WAYS TO OVERCOME YOUR INFERIORITY COMPLEX

I have written a hub on signs that you may have this inferiority complex. Now, since this not really a healthy attitude, let me give you tips that might work on how to overcome it. First, let me try to dissect how we developed this mind-set. Let's focus on the root cause then proceed to the actions we can possibly take to conquer these feelings.

Number one likely reason is rejection. It could be you had a not-so-good experience when you were a kid that led you behave like you will always be rejected, and will forever be unloved and unappreciated. Another possible cause could be having people you know who became so successful in a short span of time, and you, on the other hand, have been trying your luck for the longest time but you always take the back seat when you and your relatives or friends talk about career and love. Thus, you started feeling sorry about yourself, you become so pessimistic that you feel you will just stay stagnant until your last breath, and you do not have any plan on proving others and yourself your worth. Physical appearance can also play a major role on why you would feel inferior over the others. If you are too fat or too skinny, you'd wished you have that built that makes guy drool. If you have acne, you feel like everyone will point at you and laugh till they die. These really builds extremely low self esteem, that you just want to hide in the closet forever until they all the people go away.

 I admit that i feel inferior at times, specially when talking to intellectual men.  I would feel like I can't really compare myself to them since they have come a long way and I am just starting or i will always be a starter.  But I am trying real hard to be more confident now.

Since I have already given some of the possible root causes, let me focus now on how we can defeat this mind-set.

• EVALUATE YOURSELF POSITIVELY - People with high inferiority complex has the tendency to pay no attention to their own achievements, because they are more focus on what others are doing that make them sulk more and think they're useless. Reflect on what you did. If you think you really did great, make that idea sink into your stubborn head that you can do something excellent after all. If others praise you for a job well done, say thank you and accept the fact that you indeed did a very great job.
• TAKE FEEDBACK POSITIVELY - If you were given a feedback, take it constructively.  Take it as a challenge, as a learning curve to succeed and not a hindrance to your success.  Just put it this way - opinions are not given to destroy you...they are meant to give you ideas on how to improve yourself or what you're doing.
• EVERYONE IS UNIQUE - Everyone is unique in one way or another. Write down what exceptional qualities you may have on a piece of paper or jot it down on your palm top or something. Think about the skills that you may have that your friends don't. Identify what your unique qualities are and develop it further to outshine others.
• BUILD YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE - Erase the ideas that you are not smart enough, that you're too boring to be true or you look like really plain. Building confidence will really help you big time overpower inferiorities. Always remember that you're more than a million worth than any other human being and you can join group of intelligent people talking about business because you are so good at it. It's the attitude that really counts.
• TRY AVOIDING NEGATIVE IDEAS - If you are having doubts or you're hearing something at the back of your mind that it will not work, or you'll never succeed, IGNORE IT. Just keep on trying until you achieved something. If you enteratin negavtive thoughts, you'll need to start from scratch again.
• TAKE RESPONSIBILTY - Do a reality check. Take responsibilty for everything that may happen in your life. Tell yourself that it's only you who have the power to make your life better, and no one else. End result? You'll feel goof in and out.
• FORGET THE PAST AND MOVE ON! - If you developed your inferiority complex because of how you were like when you were a kid, that you have been called names, teased and laughed about, It's about time that you forget what happened and prove them wrong. Childhood memories can really create a big impact as you grow older. But just think that you will not get any younger and better if you will still bring your past to the present.
• ACCEPT FAILURES - If you fail, take it as a challenge. Failure should always make you a stronger person. Create a mind-set that you will never learn at all if you don't fail. Reflect on what could be the reason of the failure and how you can turn it into a victory after. What can you do to improve next time?
• FOCUS!FOCUS! - Focus on your strengths and not your weaknesses. Once you have already identified your strong points, develop it. If you think you are a good writer, then write hubs, create a book or something.  If you think you can sing, then join a chorale or enrol to a singing lesson.  If you are a bit overweight, then hit the gym and loose those extra pounds.
• FINISH WHAT YOU'VE STARTED - If you were on a project or a campaign, make sure that you finish what you started, because once you see it all done and you are the creator, you will feel good about yourself for achieving something you think you can't.