The 'In Crowd' and their Parents

The 'In Crow' club has been in existence since the beginning of time; it is a group of people who place themselves above all others. These people are usually vain, selfish, curel, and often violent; the factors that most motivate members of the 'In Crowd' are jealousy, insecurities and weakness.

If the "In Crowd' were advertising for new members, the ad would read as follows: Looking for people who need to validate their worth through means of demeaning another's. If you think that you are better than others and/or more beautiful, then we are looking for you. The requirements are: team player, creative cruelty, hateful demeanor, strong attacker and loyalty to all 'In Crowd' members. If you get enjoyment from putting others down, inflicting pain and making their lives misirable, give us a call.

Parents beware that you are not creating a future 'In Crowd' member. As parents, we have the responisbility to make sure our children are taught respect, for themselves as well as for others, right from wrong, self esteem, good moral conduct, kindness, and of course love. You should never tell your child that that he or she is better than others or more beautiful. You can build self-esteem and confidence in your child without making them vain and overbearing. A simple explaination to your kids, that people who are less fortunate than others, are not less valuable or unworthy, speaks in volume. More often than not, we give our children the wrong signals or advice of how they should carry themselves. We overlook important signs of misconduct, anger and violent behavior. We view aggression in our children as strong character and good survival traits, instead of a sign of cruelty and future trouble.

The 'In Crowd' club begins as early as preschool. The way it starts is Billy will snatch Tommy's toy from him and refuse to give it back. He will then incorporate other kids like him to do the same, and before you know it, you have a group of kids being cruel to other kids for fun. This behavior becomes dangerous in Junior and High school; it causes victims of low self-esteem to fight back in the only way they know how, which is usually school shootings, murder, and suicide. But it doesn't stop there; the 'In Crowd' club is now franchised in the work place. Members of this exclusive club often cause stress to fellow employees and are more times than you realize behind many people loosing their jobs. This act is the factor that began another destructive club called; 'Those who go Postal.'

The curelties inflicted by the 'In Crowd' are limitless. It began with only being able to attack in person, usually at school or work, but wtih the world wide web, the 'In Crowd' can attack at will and ultimately cause more harm. Mistake not, this club is not like joining a fraternity or sorority--although members of the 'In Crowd' often infiltrate these clubs--this club's mission statement is based on a popularity contest; the meaner you are, the more popular you become. Some even have souvenirs of their accomplishments: newspaper clippings of suicides prodded on by them; higher positions at work, and many trinkets collected during attacks.

Signs of an 'In Crowd' member: Can not take no for an answer. The need to always be the center of attention. Never utters a kind word about anyone. Bullies everyone around them. Thinks only of themselves. Authority and power junkies. Enjoys watching others suffer.

If you or your child are members, or God forbid founders, of the 'In Crowd' I advise you to re-evaluate the purpose of your life and the effect your curelties have on others. Put yourself in the shoes of those you often torment and the family members of the many people who have lost loved ones because of the torturing nature of those who belong to the 'In Crowd.'

Some people are stronger than others in mind and body; some are prettier or smarther or faster or more talented, but all have a purpose and a destiny. Don't be the person who prevents another from reaching his or her destiny. Learn to not only accept the diversities of human life, but to embrace and revere it.