For the Lord of Israel said that he hated putting away (matt. 2:16) ("the wife) is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (Rom 7:2)

Divorce means to set free, undo a bond, give liberty, to release or cut part. A legal divorce is the absolute end of marriage contract while the two parties are still alive. In the bible Moses initiated or permitted it (Deut. 24:1-4); while Jesus disanulled it, thus restoring the original status of marriage. In the beginning it was not so".

Why you must not divorce

God at the inception of marriage, made it to be a permanent relationship (TILL DEATH DO US PART) Rom 7:1-3, Matt. 19-4-5.

God said that He hates divorce. In fact, putting away is considered to be a treacherous act before the Lord (Matt. 2:14-15).

Another reason why you must not divorce is because it makes both partners potential adulterer or adulteress (Mk 10:10-12)

There are few situations when separation or divorce in marriage could take place

Marital infidelity (Adultery or fornication)

Jesus allowed divource or separation hypothetically on the ground of infidelity. But one cannot remarry if you are separated from your wife or husband as long as your partner is still alive (Rom 7:1-3)

However, the same scripture advocates love and forgiveness in all circumstances and at all times. Forgive us our tresspass as we forgive those that trespasses against us.

Definitely, forgiving an unfaithful spouse in marriage is not an easy task, but we need to reach out to the Lord for grace to do so (Lk. 17:3-4)

There is no sin that is too big to be forgiven. Therefore true forgiveness means no divorce.

If the unbelieving partner separates;

No believer is allowed to divorce his unbelieving wife or her unbelieving husband, as long as the spouse is willing to stay in marriage. (I cor. 7:10)

There are situations where the unbelieving spouse decides to separate on his/her own. As a Christian you would be free to live a single life with clear conscience before God; but such a person cannot remarry as long as his/her partner is alive. What God wants is peace or reconciliation.

Some causes of divorce in our society

Failure to leave and cleave

Barrenness/lack of male siblings

Unforgiveness

In-laws problems

Loss of love

Infidelity

Loss of Job/Poverty

False prophecy

Terminal illness

Consequences of divorce and remarriage

Opting for divorce and remarraige means you are not ready to forgive or reconcile.

Hatred, enmity and strife are visible results

Sin of adultery is a common consequence

Usually, the children are the helpless victims, they suffer from different degrees of lack or neglect.

Psychologically, financially, materially and socially.

It is a trauma that children have to live with throughout life.

Moreover, there is the extended effects on close friends, associates and extended family

There is also the project effect on the society and the church at large.

Final end of marriage contact

Once marriage is contracted, it remains indissoluble except wihen one's partner dies.

Death is the only condition that ends marriage vows, it dissolves the marraige bond and gives the living partner freedom to remarry if he wishes to.

Therefore, only widows and widowers are scripturally permitted to remarry

He or she could only remarry in the Lord. ie. He or she could only marry a born again Christian.

Finally, those loosened as a result of marriage restitution are free to remarry (1Cor. 7:27-29).

Marriage was ordained y God in the beginning to be permanent. It is for life. It is a three cord covenant (i.e man, woman and God) Even when man and woman agree to break the contract that could not nullify God's part of the covenant. Only death dissolves all marriage vows.

Once you are married, you will throughout life (forever) live with your partner's strengths and weaknesses. TILL DEATH DO US PART.

This is how we do it as christian and i share it

Pray to receive a leading to a particular brother or sister

Once you are sure you should go and discuss with your pastor as a christian

The pastor would pary and invite the brother or siter in question for discussion/counselling

The mentioned brother or sister would be counselled to seek the face of God concerning a life partner

The pastor may not disclose the name of the brother or sister that came with a proposal.

If the mentioned brother or sister comes back with a leading to the person that came, witht he initial proposal, the Pastor would arrange to bring the two together for prayers so that their courtship could start formally.

If you are led to a person outside " your church you must discuss with your Pastor first.

The pastor would then write on your behalf to the pastor of the sister in question

No courtship start without the formal approval of the pastor as sincere children of God.

The Bible is very blunt that people should not commit adultery or have divorces. Having adultery in the U.S. is not a crime and neither is divorce, is that what God says? If the U.S. law followed the Bible, however, then adultery and divorce would be illegal. The Bible also says that sexual immorality is wrong. Once again, if the laws followed the Bible, then pornography, masturbation, fornication, homosexuality, and a host of other sexual behaviors would be outlawed.

The laws following the Bible could easily turn into a slippery slope, which is exactly why it is illogical to claim that something should be a law simply because the Bible says a behavior is wrong. Furthermore, if every law conformed to the Bible, then everybody in the country would be forced to exhibit ideal Christian behavior. Christians would no longer have to rely on their faith to fight life’s temptations; Christians would simply have to obey the law.

I can see how lawmakers of a particular country would rely on the Bible for some of its laws, but the laws should not all be taken verbatim. Every country is different and even the Bible says to follow the laws of our own government (to an extent).

Why should two people be bound together if they no longer want to be bonded? "So often it is just one of the two who is tempted to quit, while the other wants to work at making a success of the marriage," writes Russell Shaw in Our Sunday Visitor's Encyclopedia of Catholic Doctrine. Unfortunately, No-Fault Divorce law allows one person to declare in court that the marriage is irreconcilable. If a spouse counters that the marriage is reconcilable, that is no defense; the judge simply forces the divorce on an unwilling partner. Before the first No Fault Divorce was adopted in California in 1969, a partner had to agree to the divorce. He or she had leverage to press for genuine reconciliation, or, failing that, to demand alimony as well as child support or possession of the house. The price was high enough for some warring partners to reconcile their differences. In other cases, at least a more equitable settlement was possible. Sadly, virtually every state now has No Fault Divorce. In her book, Stolen Vows, Judy Parejko writes, "Courts have stolen peoples' ability to make promises to each other."

At this critical juncture of social history, we must realize that being pro-father provides the necessary background source, and in fact is the litmus test, for forming balanced answers that will produce truly-effective pro-marriage and pro-family initiatives benefiting all Americans.

Now here is the long-overdue civil-rights issue we have all been waiting for that effectively ends the same-sex marriage issue: We must now grant to fathers the same right to be in the family as we have granted to women in the workplace.

Same-sex marriage would make this forever impossible. Most importantly, it would be the final end of heterosexual marriage the very first civil rights institution that has naturally equalized gender power since the day the Magna Carta was signed in 1215.

Three states have passed a modest reform of No Fault Divorce: the Covenant Marriage Law first adopted in 1997 by Louisiana under the leadership of then Rep. Tony Perkins, who is currently President of the Family Research Council in Washington. Couples are given a choice to enter a standard marriage, or a fortified "Covenant Marriage" in which the couple solemnly declares that "marriage is a covenant between a man and a woman who agree to live together as husband and wife for as long as the both may live...We have received premarital counseling on the nature, purposes and responsibilities of marriage. We have read the Covenant Marriage Act, and we understand that a Covenant Marriage is for life. If we experience marital difficulties, we commit ourselves to take all reasonable efforts to preserve our marriage, including marital counseling." In effect, the law permitted couples to waive their rights to no-fault divorce, and to choose a marriage license written in permanent ink, not one with disappearing ink. Divorce is possible, but only after counseling and for such serious faults as adultery, abandonment, physical or sexual abuse, habitual intemperance, or living apart for two years. Similar laws passed in Arizona and Arkansas.