Family concept is now fading away in some western countries. And as Western countries have influence on Eastern countires, very soon this trend will spread all over the world. And belive it or not this will affect the whole mankind. This will affect our future generations. Family means your near and dear ones like your Mother, Father, Sister, Brother, Wife, Kids. No matter what you say or think about your family members, your personality has a lot of influence from them.

Our thinking, habits, traditions have come from our past generations. Everybody must understand and especially teenagers that family is always there to support you. You need a family to share your joy, to solve your problems, to live a good life. Remember you are just NOBODY without the family.

Nowadays you see that kids just can't wait to get big and independent. They don't want to follow house rules. Teenagers always fight with their parents. They just want the freedom, no bindings, no restrictions. And because of this nature, parents always think their kids are irresponsible. Because of all the arguments, fights and way of thinking the kids starts to hate their parents. And these kids when they grow up they don't even want marriage, kids and all those responsiblities.

For this miscommunication, both parents and kids are responsible. Definitely in any kind pf relationship there must be mutual understanding. But we can not expect kids to be having this much understanding at the early stage of life. As a parent we can definitely change few things. Earlier we start changing few things or implement some basic things it will show better results.

For this parents need to change themselves first.
One basic thing we need for a great relation is the Love. And showing it to your kids is always important. Some people are good at expressing and some are not. Also showing it too much is also not advisable. Buying them everthing that they want and putting them in some activities or classes is not the love. These things will teach them how to love money but not you. Parents knowingly/unknowingly always tell kids about how everything is expensive and all that. But its not a good approach to tell your younger kids about money and other financial things. This is how we start turning our kids in a machine by telling them about the power of money. They start to respect money and not us. Instead of that we can teach them about our grand parents, our country, traditions, culture, social awareness and ofcourse God. This can be easily done with family travel, visits, gettogethers, gatherings, community events.

No matter how busy we are, we need to save some time for our kids. And we can do this if we decide. Weekdays we can get our family dinners together. Weekends we can do few activities together like watch TV or movie with them, play indoor/outdoor family games, go for walk, go for grocery shopping or any shopping, cook with them. Always ask them for the help and appreciate that. Do not take it granted. You can choose anything according to your kids likings. These things are easier when your kids are very young like under 10 or something. But as they get big, we need to change ourselves a bit according to them. And if we will not change, the generation gap will go on increasing day by day.

We can improve their thinking capabilities by answering questions, explaining different situations and by discussing problems and solutions together. And this can be done as early as the age of 4. Instead of shouting and yelling at them, we must tell them the rules,routines and the reasons behind everything. In the begining, may be they will not understand but over the time they will start thinking in the right direction. You can provide nice books, puzzles, games which can improve their concentration.

Almost all the parents do the same mistake. They always think that their kids are not big enough to make decisions or more precisely to do anything at all. Ofcourse it is right to the certain extent but telling them over and over again is not a good way. They will not get big or start understanding things in one day. We should help them grow big by giving them some small responsibilities slowly. Evenif they do some mistakes and sure they will, we must be patient with them. Try to understand their feelings, their age, their problems at their level.
We are not the only one who teach them things in their whole life. But we can build the basic foundation. We don't know the future but we can change their nature. Lets make them think about the feelings not about the earnings. We can not choose the destination as we are not God but we can be Guide. Finally, we don't know the finish line but we can give a good headstart.