The secret of attracting women
64Have you ever banged your head against the wall because women just don't want to go on a date with you? Have you ever been frustrated because attractive women only see you as a friend? It's because you don't know the secret of attracting women.
You see, if you want to be able to meet and talk to women you have to communicate slightly different than you would to your buddies.Most guys can't do that. They don't know that to get women attracted to you, you need to talk to them on a different level. Atleast 9 out of 10 guys don't have a clue how to do that so they turn to what the media hasbeen telling them would work.
You know...tell a woman how beautiful she is, take her out to dinner, bring her flowers and tell her you like her to show your affection. But does it really work when you want to meet and date a woman in the 21st century? Not really.
This may sound like a shock to you but women don't feel emotionally attracted and would want to kiss you if you behave like the shining knight in armor that rescues the princess.
I know this sounds a bit weird but the only way to make women respond to you sexually is to flirt with them in a special way. Most guys don't know that secret, and that's why they always end up being just another friend or don't even get anywhere in the first place.
Here's what usually happens...
You know this beautiful woman that you really like and want to have a date with,but you just don't know what to say or do to get her. Then, you finally assemble enough courage to walk up to her and ask her "Hi, I saw you a couple times now and just wanted to come over and ask you if you want to have a drink sometime. Or how about dinner tonight?"She will be flattered, think you are cute and that it was a nice gesture of you to come over but has to say "I would but I have a boyfriend, I'm sorry".
So here's my question to you. No it's not a question, I want you to think about this so you get the bigger picture of what's going on here: How come you have so many women that give you the SAME boyfriend excuse over and over again?
Isn't that weird? Could it be that they just want to tell you "Thanks but no thanks" in a nice way?
You bet!
You see, they don't feel sexually attracted to you because you didn't push her right buttons that create that gut level feeling for her.You were just like every other guy out there. What you need is to be DIFFERENT.
Here's what I want you to do from now on:
STOP acting like a clingy, needy nice-guy! Don't ask women out for drinks, don't treat them like a princess and never ever be nice to her.Women are NOT attracted to nice guys, that's why the bad boy always ends up with the girl and the nice guys finish last. In Hollywood movies,the cute nice guy always gets the girl. But in real life it's the complete opposite.
If you want to become a master at the art of attracting women, you need to start acting like a man and not a doormat. Don't be nice, polite and pay them wimpy compliments hoping they will like you. Be a challenge, be cocky and be bad!
So, instead of saying "You know, I just wanted to tell you that you look very beautiful. Can I take you out sometime?" ... be bad and say...
"So what else do you apart from picking up cute guys like me? If you promise to be nice I let you buy me a drink *evil grin*"
Ultimately, being a cheeky bad boy is what gets you the girl. Period!
Anyway...
If there was a single reason for why people don't succeed, its because they don't listen.People don't always want to take advice because they don't think it's the right advice.
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Well I would say somewhere in between...I don't want a whimp...but on the otherhand I don't want a real bad guy. Once you get to know people there are always things you can do to please them. I love flowers and candy and surprises..Just one flower picked from the garden and hid behind your back...Is a real turn on...
Just walking up to a pretty woman and asking her out is an insult. Flirt, tease ,get to be friends. Get to know each other for awhile..there is no such thing as Love at first sight....99 o/o of the time anyway.
Most important is to be yourself...how would you like to be asked out? What is it you are really looking for? Be honest with yourself above all things and trust your heart.
It also depends on the circumstances...a dance...ask her to dance...a bar..ask her if you can buy her a drink and/or dance... If she drops something and you can get it for her without jumping in like a nut...do it..Be kind and a Manly attitude is fine.
Anyway good luck and always be kind and loving God Bless G-Ma :o) hugs
Thanks you.Whimps are not attractive,this is very right G ma.When i say bad guy its not a real bad guy but not also very nice or like yes man.
Topstuff, I agree and at the same time disagree. I truly believe that everyone is different and something that works for one person will turn another completely off.
We all have different personalities, we all like to be given praise, or told things that really are not true, I suppose. But being false is not going to win a persons heart in the long run.
Being like as its said is not as to cheat someone but for to get someone by this or that way.Yes,different ways go to different destinies.thanks Eileen
When I was unattached, I remember a guy coming up to me and asking me out without even establishing a friendly conversation first, where we could get to know each other or purchasing me a drink, etc and it was a turnoff!
Today's generation of women are pretty smart and less needy, so if a guy wants to score with the ladies, having substance, being real, not mean or playing games will attract a real woman.
I WANT a nice guy.. some women like a challenge but so do men. It is human nature. Women like attention... phone calls, nice compliments. We take pleasure in the small stuff!!














compu-smart says:
18 months ago
Hey topstuff, apart from my rugged good looks;) and being very "different" from normal guys, i have never been the one for flowers and the i love yous etc and have had very many long successful relationships and its always been me who has broken things off 99% of the time which I'm not proud of because the only reason for this was being afraid of commitments....I have to say that being bad does not necessarily mean being mean!!
I look forward to comments from people who have a whole different perspective on this!!
;)