So you wanna kill yourself?-Have you ever wondered why we don't have a self destruction button?
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I know I have, for some odd reason, for me suicide was always an available option if I felt life was not worth living. Sadly for many, this is an available option and they jump towards it with success. What possible reasons may a person have to want to take their own life?
As many answers, as many minds, any reason is good enough for somebody to want to end it all
· A love affair gone wrong
· A loved one’s decease
· Financial problems
Any reason what so ever can become THE REASON, but do they ever wonder what happens next?
As per Christianity and the Bible, he who commits suicide incurs in the same sin as the one that commits murder, for its self-murder. And as per all sins the afterlife that awaits the sinner is hell for eternity. Yet although not a promising outcome, many feel the weight of their pain unbearable enough to try, after all, as live people we have no proof whatsoever of what happens after we die. Speculations, books, programs, and many different points of view yet no final answer, the final will be after all, the final.
My experience
I was alone, scared, lost and in deep, deep pain, so deep that those days more than ever, I fought god for not installing a “self destruct button” because I didn’t feel “courageous” enough to end it all. Until I started reading about who we really are; spiritual beings involved in this human experience, I had heard about this before, but for some reason, that day, Boom! It hit me, “this is who we are”. For some reason at that time added to how I felt, really dug into me and made me think. I started meditating more, and was actually excited with the thought of myself in the lotus position in my little apartment. After some time doing this, my life drastically changed and that suicidal thought left my mind forever.
This was the book that changed my life
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Manifest Your Destiny: The Nine Spiritual Principles for Getting Everything You Want
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Meditations for Manifesting : Morning and Evening Meditations to Literally Create Your Heart's Desire
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You see, we come into this life to live and experience certain things, the exact thing our soul needs to evolve, unfortunately, most of us, if not all, learn thru painful or uncomfortable experiences. (If we get burned we never put our hands in the stove!) When the experiences or opportunities get too hard to handle, we tend to fall into depressions, anxiety and sometimes we simply disconnect from reality.
For some, these lessons continue one after the other and if vulnerable enough and disconnected from what energizes us as the great force, God or The Universe we just loose focus and want to give up on all.
If we finally succumb, give up and finally decide this life is not worth living any longer and actually go thru with the ending of it,
What about our souls? What about our lessons?
Well, we actually come back, just as it happens with the school systems; if we don’t pass a semester or we fail a class, we must repeat it. Such is life; we must then relive those experiences until we finally “pass” them and move on to other opportunities. We obviously do not re-live our exact past life, or exact experience, but we come back and experience something similar or even worse until we learn from it, we learn how to overcome it.
Life is an extraordinary journey, beautiful, difficult, full of challenges that me must learn to overcome with grace. For some it is thru their spiritual faith, going to church, reading the bible, for others, like me, it’s the meditating that keeps me connected to my Source. And the biggest way to overcome painful, uncomfortable or simply bad situations is with laughter, always laugh.
· Laughing burns calories (10-20 cal)
· When laughing, you cannot be mad, it is simply not possible!
· It lightens and makes any load much lighter if humor is involved
Always maintain a positive attitude towards all experiences, “even when the going gets tough, the tough gets going!”
See thru the pain, the hurt, the anger or the anxiety, there is and will always be a better outcome than expected, read, look for help, talk, meditate, pray, travel and laugh!
Try it, what’s there to loose? Odds are better than loosing everything!
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Laughter The Best Medicine: The Healing Powers of Happiness, Humour and Joy
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Here are some good links if the thought is still in your mind
These are other great books that have changed my life
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In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want
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Your Erroneous Zones
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The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
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Thank you so much for that refreshing comment, and yes I am very happy to live differently and loving life. ooh and I am very excited to hear about the hubnugget!! woo hoo!
Blessed be my friend!
Nice Hub! You give very good advice, not just for someone looking to end it all, but for everyone.
I like the fact that you are trying to give some positive input to people who consider suicide.
But on the other hand, I really hate it that you push the "reincarnation" myth in the same article.
Don't get me wrong, if believing this got you through your difficult time, bless you. But when you present it like "fact" as you do, it puts me of.
K@RI thank you so much for that comment!
Essy84 thank you so much for your comment as well, yet I must tell you, I don't consider that I am "pushing" the reeincarnation "myth" into my writing. I explore different points of views, such as the christian view that sends this suicide soul into hell and the metapysical point of view . I do comment this is the way I see it but don't impose the thought as the "trully only one" or "fact" either.
One of the magical things that writing does is that allows the writer to explore, pretend, dive into subjects, defend or expose subjects or issues one way or another and the reader then accepts, believes, reacts, debates and interprets whatever they feel is their correct point of view or simply enjoy the matter and accept it. So once again I thank you for participating in this magical ride with me
Blessings for all
I love it when a revelation comes, as you experienced. If indeed we have to come back and have similar expriences until we get it right I sure hope I'm learning a lot this time around.
I love your comment, just love it mulberry1 thank you so much! indeed we are always walking towards a better place, always improving our lives, our experiences, our happiness
blessed be my friend!
i have a friend who gets mad if i try to use humor to lighten a situation...she does get mad while she's laughing...nonetheless, great hub!
Thanks for the comment, yes I have no idea why, there are people that get extremely mad at happiness. I tend to laugh a lot! and about anything, specially those "bad" things that happen, we have to invert the feeling and just laugh about them. We win nothing when we hold on to anger, remorse, yet laughing can be so healthy, it's a no-brainer really.
Glad you enjoyed, blessed be!
Great article! At one time, I never understood why someone would consider taking their own life. Then, I found myself within a separation, in which there was not one single thing I could do to make things better no matter how hard I tried, or wanted to try. Still, even though I now slightly understood why someone would attempt to take their own life, I could not even consider doing such a thing as I knew that with God I lived, and moved, and had my being.
Pain there definitely was, but love there also was, and more than enough in my situation. Perhaps when a person has the pain without the love, the taking of their life seems like a good option, yet, their loved ones will have to carry the burden for their lives from that point on, which seems like a terrible burden to place on someone else.
Thank you so much for your comment daveearly, in deed separations may become so painful that unfortunately,those going through it at times think that suicide is an escape route. I am happy to hear you felt God's immense love and compassion way before you tried it
Blessings always
When you are depressed it is so hard to try to pull back out of it - takes so much effort and time. And it can be so easy to slip back into the depression. But most people do keep working at it -- dragging themselves back out of the muck of sadness over and over again. I read that some people are just born with a brain that has a harder time than others at staying happy. And some people brains keep them laughing more than most.
When I am deeply depressed the idea of coming back to this earth to live again if I end my present life is really depressing - I just want there to be nothing once I am dead. Yep, I think I may be one of those people that seem to have a harder time than others at keeping a happy outlook. But I keep working at happiness daily. Being outside, close to nature walking my dogs seems to help keep my spirits up.
Thanks for this hub.
Joni thank you so much for your comment,
I understand your feelings completely, for some unknown reason for me everyday of my life prior to that moment (described above) I always had that thought of death on my mind. Everyday! I could feel happy, I could feel in love, I could feel realized yet if I was to get on a plane I would think to myself, why doesn't it fall? Everytime I got in my car: Why don't I crash and die on my way?
It is horrible to feel this, even worse the fact that you don't understand the reasons.
I started meditating, using affirmations, Joni they work, they really work. Read some Louise Hay books, if you're not up for reading, look for guided meditation cds, Wayne Dyer has several so does Louise Hay. There are ways to start fighting those feelings. If you are not a religious person, try to find a Higher Power, search for something that makes you feel connected. Look for them, you will find them, once you do and you connect to that universal energy I can guarantee based on my first hand knowledge you will be on your way to feeling better with life and death. I am not saying that you do not need medical help or drugs for depression bouts, but they will change your life, the way you live and the way you see the future.
Thank you so much for letting me know that these words may be of assistance, may you have rich blessings, health and find mental and spiritual peace my friend.
Namaste
Performing suicide is a momentary decision. It may be due to depression and anxiety at that stage. After some time it may change. Believe in yourself rather than depending on other's love and care.
Thank you for sharing your detailed information!
ripplemaker says:
10 months ago
Hi Alana Obe, as I read your hub I come to realize that for many people it can be tough to face pain and burdens and the longing to escape is always on the mind. It is with joy that I read your experience of how you are able to go beyond this turmoil and found ways that have helped you.
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