They say that experience is a good teacher. Well, if that is true than I should be getting my PhD in heartache very soon. I have been loved and left by the best and worst of men. I had one husband who was twenty four years my senior. I was under the impression that his maturity level would match his age. My second husband was the type that tried to act like he loved me when we were in public with him, but in reality, he was liar and a cheater. My latest boyfriend was a real modern day prince charming. He was all that I thought I could ever want in a man except for one thing. He had a jealous streak a mile long. Those were just the relationships that I've had during my adult life. You see, I am a plus size woman, and many guys think that means that I have low self-esteem and that I'll take whatever crap that a man can dish out. Wrong!

If there are any plus sizers reading this, I understand your pain. I understand the anguish that you may feel when it comes to dating. The opposite sex can be intimidating when you are not feeling 100% sure of who you are. That is the problem that a lot of us face. Just because we carry a little extra padding, that does not mean that we are addled in the brain. We are still caring, affectionate, intelligent human beings that deserve to treated as such. Not to mention the FACT that fat and ugly are far from being the same thing.

Look at some of the celeberties that you see now. There are plus size actors and actresses gracing the small screen and the big one. I have seen so many "big girls" that have the looks of a greek goddess minus the itty bitty waist line, and many of the men are a little more than handsome. Just because a person may have a bit of a larger waistline that does not meant that they are something to sneeze at.

Remember the phrase "don't judge a book by its cover"? Well that is so true. I am not the size six supermodel that most men say that they are looking for, but any man that has taken the time to get to know mehas realized that I am a wonderful woman with a bright mind and more than enough love to keep a man happy all of his days. Even those that have walked away because they could not deal with being the love interest of a plus sizer, have come crawling back wanting to get back into my good graces. They couldn't find the same degree of love and devotion in another woman. I am not saying that a phat (pretty hot and thick) lady or a fat (fun and thick) man would love yo better than someone who stays fit and trim. I am just saying that don't miss a good thing because of a few extra pounds.

Leave me a message. Let me know what you think about this topic, and join me next time when I talk about another subject that affects the heavier population: self-esteem. Many of us have very little, but too many of us have WAY too much. Read me later. I'll tell what I think.

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Toodles!!