your awakening of spontaneity and creativity. It just might blow your mind.

I remain your avid online supporter!

Geoff Dodd, Perth 6000 Australia