How Not to Let an Arrogant Ass Mess with Your Mind
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We Must Guard Our Sub-conscious Mind
Charles
Haanel, writer of the infamous MasterKey System, speaks about the
"world within" and how it dictates what will manifest into our reality
or circumstance. The world within is your sub-concious mind. In more
simplistic terms, what you think about, you bring about. When we study and learn more about the power of our subconsious mind
we understand how important it is to guard or protect it. Really, that
is the biggest job your conscious mind has! To protect and to decipher
for the sub conscious mind.
The sub-concious mind does not differentiate any information that is
presented to it. It does not "think". It simply accepts messages as
truth. Imagine if your subconscious mind is continuously being given
erroneous information and accepts it as truth without question. We must take measures to use our conscious mind to assess, accept or reject information.
Now,
you can consciously reject information, but if you subject your self to
the same bad information repeatedly, you are going to hamper your
progress. You see, it is not just what you think about the information
presented, but how you feel about it that will determine what you
actually manifest. The intensity and frequency of those feelings
matters - a lot.
For
example, if you are working in an atmosphere where your ideals conflict
with the policies and/or procedures, you are placing yourself in a
position of having to continuously "filter", and along with that
filtering, you are likely experiencing negative thoughts and feelings.
It bogs you down and interferes with your personal progress. Without
re-writing the MasterKey System or the Science of Getting Rich, or
other great publications on the subject, let me just say it is vitally
important that we choose our affiliations wisely.
As
creators of our own destiny, we have the right and the responsibility
to choose who we surround ourselves with. Admittedly, there are some
relationships that may be detrimental to your development that you
cannot just leave. This is particularly true when we consider our
family. Like they say, you don't get to choose your family! You may
have a family member who is less than supportive. There are measures
you can take to protect yourself and your psyche from a negative family
member - we'll deal with that another day.
While
you can't necessarily choose your family members, you CAN choose your
business partners. You can choose your leaders and you can choose what
kind of leader you want to be. So how do you know who to listen to?
Who to "hang out" with? It is not always simple. Allow me to
illustrate with a real life example from my own experience, one that
inspired the writing of this article.
The King and His Subjects (aka minions) My Personal Dilemma...
I
have been part of a "mastermind" group that is led by a truly brilliant
individual. I have great respect for his skill set and am desirous of
learning from him. The struggle comes in how I feel about being a
member of this group. The overall atmosphere is not always positive,
and it is my opinion that the leader has an ego issue. By that I mean
that he either has an inflated ego, or he is masking insecurity. He
has quite a large following of, what I refer to as, minions. The
minions are quick to lavish him with praise and admiration, and he
appears to thrive on it. Those of you who know me, know that I have
little patience for the arrogant and self serving...
Those
in the group who do not engage in praising the leader (the free
thinkers) receive little to no positive recognition. Virtually
everyone in the group is "afraid", or at least hesitant, to voice
opinions that oppose or challenge the leader's. The tone is frequently
condescending, and those brave enough to present an idea or thought not
supporting those of the leader are shut down quickly - often in a
humiliating way.
Even
as I type that, and reflect on it, I am asking myself... what could the
dilemma be? Clearly this is not a healthy environment! You may be
thinking the same thing. You may be thinking that you would not remain
in such a group; at first glance, I would certainly be thinking that
way! And if it was as black and white as it "appears" here explained
in text, it would be simple. But real life isn't that black and
white. Some of the members of this group would think I was crazy, that
my perceptions are way off. They may not share my beliefs about the
leader and especially the minions, may feel very positive about the
atmosphere.
All the Cool Kids are Doing It
That's
the thing about being an individual. Two people living the exact same
experience, can in fact have two very different experiences - it's all
about perception. In the scenario I just described, many people may be
feeling and thinking much as I am, but they are so desirous of being a
part of the group, of being accepted by the leader and his minions,
that they will even go so far as to CHANGE their own ideals. Don't
roll your eyes or laugh. Think about when you were in high school and
the things you would do or say to be accepted into the "cool" gang. It
truly takes a strong and confident person to withstand peer pressure.
A group of wannabe pro marketers is very similar to the teenager
finding his or her way in the world. An otherwise confident and self
reliant adult can become an awkward gangly teenager seeking acceptance.
In
addition, the struggle may also be that there is some great content and
there is much that one can learn if able to separate the "politics"
from the content. Theoretically, I know that I CAN do that. I can
take what works for me and leave what doesn't, but my concern is what
this environment, this exposure will do to my mindset. Am I doing an
adequate job of protecting my subconscious mind? To find the answer to
that, I need to pay attention to my thoughts and feelings.
At
least once per day, I feel anger about something that occurs in my
example mastermind group. Frequently it is because an individual is
humiliated. Other times I feel irritated by the "politics" and then
there are times that I am entertained and amused by it. Still other
times, I watch in fascination at the various personalities and how they
react. More than anything, my interest in human psychology keeps me in
the group. Watching the leader and the minions is, in its own right,
educational.
Given
that it is our feelings that have the greatest impact on what we
manifest, my decision must be to either focus only on the positives, or
if that proves too difficult, to leave the group. If this was a job
that I was dependent upon for income, it would behoove me to focus on
that job as being a stepping stone in my journey to my end goal.
Viewing the job as a necessary step in my progression would cause me to
feel genuine gratitude.
In
my actual situation however, I could quite possibly learn the same
skills through another venue; one that is more in sync with my ideals.
If that is the case, my progress would most likely be more swift. I
think I may have made my decision... but I'm curious...
WWYD? (What Would You Do?)
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Comments
hmmm interesting toad... does that mean you are an arrogant ass? lol joking of course!
I am tremendously arrogant!
I like your avatar Rosie the Rivetter...My grandma was one of the best Welder/Rivetters on El Toro Marine Base during WWII. So that pic makes me think of her...nice!
jjrubio - I love all that she symbolizes. Women like your grandma...goldentoad - being self aware is a great thing... might even make up for being tremendously arrogant!
Hi Karen, As always I enjoyed your hub. Thank you for inviting me to have a look.
WWYD is the question of the year Karen, and I'm thinking that you have already made that decision.
However, sometimes these dilemma's drive us crazy and affect our thinking in a large way by giving us thoughts like, we are indespensible to the group or, what are my other friends in the group going to do after I leave.
There is a thought process going on in you that will require some consideration.
It is those love, hate, thoughts.
You may love a lot of the members of the mastermind group and have a preliminary feeling of lonliness that you think you may encounter after your departure.
Then, on the other hand there is the feeling of relief that you are anticipating because you wont be dealing with the bully any more.
Back to the question, WWYD (what would you do).
As you know, I did leave such a group and in all honesty, even tho I did have those previously describe feelings, I am glad I did.
It gave me that long needed feeling of independance that I had been longing for for awhile prior to my leaving.
So, my advice, cut the tie, can't be more blunt than that, and all the best to you and your family.
There is more on Judith's website that may help with the dealings with "those kinds of people". http://judithmunson.com
Thanks Kirsten!
Tom, thanks for your comments. I truly value your opinion, and LOVE Judi's website!
What I would do is make a pros and cons list. Benefits of staying in the group vs. benefits of leaving. Cons of staying in the group vs. cons of leaving. See which list provides the most compelling arguments. Although, from what you describe, your concerns about the group far outweigh your admiration for its leader. How can you respect a leader who uses humiliation and favoritism to this degree? How can you relate to a bunch of sycophantic, masochistic followers? Get out and don't look back. There is a better way for you to improve your mind/life. You will not find it unless you open yourself to it. You cannot open yourself to it if you are embedded in this group. MM
What if you're just an ass? Does it still apply?
As in all relationships -- if the bad outweighs the good, run.
with the current climate.... job wise etc, it is not always easy to make the right choices, sometimes you have to just stick around things simply to earn a living, do you agree









goldentoad says:
8 months ago
I'm not really buying into the philosophy as I tend to get dirty with life and negative energy, but I enjoyed the read