sex

Im not a parent but I am a teenager and i have a little advice for parents. Me being a technical (i'll explain later) virgin at 18 kind of limits my experience but i do know how teenagers feel when questioned about sex. Since I am a teenager fresh out of high school i have a lot of time to watch TV and one of my favorite channels is Lifetime. Well i realized in every show when the mother is worried about her daughter having sex she brings it up by accussing them because they were out late with their boyfriends. Now I'm not saying its wrong to ask because of course you're curious and want to know but there is a way to go about it. When you accuse your daughter of having sex you are forcing them to lie to you because right off the back your letting them know you will be angry if they answer is yes.

The best way to approach this subject is having a mother daughter day or a father daughter day. Just hanging out having a good time talking about random things, life because of course just because you live with your children doesnt mean you know everything they are going through. And ask with no type of anger in your voice and try not to sound so hopeful meaning don't sound like you want them to say no because then they will just because they don't want t disappoint you. Just sound curious.

But I do have to add that a lot of kids as well as teens do not believe that oral or anal sex is sex. i know because for a while i didnt belive it either that's why i called myself a technical virgin because i refuse to give up the title if i never really felt the pleasure anyways. i hope this helps cause i was being completely honest so that from a teenage point of view you would see where your teenager is coming from.

drugs and alcohol

Allow your teenagers friends to come to your house. Meet them, get close to them, so close that they even start calling you mom or dad. You wanna know who your kids are hanging out with and your kids will appreciate it too because their friends will always tell them how cool you are. Plus if your kids friends trust you they will tell you anything you wanna know about your kids even if it slips. I know it may make you feel uncomfortable but if you suspect their using drugs check their book bags search their room don't make it too obvious of course because one you could lose their trust and they WILL start hiding things better so that you wont find it. Of course if you find something confront them on it.

it's never a good idea to act like your ok with them drinking or smoking or doing drugs because they will lose respect for you. A lot of teenagers have sex so let them know your fine with it as long as they are using protection and birth control but also let them know that it is not ok for them  to do it in your house if you let it happen in your house it strips you of your rights for respect. Thats just my opinion.

hope this helps. :)