Teaching Your Children How to Deal with Bullies

Teaching your child how to deal with bullies is very difficult. Not only this, but it is so frustrating to see them in pain, as well. With new technologies comes new methods of bullying, and these days its more vicious than ever. Many parents go through absolute anguish because a lot of the old methods don't work anymore!

I guess you could still call me a child myself. In the past I have been bullied quite frequently, and in fact, its still happening. But it doesn't bother me anymore. I've learnt to deal. And so here is a "child's" perspective on teaching your child to deal with bullies.

Ignoring.

I know we've all said it. Many people roll their eyes at it. But the truth is, once you master it, ignoring is a great defensive tool against bullies. I have done, and it makes a world of difference.

Think happy thoughts...

Like the My Chemical Romance song "Headfirst for Halos", just think happy thoughts. Heck, you can even sing it in your head if you know the lyrics - singing it out loud may bring on further bullying. I sound so corny to myself right now, but happy places are perfect. When I withdraw into mine, I don't know someone's picking on me.

Write letters.

If your child finds that the bully is getting to be too much for them, get them to write a letter. Of course, its never going to be sent. This allows your child to release their bad feelings. The letter may include how the bullying makes them feel, say what they want to do in retaliation, and even swear at the silly bullie [if you allow swearing in your household].

Just leave it be.

You know the saying "What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger"? Well its proved true with me. Often you have to let your child develop their own defensive techniques. Only then will you be assured that your child is fully protected from the dangers of society's bullies.

Credit of this hub has to go to my Mum - for teaching me these techniques.