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Is Your Teen Cutting Themself - Understanding Why

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By seamist

Is your teen cutting or self-abusing themself?


Introduction

Being a teenager is a time of wideswept changes. Hormones are surging, and emotions are tospy turvey. Consequently, understanding teenager behavior can be difficult and trying for parents. According to DiscoveryHealth.com, health officials report teen cutting has doubled in the last three years. Andrew Levander, clinical director of self-injury treatment program, believes teen cutting has reached epidemic proportions. Furthermore, the Los Angeles Times newspaper claims teen cutting is one of the fastest-growing adolescent behavioral problems. Over the past year, 1 in 7 females and 1 in 5 males have engaged in some type of self-injurious behavior.

Cutting Defined

Cutting is a self-injurious behavior that is caused by the inability to cope with intense stress, emotional pain, or relationships. In addition to cutting, teenagers may self-injure themselves in other ways. These ways can include burning, skin picking, hitting, hair-pulling, breaking bones, and interfering with a wound healing. Teens usually self-injure themselves in areas easily reached including the hands, forearms, stomach, legs, and feet. Although these behaviors are self-abusive, in most cases, they are not associated with suicide attempts.  

Teens at Risk for Cutting

The most common ages for self-injurious behavior to begin is between 10 and 14 years of age. Occurring across all classes, races, and sex, it knows no boundaries. In fact, many famous people have been cutters --- Angelina Jolie, Princess Dianna, and Johnny Depp to name a few. Although some sources state cutting is more frequent among girls, others state it occurs equally in females and males. If cutting is more frequent in females, experts believe it is because women have a tendency to internalize anger whereas men externalize anger.

Self-injury occurs when teens do not have adequate coping skills and may have poor impulse control. According Ruta Mazelis, editor of the newsletter Cutting Edge, cutters are often high-achievers and perfectionists. Children who have been physically or sexually abused are also at risk. It is estimated that 50% of cutters have been sexually abused. Self-injury may also be a symptom of borderline personality disorder, anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia.

 

Rasons Why Teens and Young Adults Cut or Self-Injure

Reasons for Cutting

Although it may be difficult to understand why teens cut, there are several explanations. Teens usually learn about cutting from a friend or in the news. It may first begin  in response to a traumatic event. A loved one dies or parents divorce. Andrew Levander, clinical director of a self-injury treatment center, says it's a form of self-medication. Many teens claim it makes them feel in control. Some claim it deadens the pain; the physical pain overides the emotional pain. Some claim it makes them feel less numb and more alive. Others cut to punish themselves. Still yet, some claim it gives them a high. Apparently, endophins are released after cutting. This may also be part of the reason cutting can become addictive. Like a drug, a tolerance is reached. They have to cut more and more to achieve the same high. Once a teen starts cutting, unless they have had successful treatment, it usually carries on into adulthood.


Signs of Self-abusive Behavior

Regardless of the reasons teens cut, it is usually a secretive behavior. If you suspect your teen is cutting or engaging in other forms of self-injury, look for the following signs.

  • Sharp objects, bandaids, or antibiotic lotion in their room.
  • Unexplained scratches on their body, especially arms.
  • Wearing long-sleeved shirts during warm weather.
  • Spending alot of time by themselves.
  • One of your child's friends is cutting.

Conclusion

Discovering your teen is cutting can be alarming. However, anger, denial, or self-blame will not resolve the problem. Be supportive. Otherwise, they may turn away from you. Cutting can be a cry for help. It is an indication there is a deeper problem. Get professional help. Anti-depressant medications may help. Finally, to break the cycle of cutting, teens not only need to understand the underlying causes of why they cut, but the self-injurious behavior needs to be replaced with  positive coping strategies. Otherwise, another negative behavior like drug usuage may take it's place.

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l1blonde profile image

l1blonde  says:
6 months ago

Very informative Hub. I did not know they started at such a young age.

seamist profile image

seamist  says:
6 months ago

Thank you. Yes, unfortunately they do, and once they begin, it usually becomes a compulsive behavior, and they carry it into adulthood if they don't learn better coping skills.

SarahMichelle  says:
6 months ago

I guess I'm one of a nonexistent statistic. I am a 22 year old cutter who started fairly recently. Actually, I'm in the process of quitting. The point is that there are others in just as much pain. Very good hub. Not downplaying it all - just bringing out my own experience. I cannot imagine starting so young. My conditions were not nearly as evident when I was that young (depression, Borderline Personality Disorder). I guess I am blessed to be dealing at this at an age where I can stop before it gets too out of control. Thanks for the hub! We have to talk about this stuff more!

seamist profile image

seamist  says:
6 months ago

Thank you for your input, Sarah Michelle. You're right, it does need to be talked about more. It's unfortunate so many parents are unaware their children have this problem. My bf is 48 years old, and he still cuts occasionally. I was not aware of it until his daughter told me about it. Yes, I would see the scratches on his arm every once in awhile, but he would say he got scratched by some brush in the woods. Since he is an outdoor person, I never put two and two together. Furthermore, I don't think I was even aware of cutting at the time. Anyway, he is bipolar too.

Since you cut, I hope God blesses you with the support and peace you need to stop. Thank you for sharing.

Daniel Carter profile image

Daniel Carter  says:
6 months ago

Thanks for a great hub. Very well presented and written. Please write lots more on this subject, I think you've hit a really important topic people are looking for. While I'm not a cutter, I know people who are. You're right about the reasons they cut, generally having to do with not being able to resolve feelings which can include self hatred, anger, or even preempting possible discipline from an authority figure. The rationale is that if they do it first, the other person's power over them is lessened somehow.

The root is generally not being able to resolve inner conflict, or how to express it outwardly in a "safe" way. Often there are no words, just feelings, making it very difficult to put it into words.

Thank you again. I'm looking forward to more of your writings.

seamist profile image

seamist  says:
6 months ago

Thank you very much for the nice input, Daniel!

teenadv  says:
2 months ago

Honestly this is just bugging into their lives. Why should parents ahve the right to barge in where they arent wanted and then if teens say something we are told to shut up! Where is the freedom of speech!!!! we are americans to!!!!

seamist profile image

seamist  says:
2 months ago

Hi teenadv

I am not sure how to reply to your comment. If a teen is cutting because they have experienced emotional, physical, or sexual abuse at the hands of their parents, I can understand why a teen would not their parents involved - the trust has already been broken. Although just possibly, maybe the realization of how their behavior is affecting their son or daughter might push them into seeking the help they need. On the other hand, if loving, caring parents are concerned about their teen, most of them aren't trying to infringe on their teen's privacy, it is only natural they want to help. If you're cutting or you know someone who is cutting, the best thing you can do is to encourage them to seek help. It doesn't necessarily have to be a parent. If someone is cutting, they usually have alot of pain inside, and the pain won't go away until they have dealt with whatever is causing it. Thank you for adding your thoughts.

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