1. Stimulating the Woman's G-spot

Lovemaking is an art, and every great artist uses techniques to create certain effects. There are many techniques, however your partner is not a machine that responds to you when you press certain buttons or follow step by step manuals. Tantra and the art of Tantra massage are skills that must be learned.

There are three areas you should pay special attention to, these are; emotional, spiritual and physical. And take time to develop each one. Thaink of your spouse as a tantra goddess!

To give a woman pleasure through the G-spot, don't poke around the vagina looking for a button, the G-spot is an area, not just one spot. It is located on the upper side of the vaginal wall, behind the pubic bone, usually one and half to two inches inside from the vaginal opening. Slowly and gently stroke in a beckoning motion with one or two fingers, only stimulate the area after the woman has been highly sexually aroused or perhaps after she has already had an orgasm. There are many tantra positions that focus on stimulating the g-spot

Most women don't get much pleasure from this area until this happens and that's why premature searching around for the G-spot doesn't work. Orientate your thoughts and intention towards pleasure, loving, healing and awakening the G-spot rather than towards orgasm and performance goals. Learn all of the Tantra massage secret tips and you will have the world at your finger tips, at least the female half of it.

Once you can do this successfully and your partner is highly charged by your stoking on the (sacred tantra spot) then you can explore her orgasmic potential. Tantra and tantric massage are a slow methodical dance you do with your partner. With practice and patients your tantra massage will turn your mate into a tantra goddess.

2. Tantric Secret - Making Eye Contact

Tantra is a spiritual science from ancient India and in its basic essence, very similar to Taoism from China. Both involve balancing the male and female energies to create harmony and have an ultimate goal of union or spiritual ecstasy, known as enlightenment. Tantra encourages one to explore every aspect of life. So obviously the study of sexuality was included, not only included but in fact revered.

The study of sexuality in the west is very new, whereas relics of Tantra date back nearly five thousand years. So there is an incredible wealth of knowledge we can draw on and use in our own lovemaking.

One of the many secrets Kerry and Diane Riley (Authors of "Sexual Secrets for Men", "Tantric Lovemaking" home tantra program and co-creators of the DVD "The Secrets of Sacred Sex") draw upon in their relationship seminars is:-

During lovemaking stop and look. Make eye contact more often and maybe touch the heart center (center of the chest). We need to learn more of compassion for each other and ourselves and Tantra is about exploring this through being in relationship. It is learning to open your heart, to be aware of your feelings and your joys and your vulnerabilities as well as your partners.

Without a willingness to discover or learn about love and the heart, the practice of tantra otherwise can easily become ego gratification and purely physical sexual gratification instead of the sexual spiritual blending intended.

Next time you make love try to make more eye contact, perhaps place your hand on their heart chakra. The challenge is for you to feel as much love in your heart for your partner while you are making love.