How can I stop my child being bullied?

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By coralmilburn


How to Protect Your Child From Bullies

Is your child being bullied at school? Are you fed up with an educational system that preaches ‘zero tolerance', but practises the opposite?

Do you want to be able to do something about it?

How to Protect Your Child From Bullies by Coral Milburn-Curtis, is an essential guide for every parent worried that their child is being picked on at school. This book gives parents and children the right tools to fight back against the bullying that can blight a child's life.

Coral Milburn-Curtis is a highly experienced school principal, and this indispensable guide is full of useful information that every concerned parent will want to read.

Bullies will never change their ways, and if we want OUR children to be safe, then we have to teach them how to protect themselves in non-aggressive and non-threatening ways.

This book isn't just a useful guide for school issues, but can also be used in any situation that bullying is present, from the work-place even to abusive relationships.

Safeguard the happiness and security of your child, and buy a copy now!

Price: £9.99 paperback; £3.50 download

Preview the book at www.lulu.com and buy it here in the UK and here worldwide.

How to Protect Your Child From Bullies

How To Protect Your Child From Bullies, available from www.amazon.co.uk in the UK and www.lulu.com worldwide.
How To Protect Your Child From Bullies, available from www.amazon.co.uk in the UK and www.lulu.com worldwide.

About the Author

Hi! I'm Coral.

As a freelance educator, when people say 'what do you do?', I always say that I give parents what they want for their kids by helping to keep them happy and motivated to learn.

For years I had a proper job! I taught kids in inner cities, African townships and rural England, was the headteacher of two state primary schools in the UK, led the Department of Education Excellence Awards team and inspected schools for OFSTED. One of my schools was dubbed by the press as the 'Best School in England' for 6 years in a row.

As 'Master in Charge of the Choristers' (yes - 'Master') I had the privilege of taking the boys of Magdalen College Choir all over the world, an inspirational experience I will never forget.

More recently, I have followed my passion to help parents to free themselves of worry over the dreadful scourge of bullying. This book represents my experience of 35 years in helping parents whose children find themselves victims of bullying. I truly believe that it is our responsibility to impart the skills of self-preservation to all of our children. My book shows you how to do this.

This is why we have to put an end to bullying ...

This story is about your son, my son, the lad next door ...

Jonathan Reynolds, a 15-year-old in South Wales, was killed by a train after he laid on the tracks to commit suicide in January 2006 because he had been bullied in school over his sexuality, an inquest heard last week. According to the Times Online, Reynolds had confided to a friend he was gay just weeks earlier.

The paper reports: "Moments before he died, Jonathan Reynolds sent harrowing text messages to his family telling that them they were not to blame for what was about to happen. A passer-by saw him holding the mobile as he lay down on the tracks in front of a train travelling at 85mph (136km/h) through Pencoed railway station near Bridgend, South Wales. In his last text message sent to his father, Mark, and his 14-year-old sister, Samantha, the teenager wrote: 'Tell everyone that this is for anybody who eva said anything bad about me, see I do have feelings too. Blame the people who were horrible and injust 2 me. This is because of them, I am human just like them. I hope they rot in hell 4 what they made me do. They know who they are.' He added: 'None of you blame urself mum, dad, Sam and the rest of my family. This is not because of you.' A postmortem examination showed that Jonathan, who achieved a grade A in his GCSE Welsh oral exam on the day he died, had a blood-alcohol level three and a half times the legal limit for driving."

A man walking his dog was witness to Reynolds' final moments: "He had a mobile in his hand. I called out and said, 'Get off the track'. He looked at me and just put his head back down and I saw him walking across the track. I was walking across the bridge and he was walking across the track and he seemed to lie down and the train came."

Surely this can't go on in this day and age?

So where do you start?

Begin by creating a safe environment for your child to tell you what is happening. Often children are embarrassed to tell an adult what has happened, thinking that their parents will blame them. Start with, 'Sometimes children at school pick on other ones or say mean things to them. Does this ever happen to you?'

Strengthen the idea that if they are being bullied, it is not their fault. Tell them, 'the bully is the one with a problem, not you. Bullies pick on people for the need to have power, but this is just because they have problems of their own, not because of anything you have done.'

Don't teach your children to hit or fight back; it will only make things worse. Use this progressive five step plan:

* Ignore them

* Move closer to some friends or an adult

* Ask the bully to stop

* Tell him/her firmly to stop

* Tell an adult

If this was a one-off incident, then telling an adult will probably put a stop to it. But if this is not the case, and if the bullying is persistent, then you must not ignore it - it will surely get worse.

Of course you must notify teachers whenever an incident happens and be prepared to be persistent until they take notice! Say something lie, 'Would it be possible to have a class discussion about bullies, or to separate my child from those who are bothering them?'

You can get support from parents who are going through similar problems here.

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nikkiu  says:
5 weeks ago

Great Hub.

Parents everywhere would benefit from reading this -well done!

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