We get stressed out in office, home, boyfriends, partners, friends leaving our minds in a completely battered situation. It's not always that we get the expected results, behavior or support from our counterparts in office, home and people/circumstances in our lives. We were expecting a salary hike and good bonus, but what we get is a severance package. In this economy where everyone is getting stressed out in the fear of losing their jobs are greatly affected. The ones who were already a part of the downsizing, their fear is over, but again in anticipation of not having a job leaves them completely frustrated. Again, at home, things don’t work out or the support is not there as expected. What we didn't think bothered us at our good times, now bothers us a lot. Sometimes, our extended families gets involved and they leave us more stressed out as none can understand what we are going through or they don’t meet our expectations or we are not meeting their expectations.

To get rid off of our frustrations, we are advised of doing yoga, exercise, positive thoughts, meditation…but does it work instantly. In most of the cases it takes longer than expected. in this ever-evolving world where Darwin's dictum rules-" survival of the fittest", we need to be fittest to survive. If, we for a moment lose our reputation which we guard with our lives, our reputation will sink below zero and someone else will take advantage of our momentary stress or stupidity. In this world, everyone is looking for an opportunity and the moment they can see the holes in our reputation, they will point out and stand aside and be the benefited. Therefore, we need to take control before it overwhelms us with setbacks.

To understand exactly what causes stress, we need to do an RCA of our stress – it’s caused by anger, frustration or grief. However, these are all interrelated and one leads to another. Anyways, after identifying the cause, we need to fix it. I always felt writing out your goals, expectations, mistakes, desires or ‘why setbacks’ help us to identify and analyze and make us more determined. Now, let’s see the process step-by-step and see if it works for you.

The first step is to list out your frustrations, blames, anger.

Secondly if it’s more of people involved, name the persons. If it’s situational, write down the situations.

Thirdly, think of all that you wanted to say when you were angry and frustrated. But, of course hurting someone is not acceptable as you still have to be in your human form and can’t be a sub-human.

Fourthly, write down the things that you wanted to tell them to ease out frustration. Write on a notebook and you will see that the moment you start to ease out your frustration, you will be relieved. Write funny stuff on them and it will make you smile when you think of it. But, this might heal you only temporarily. For a permanent solution, say yes to Yoga and exercise, your hobby….

These are some of stress-busters .they are funny, but works.

Things I wish I had said in my life till now:
1. Mother-in-law: She loves to watch the daily astrological predictions on TV. I want to appear on TV and tell her “You will go digging for treasure today…What you find depends on how far your finger is up your nose or up your ass”
2. The Bitch: loves to brag…send her up on a hot air balloon after feeding her beans
3. Husband: an inconsiderate jerk …when he is hopping mad…I want to ask him if there is a chilly farm in his rear (my husband gave me these words. fabulous)
4. Ex-Boyfriend: I wish you were here…my manmeat
5. Lechers: wait till you get stuck withal nymphomaniac

6. Nagging Neighbors: why don't you take your ass off my life?

7. Relatives: Morons, do you think I need your sugar coated comfort

Ah! What a relief... makes me feel good