Many people have complained that the law of attraction is all about getting material things. Nothing could be further from the truth. The reason many people think it is just about money is because money is something that many people want more of, so therefore there are many enquiries made into finding out to manifest more of it. The fact is the law of attraction can be used to manifest absolutely anything in your life, including better relationships.

In the majority of our relationships we tend to spend a lot of time complaining about the other person. It does not matter if the relationship is between yourself and your spouse, your children, your boss or your neighbors, the fact remains that when we are experiencing problems in our relationships we often spend all of our time finding fault with the other person.

The law of attraction in its simplest terms states that like attracts like, in other words what ever we focus on the most we attract to ourselves. So if for instance you spend all of your time complaining that your children are so untidy, that is what you will continually experience. Understanding this simple definition of the law of can help you to change your behavior and begin attracting positive outcomes.

The first thing to do is stop complaining. I know that it is something that you have grown accustomed to doing, but with a little effort, all habits can be broken.

Next spend your time focusing on what you love and appreciate about the people around you. If you love that your children are always getting good grades, focus on that instead of the fact that they rarely clean their bedrooms. If you want to see the good in a person, just focus on one good thing for a few minutes and you will find that suddenly you can think of a few dozen good things about that person, why? Because “like attracts like.

Sit down somewhere quiet for a few minutes each day and write down all of the things you love about your kids, spouse or who ever. Again doing this frequently, reinforces in your mind that this person is not all bad, it reminds you to think well of this person and focus on their good qualities.

When you see the person(s) think good thoughts about them as they approach you. If you are having problems with your spouse, when you hear his car pull up in the drive in the evening, don’t think to yourself, “oh boy, the old devils home, more arguments and more work for me”.

Replace that with “oh great he’s home I missed him today”. Doing this will send a positive vibration to your partner and this will help to soften the tension between you. Try it for a few days I promise you it works.

I know that in the beginning trying to see the good in the people you have poor relationships with is going to be hard. Most of the time the old thoughts and behaviors will arise when you see these people, but if you want to experience peace, harmony and joy in your life you must take responsibility for your actions and make a commitment to change your thinking. Doing so will release you from the negative bondages of anger, hate, resentment, jealously etc and leave you free to create the utopia in your world that you have always yearned for.