You now know he has been having an affair and no matter what type of affair he is having they are all as bad as each other and the consequences of infidelity are devastating.

Once you catch your man cheating, dealing with infidelity is not easy and will take time to recover no matter which route you chose to take!

Firstly, you need to decide, what you are going to do?

Are you going to take him back?

Or are you going to make him leave?

This is one of the biggest decisions anyone will have to make and you should not be hasty about your decision. You need to take your time and consider your options; can you ever trust him again to take him back? I personally think this depends on a number of factors. Firstly, I think we can gain a little insight on the type of affair he had! Believe it or not just because you man has cheated on you doesn't mean he doesn't love you or find you less attractive! But how to find this out for real is almost impossible, as you can't trust a word he says anymore!

Why do men have affairs in the first place?

This depends on the situation they are put in, for example:

An emotional affair is a build up of trust, respect, flirting, sexual tension and the forming of emotional bond.

Unlike a physical, sexual affair where it's just sex no strings attached.

You can clearly see which one of the two is harder to break! Either way, if you decide to take you man back, both of you are going to have to work hard and be patient to get any trust back.

Dealing with infidelity is not an easy process to go through at all. You should just go with your instincts and follow your gut. What I can do is to offer the best advise around and link you up with other websites I have found to help you on you healing process.

Lets look at your options, you need to find out what type of affair he's been having for a little insight of what's going on that mind of his! This is important because, depending on the type of affair he is having, will give you an idea of his situation.

What To Do After An Affair

I bet there are loads of questions running round you head right now!

• What have I done wrong?
• Can I ever trust him again?
• What about the family, the children?
• Why do men have affairs?
• What shall I do next?

You may want to consider why he strayed in the first place! Not for him but for you, this is a massive confidence destroyer and its not easy getting back up.

Friends and family are good listeners but there advice may be emotionally driven because they love and cherish you and hate it when loved ones are hurt. They always mean well and want to help the hurting stop. However their advice is not always logically motivated!

Putting you life back on track is not easy, but you are already one step closer by finding out about his affair.

If you chose to leave him, he may beg and cry for you to take him back. This is your life now he chose not to share it with you the moment he jumped into bed with another women. So think of yourself now. Be strong the hurt won't last forever.

If you chose to take him back, he needs to understand you can't hand back the trust you gave him before and if he is serious about the two of you and wants this to work he has to be patient. For this process is not easy or short lived! But be strong, you can get trough this difficult stage, again it won't last forever.